Stopped Responding Out of No Where

[Reitteg813]

So this girl and I have been hanging out and talking for a bit over a month. Ever since we started talking we've hung out every weekend, besides the last cause she was extremely busy with finals,work, training. Every time we hang out its great, made out every time and just cuddled an watched a movie last two times after going out and doing something together, no sex yet, we get along great in terms of chemistry and such. This Monday she asks me if I'm busy Tuesday cause she wants to hang out. I say I am and say how about Wednesday. Next day we set up plans for wednesday, just 6 hours after making plans she cancels, actually a legit excuse that I believed. Didn't talk Wednesday, called her twice within 3 hours Thursday and she didn't answer. Haven't heard from her since Tuesday and it's Friday. I've NEVER had something like this happen so suddenly after things going so great, especially after her making plans just the day before. I now plan on not contacting her in any way until I hear from her, if I ever do, if not oh well, no biggie, it was only a bit over a month of hanging out. But just curious if this has happened to any of you guys and did you ever hear from her? I feel like not contacting her at all in anyway usually works. It may take a 1-3 weeks but I'm not sure if I'd want to see her after that.

 

And I know you guys are going to say she's talking to another guy, but highly doubt it. with how busy she is she barely has time for a social life. 2 jobs, school, gym, and training for a job in the future. She doesn't drink, smoke, doesn't go out to party, takes the gym seriously, so it's not like she's out at the bars every weekend meeting new guys.

[hippychick3]

So this girl and I have been hanging out and talking for a bit over a month. Ever since we started talking we've hung out every weekend, besides the last cause she was extremely busy with finals,work, training. Every time we hang out its great, made out every time and just cuddled an watched a movie last two times after going out and doing something together, no sex yet, we get along great in terms of chemistry and such. This Monday she asks me if I'm busy Tuesday cause she wants to hang out. I say I am and say how about Wednesday. Next day we set up plans for wednesday, just 6 hours after making plans she cancels, actually a legit excuse that I believed. Didn't talk Wednesday, called her twice within 3 hours Thursday and she didn't answer. Haven't heard from her since Tuesday and it's Friday. I've NEVER had something like this happen so suddenly after things going so great, especially after her making plans just the day before. I now plan on not contacting her in any way until I hear from her, if I ever do, if not oh well, no biggie, it was only a bit over a month of hanging out. But just curious if this has happened to any of you guys and did you ever hear from her? I feel like not contacting her at all in anyway usually works. It may take a 1-3 weeks but I'm not sure if I'd want to see her after that.

 

And I know you guys are going to say she's talking to another guy, but highly doubt it. with how busy she is she barely has time for a social life. 2 jobs, school, gym, and training for a job in the future. She doesn't drink, smoke, doesn't go out to party, takes the gym seriously, so it's not like she's out at the bars every weekend meeting new guys.

 

Well how did she meet you considering how busy she is?

 

It's amazing how much a person can juggle when they really like someone. It sounds like there's another guy who she probably met the same way she met you. Sorry

[Reitteg813]

Well how did she meet you considering how busy she is?

 

It's amazing how much a person can juggle when they really like someone. It sounds like there's another guy who she probably met the same way she met you. Sorry

 

Hate to say this, but Tinder lol. I told my self id never actually use it but this girl was very attractive and we had a ton in common before we even hung out and got to know each other better. But she told me she deleted it cause how weird guys are on it. But of course she could have been lying.

 

Don't be sorry lol. All a learning experience and you just say **** it and move on. There's over 7 billion people in this world, not worried. Just odd how extremely sudden it was. Literally in the matter of hours it changed

[hippychick3]

Hate to say this, but Tinder lol. I told my self id never actually use it but this girl was very attractive and we had a ton in common before we even hung out and got to know each other better. But she told me she deleted it cause how weird guys are on it. But of course she could have been lying.

 

Don't be sorry lol. All a learning experience and you just say **** it and move on. There's over 7 billion people in this world, not worried. Just odd how extremely sudden it was. Literally in the matter of hours it changed

 

She probably lied about deleting Tinder. A month is not enough time to know someone. It's good you saw her flakiness before getting too attached. Good attitude you have about the 7 billion other people in the world. I'm sure you'll find way better ones out there!

[GemmaUK]

She's only been out of touch a couple of days, those days are Thursday and Friday which happen to be Christmas Eve and Christmas Day.

Maybe she is busy with family?

Some people leave their phones alone when doing other things and when they're with people. I certainly do.

[hippychick3]

She's only been out of touch a couple of days, those days are Thursday and Friday which happen to be Christmas Eve and Christmas Day.

Maybe she is busy with family?

