JimmyJones89 Posted December 25, 2015 Posted December 25, 2015 (edited) Ill start at the beginning but try and keep it brief. I worked with this girl along time ago, we had a good laugh at work etc. Then she went to uni, got a bf etc. After uni she comes back and i see her now and again round town, we always have a friendly chat. Anyway a few months ago i see her on tinder and we match. I say hi, how are you, we know each other already so we should just go out. She agrees. She was just about to go on holiday tho so i send her my number and tell her to message me when she's back. She comes back from hols and i get no message. A month passes, i see her out in town and we chat and i then put my number in her phone telling her to message me but i get nothing. Anyway 2 days ago i send her a message over tinder saying we really need to go out (we have mutual friends and they have told her id be good for her). I send her my number and this time she send a message. We talk a fair bit the next couple days and she tells me she's really shy when it comes to dating and that id have to look after her. We was texting now and again last night and mine was the last one sent. Then at lunch time today i get a message saying merry christmas with a kiss. Ignoring everything in my text before. I replied about 2 hrs later with merry christmas, hope you're having a good day? No reply....... Is she getting the jitters again and just going to ghost me or am i just someone who reads into a situation far too much?? Been hard trying to get back in the dating game Edited December 25, 2015 by JimmyJones89
ExpatInItaly Posted December 25, 2015 Posted December 25, 2015 She's not that interested. If she were, it wouldn't have taken that many attempts from you to get a conversation going. I'd just leave it. 3
Buddhist Posted December 25, 2015 Posted December 25, 2015 Stop texting for God sake! You saw her out in town and even put your number in her phone. What the hell was wrong with setting up a date there and then? I think we're actually seeing the end of the human race developing. Pretty soon no-one will be having sex because everyone's waiting for a sodding txt! My God I just can't believe how thick the current generation is.
basil67 Posted December 25, 2015 Posted December 25, 2015 If you're keen to go on a date, you ASK HER out. Telling her to call you is only advisable if you really don't care either way whether a dates comes about. As for her ignoring everything in a previous text. Sheesh. If you want acknowledgement of something you said, have a real face-to-face conversation. You're making life far too hard for yourself.
Radarsat Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 I'm kind of with ExpatInItaly on this one. She's probably not that into you. However, I agree with other posts saying, just be blunt and directly ask her out dude. Maybe just one more stab at it, but in all likelihood, if she was interested, you would probably know about it from her behaviour.
Heracles Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 She is just enjoying the attention as an ego boost. She is not interested in you. Do your best to just cut her off completely. When you see her, if you can't avoid talking to her, be courteous, brief and be on your merry way or else, she will play with your feelings and tease you to death.
angel.eyes Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 (edited) You've made it clear in no uncertain terms that you would like to date her. If she were interested in dating you, you wouldn't have to remind her repeatedly. She certainly wouldn't ignore some of your attempts. Whether her friends feel you should date is totally irrelevant. I would stop asking at this point. You did the right thing to follow up a few times after you made initial contact on Tinder. Unfortunately, since it's been a "few months" of not getting an actual date, her actions indicate that she doesn't want to date you. Nothing you did wrong, Jimmy, but it's time to let this go. Text her "We're going to the movies or mini golfing or whatever this weekend". Simple. If she is interested, she will agree or counter with a time that works for her. You don't tell a woman "We really need to go out". That's just pathetic. Go out where? The moon? The sky? Heaven? If she were interested, she would move the conversation along when he said we should go out. Examples: And when would that be?What did you have in mind?This new place opened up that I would like to try. Radio silence, excuses about being busy, going away on holiday, not following up, etc. for months when he keeps trying equals "no thanks" and "not interested in you that way." Edited December 26, 2015 by angel.eyes 2
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