love2ride Posted December 25, 2015 Posted December 25, 2015 My ex and I had a very crazy three year relationship. We had broken up and got back together on three different occasions. Last January I moved back in after being apart for six months. We went to counselling but last August a week before my 40 birthday she kicked me out again. We didn't have a bad relationship no drug or alcohol abuse. No violence or yelling. I can't really pin point what went wrong. We were even engaged for a month before she told me she was done. Anyways a month after our breakup I met someone and thought I was in love. I didn't think about my ex at all. After a month I moved in with her. My ex contacted me when she found out from social media that I was in a relationship. I'm a tattoo artist and she messaged me and said,: " now that your in a relationship will you tattoo me I don't trust anyone else". I didn't reply. A month after that she texted me and told me I had mail at her place. I simply told her that I would change my mailing address and to throw it out. A few weeks after that she contacted me again saying she hoped there was no bad blood between us and wanted to know if I would tattoo her in the future. I said no. About two months ago I started thinking about my ex and woke up with no feelings at all for the girl I was dating. I tried to get them back but they weren't there. I moved out a week ago. Today I'm so depressed. All I can think about is my ex. I wanna message her and say I'm sorry for anything I did. I miss her as my best friend and merry Christmas. When we broke up and she kicked me out I said I never hated someone so much in my entire life and no wonder she had no friends. Should I text her or just go through this pain. The sad thing is I would take her back in a second. Help
Author love2ride Posted December 25, 2015 Author Posted December 25, 2015 I sent her a "Merry Christmas" Feel a little better cause the battle in my head is at least over. Haven't got a reply.
Author love2ride Posted December 25, 2015 Author Posted December 25, 2015 So I got " Merry Ho Ho all the best in 2016 back" I feel horrible I don't know why but a wave of adrenaline and hot flash went through my body when i got it. I feel terrible now I have no idea why. Just seeing her name pop up. I deleted it. **** I can't start missing her and wanting her back. Last time a year ago this time I went through a major depression over her. **** here I am again on this site. I was fine for like 5 months. Why is it starting to hurt now? I don't get it!
Author love2ride Posted December 25, 2015 Author Posted December 25, 2015 So I send a text saying miss u. No reply
NopeNah Posted December 25, 2015 Posted December 25, 2015 So I send a text saying miss u. No reply Break your phone and get a new one Monday. 1
Blanco Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 Had you not mentioned your age, I would assume you're in your early 20's and this is your first serious relationship. Your posts show astonishingly little self-awareness for someone your age. - You've broken up three times already. Most healthy relationships don't include multiple breakups. From my own observations, one breakup is pretty much the ceiling for couples that "made it" or are still together. After that, each breakup only further weakens the bond leading to yet another inevitable breakup. - You opted to take the easy route post breakup by getting involved in a rebound relationship, rather than taking time to be on your own and figure out what happened in your relationship. Which leads to... - You still don't know what led to your breakup, which indicates that you haven't bothered to explore the situation much. Because believe me, if you had, you probably would have an idea of what happened. But since it wasn't something major and obvious, you find yourself still in the dark. - Because you don't know what went wrong, you don't know what role you played in the relationship's demise. How can you work on and improve those weak spots for the next relationship if you don't even know what they were? Honestly, you sound immature for your age. Maybe she is, too. At 40, going for the scorched earth approach (i.e. the things you said to her when she kicked you out) just adds to this perception. If you're going to think about her, think about why the relationship failed three times. You want her back now because you're lonely. You never took the time to properly heal from the breakup, so congratulations, you get to do it now. Sounds like you've got quite a few things to work on before you entertain entering another relationship. 1
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