Some people leave their phones alone when doing other things and when they're with people. I certainly do.

 

True, but it takes 5 seconds to text someone "hey, busy with family!" after he called her twice.

[Wewon]

This Monday she asks me if I'm busy Tuesday cause she wants to hang out. I say I am and say how about Wednesday. Next day we set up plans for wednesday, just 6 hours after making plans she cancels, actually a legit excuse that I believed. Didn't talk Wednesday, called her twice within 3 hours Thursday and she didn't answer. Haven't heard from her since Tuesday and it's Friday.

 

This is strange and barring a death in the family inexcusable.

 

I would go with your plan on not contacting her again, I see this type of behavior as a sign of who they are and fits the adage, "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice shame on me."

[Reitteg813]

Both of you are right. Idk. Just see how not contacting her at all goes. I'd say maybe play hard to get but I highly doubt it. People talk to who they want to talk to. She's 19 and I'm 23 so she might not be mature enough to stop with the game playing and stuff. Hutnindidnt think that's it. In the past she's taken over a day to respond to my texts. We sometimes go a day without talking either.

[Reitteg813]

This is strange and barring a death in the family inexcusable.

 

I would go with your plan on not contacting her again, I see this type of behavior as a sign of who they are and fits the adage, "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice shame on me."

 

Yeah...extremely odd. Even more since she was the one that initiated the making of plans just a day earlier

 

Usually when things are coming to an end with a girl you can tell. The texting becomes less, the texts are shorter, response time is longer, but this was just completely out of no where and in just hours she decided to cancel after she was the one that wanted to hang out

[katiegrl]

So this girl and I have been hanging out and talking for a bit over a month. Ever since we started talking we've hung out every weekend, besides the last cause she was extremely busy with finals,work, training. Every time we hang out its great, made out every time and just cuddled an watched a movie last two times after going out and doing something together, no sex yet, we get along great in terms of chemistry and such. This Monday she asks me if I'm busy Tuesday cause she wants to hang out. I say I am and say how about Wednesday. Next day we set up plans for wednesday, just 6 hours after making plans she cancels, actually a legit excuse that I believed. Didn't talk Wednesday, called her twice within 3 hours Thursday and she didn't answer. Haven't heard from her since Tuesday and it's Friday. I've NEVER had something like this happen so suddenly after things going so great, especially after her making plans just the day before. I now plan on not contacting her in any way until I hear from her, if I ever do, if not oh well, no biggie, it was only a bit over a month of hanging out. But just curious if this has happened to any of you guys and did you ever hear from her? I feel like not contacting her at all in anyway usually works. It may take a 1-3 weeks but I'm not sure if I'd want to see her after that.

 

And I know you guys are going to say she's talking to another guy, but highly doubt it. with how busy she is she barely has time for a social life. 2 jobs, school, gym, and training for a job in the future. She doesn't drink, smoke, doesn't go out to party, takes the gym seriously, so it's not like she's out at the bars every weekend meeting new guys.

 

Maybe when you said you were busy Tuesday, she thought YOU had another date.

 

Which you every right to have, but some girls are funny that way ...over-sensitive.

 

She may have told her friends you turned her down, and her friends convinced her you were some sort of player or something.

 

So she cancelled your Wednesday date and is blowing you off because of something she is imagining and/or her friends have convinced her of.

 

I'm not kidding, a girl's *friends* can be vicious ...jealous, don't trust men, think they are all players, whatevs.

 

I mean, since this happened pretty much immediately after you turned her down for Tuesday, I bet that's the reason.

 

Did you meet her on-line? Is your profile still active? Have you been checking it?

 

Girls are *funny* about that too.

[GR4]

This happens almost every time with me as well.

 

Men are logical, if we decide we like someone then that feeling won't really change. Women are more emotional unfortunately and therefore their feelings tend to flip flop for no apparent reason.

 

The society we live in these days also doesn't help. It's become the norm for a woman to reject a man by ignoring him.

[Reitteg813]

Maybe when you said you were busy Tuesday, she thought YOU had another date.

 

Which you every right to have, but some girls are funny that way ...over-sensitive.

 

She may have told her friends you turned her down, and her friends convinced her you were some sort of player or something.

 

So she cancelled your Wednesday date and is blowing you off because of something she is imagining and/or her friends have convinced her of.

 

I'm not kidding, a girl's *friends* can be vicious ...jealous, don't trust men, think they are all players, whatevs.

 

I mean, since this happened pretty much immediately after you turned her down for Tuesday, I bet that's the reason.

 

Did you meet her on-line? Is your profile still active? Have you been checking it?

 

Girls are *funny* about that too.

