Kkw99 Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 So my very sweet boyfriend decided to buy me a pair of Nike running shoes for Christmas- something I have wanted for a very very long time. I had mentioned (long before Christmas, when just casually browsing) the ones I liked and were planning to buy myself eventually. The problem is- he got me the wrong ones. The ones he got me are all black, and I really really don't like them. I work in food service and they almost remind me of my safety shoes. I feel so bad for not liking them. I know he was trying to be sweet, and I'm so grateful to him for just the thought, but I had always preferred the coloured ones and these ones just aren't my style, and tbh I thought afterwards "mm, wouldn't he of known that?" I don't know what to do. If I don't tell him, he will notice I'm not wearing them and question me about it because he knows how badly I wanted them for at least a year now- plus i feel bad that he spent a bit of money on something I won't wear. But if I do tell him, I'm so worried I will hurt his feelings, especially because this is our first Christmas together. My mother suggested I tell him they are the wrong size and to get them exchanged- but they are the perfect size and he will know something is up if I get the ones with the same style, size but in a different colour. We are very open and he always tells me to talk to him about anything on my mind but I feel so guilty to the point of tears and I just don't know what to do. I feel so ungrateful, but I know he's tight with money too and I hate the thought of him spending money on something I won't wear that much. Thank you in advance
losangelena Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 Are the colored ones the same money? Can't you just exchange the black ones for the ones you want? I wouldn't make it a big deal to tell him. He got the right shoe in the wrong color. I don't think it'll hurt his feelings if you said you'd rather exchange them for a different color. Start by telling him how thankful you are, and then say something like, "I was wondering how you'd feel if we exchanged them for the colored ones?" 2
Snakechammah Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 As much as you dislike the shoes, think of it as a sentimental gift from him. You can either talk to him about it, be as gentle as possible, or you can keep it in a trophy cabinet, displayed prominently in your room, and never have to wear it. If I were you, no matter how hideous the item is, I'd still wear it if my darling super sweet boyfriend bought it for me - if it's only JUST to show him! You are lucky to have such a thoughtful guy! 1
preraph Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 They probably didn't have them in the color in your size and he did the best he could would be my guess. If I were you, I'd wear them with pride -- and then save up to buy the ones you really want and wear them both. I wouldn't chance hurting his feelings. I'd wear them. Black goes with everything. 1
Qboro90 Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 It's really not a big deal to just exchange them for the ones you want. Tell him that they fit ok but wanted to see if the store had a size bigger/smaller, then once you were there you noticed they had a colored pair you really wanted so you exchanged them for those. He's not going to get upset about it. They're running shoes, not a diamond necklace or jewelry. If it was something like that then I'd say suck it up and wear it, but shoes are an easy thing to exchange and it's not like he put an insane amount of thought into buying a pair of black running shoes. It's nice he remembered, but he didn't get it right. So you have the right to exchange them for the right pair. It's still his money that's being used so it's still his gift to you. 1
newmoon Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 It's really not a big deal to just exchange them for the ones you want. Tell him that they fit ok but wanted to see if the store had a size bigger/smaller, then once you were there you noticed they had a colored pair you really wanted so you exchanged them for those. He's not going to get upset about it. They're running shoes, not a diamond necklace or jewelry. If it was something like that then I'd say suck it up and wear it, but shoes are an easy thing to exchange and it's not like he put an insane amount of thought into buying a pair of black running shoes. It's nice he remembered, but he didn't get it right. So you have the right to exchange them for the right pair. It's still his money that's being used so it's still his gift to you. i like this idea too. unless he's totally into fashion-wear and shoes just mention that the colored ones just came out, like two days ago, and OMG, those would be so much cooler. could you go to the store together asap and get the colored pair before they totally sell out?! not a big deal. don't be sad, be a problem-solver and communicate openly. he'll be fine and want you to be happy.
OldRover Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 You have a wonderful BF as mentioned, and I agree with others that an exchange would be fine. However, talk a bit and see if HE has some special reason for black. If he does, perhaps he thinks they are cool with you xxx pants, shirt or whatever, thinks you look great in that color, etc.... just live with it and wear them at times when he likes them on you. I had a GF that got me some black tennis shoes, just like you, and I kept them because she want me to wear them at some occasions. Why, I don't know and rarely ware them, but just kept them and occasionally I'll wear something that goes with them and she'll comment. Works, but I'll wear my white ones 100 times more. We often buy gifts for people without knowing... and sometimes we just "know" they would like it. Strange. And sometimes that doesn't work.
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