Ex texted me after 3 months to let me know he is dating someone

[traveler_n]

My ex and I broke up 3 months ago. I broke up with him and felt like I made a mistake so I tried to get back together with him at the time and he refused. He texted me last night after not talking for 3 months to see how I was doing and to tell me he is dating someone. Why would he tell me he is dating someone? He knew that I was pretty bummed after our breakup. He then told me that I'm a great person and he kept telling me to call his mom if I ever need anything. This kind of set me back because I'm trying to move on.

Edited December 26, 2015 by traveler_n

[Strength in Healing]

To try to fill a void that he thinks you created by breaking up with him, but in reality, started long before he met you.

[D.r.e]

My ex and I broke up 3 months ago. I broke up with him and felt like I made a mistake so I tried to get back together with him at the time and he refused. He texted me last night after not talking for 3 months to see how I was doing and to tell me he is dating someone. Why would he tell me he is dating someone? He knew that I was pretty bummed after our breakup. He then told me that I'm a great person and he kept telling me to call his mom if I ever need anything. This kind of set me back because I'm trying to move on.

 

Being dumped is a massive blow to the ego. You know how you feel now? It's probably 10x worse in a lot of cases because you have no control when someone dumps you. By telling you this, he's in some way trying to repair that by making himself feel like he has the control. It's immature

[Marc878]

Why is he not blocked?

 

You dumped him now he wants to rub your nose in it.

[thespacey1]

I agree with the previous poster. He's being very immature.

 

I actually feel like this is merely a ploy to get you to react and make contact. If he's really even dating someone else now it may be just a rebound. Either way,sounds like he's showing his true colors and what he's(not) made of...

 

My ex did something similar. I broke up with him. For almost 9 months , we made contact eith each other ,but I never tried getting back with him. Even though I missed him,I broke up with him because of his temper and jealousy. So he texted me about 2 months ago saying he was going to an event that made him think about me. He didn't need to tell me.I'm wondering why? So I tell him thanks for thinking of me and that it would've been cool if we went together(just to see his response). So he responds saying, " you had your chance with me.. All to yourself ". Ok....I'm like yeah and so why even tell me.

 

Some people just play games due to immaturity and not knowing what to do when someone isn't sweating them or begging them back.

 

Don't take his text too seriously,for your own sanity... IMO it just proves you made the right decision to let him go in the first place.

[casey.lives]

whatever, consider it a blessing to not be stuck in "what if" land. MOVE ON

[The Way I Am]

Apparently he's still hurt enough to want to punish you for breaking up with him.

[NewPerspective93]

Don't think too much about it.

 

It's over, so move on.

[katiegrl]

Apparently he's still hurt enough to want to punish you for breaking up with him.

 

I agree with this ....could he be any more obvious about it?

 

Your response - "Fabulous, hope it works out for ya... :)"

 

Or better yet, just ignore, and block.

 

He is trying to elicit a reaction and jealousy.

 

Immature and stupid.

[Ryan_XD]

It is possible he just told you purely to avoid any hurt to you, if the information came from someone else or if you saw them in the streets a lot of people would get angry with him for not having the balls or the decency to tell you he was seeing someone else.

 

I would've prefered it if my ex-girlfriend would've text me or something just letting me know she's seeing someone and she thought I deserved to know, rather than seeing a status on facebook change...

 

Atleast he's waited 3 months and not 3 days, keep on going - you'll be fine. Time's a great healer!

[Wewon]

Why would he tell me he is dating someone? He knew that I was pretty bummed after our breakup. He then told me that I'm a great person and he kept telling me to call his mom if I ever need anything. This kind of set me back because I'm trying to move on.

 

I've had it done to me, when an ex called to let me know that she was engaged 4 months after a break up. I've done it myself, when I started dating someone after a break up.

 

I think its the need to show people that they made a mistake and show them that you're really 'okay'. I find it hard to believe that everyone can't relate to the impulse, even if they didn't indulge it.

 

Think of the nerdy outcast who goes back to their highschool reunion talking about the fancy start-up company to all of the people that made him feel inadequate.

[The Way I Am]

I think its the need to show people that they made a mistake and show them that you're really 'okay'. I find it hard to believe that everyone can't relate to the impulse, even if they didn't indulge it.

 

Never wanted to do that. If I'm dating someone new, my focus is on them not someone who dumped me. I wouldn't date someone else if I still felt the need to prove something to an ex. It's not fair to the new person.