 

Yeah I've been wondering if one of her best friends told her something. Cause she just came home from college, she go to school in a different state so they don't get to see each other much, and I know they hung out the day we were supposed to. And yeah, met her online unfortunately lol, but you can't see when they were last on. She told me she deleted hers

[Wewon]

She's only been out of touch a couple of days, those days are Thursday and Friday which happen to be Christmas Eve and Christmas Day.

Maybe she is busy with family?

Some people leave their phones alone when doing other things and when they're with people. I certainly do.

 

There are a lot of circumstance under which I would normally agree with this. I also turn my phone off or charge it in the other room etc.

 

However, this is immediately after making plans and then radio silence, it seems odd to do that.

[katiegrl]

Yeah I've been wondering if one of her best friends told her something. Cause she just came home from college, she go to school in a different state so they don't get to see each other much, and I know they hung out the day we were supposed to. And yeah, met her online unfortunately lol, but you can't see when they were last on.

 

 

 

 

**She told me she deleted hers

 

^^ And in response, did you tell her you deleted yours?

 

THAT would have been the only *acceptable* response in her (and her friends) 'minds.

 

It was a test to see if you were still on-line and possibly dating others.

 

So what did you say in response?

 

She sounds insecure, and her blowing you off now is a knee jerk reaction to her thinking you "may" be playing her.

 

Just out of curiosity, why could you not make the date on Tuesday? If you did NOT have another date and instead had a previous obligation, did you tell her that? Not that you did not have date, but a previous obligation?

 

Not that you need to be accountable to her at this early stage, but like I said, girls are weird about stuff like that.

 

Over-sensitive, over-thinking, over-emotional, jump to conclusions, afraid of being played, etc etc etc!

 

I am a women, and I know this! It happens when we really REALLY like a guy!

 

Things are often times NOT what they appear to be (that SHE met another guy).

Edited December 25, 2015 by katiegrl

[Reitteg813]

^^ And in response, did you tell her you deleted yours?

 

THAT would have been the only *acceptable* response in her (and her friends) 'minds.

 

It was a test to see if you were still on-line and possibly dating others.

 

So what did you say in response?

 

She sounds insecure, and her blowing you off now is a knee jerk reaction to her thinking you "may" be playing her.

 

Just out of curiosity, why could you not make the date on Tuesday? If you did NOT have another date and instead had a previous obligation, did you tell her that? Not that you did not have date, but a previous obligation?

 

Not that you need to be accountable to her at this early stage, but like I said, girls are weird about stuff like that.

 

Over-sensitive, over-thinking, over-emotional, jump to conclusions, afraid of being played, etc etc etc!

 

I am a women, and I know this! It happens when we really REALLY like a guy!

 

Things are often times NOT what they appear to be (that SHE met another guy).

 

You can read above why I highly doubt she met another guy. And especially since it was just 6 hours between us making plans and her cancelling. Something happened in that short time frame. But yes I told her I had work and Wednesday worked better for both of us. And when she told me she deleted her profile that was on our second time hanging out. I didn't say anything when she said that. But it didn't seem to bother her cause we had a great time and we hung out since and things got better each time we hung out

[katiegrl]

You can read above why I highly doubt she met another guy. And especially since it was just 6 hours between us making plans and her cancelling. Something happened in that short time frame. But yes I told her I had work and Wednesday worked better for both of us. And when she told me she deleted her profile that was on our second time hanging out. I didn't say anything when she said that. But it didn't seem to bother her cause we had a great time and we hung out since and things got better each time we hung out

 

That is what I said ...that I DON'T think it was another guy.

 

You said it is something else...yes I agree.

 

I think you should call her and find out...

[Reitteg813]

That is what I said ...that I DON'T think it was another guy.

 

You said it is something else...yes I agree.

 

I think you should call her and find out...

 

 

Oh my bad, read that wrong. Yeah I don't know. I tried calling twice yesterday. No answer. Not going to devalue my self and look desperate and keep calling. You're a girl so this may be a good thing to ask you, you think not contacting her at all in any way would be the best plan. And not even viewing or liking anything on social media as well? She's a 19 year old girl, probably loves the attention. If I go no contact, don't view snapchat stories a, no likes on any social media, no text or calls, j think that'll have her curious. This usually works. It may take 1-3 weeks but j find they usually come back, and from guys I've seen doing this. She's probably used to guys bothering her and asking her what's wrong all the time when she ends things but I'm not falling into that. She also doesn't seem to have that much experience with guys just from what I've seen

[katiegrl]

Oh my bad, read that wrong. Yeah I don't know. I tried calling twice yesterday. No answer. Not going to devalue my self and look desperate and keep calling. You're a girl so this may be a good thing to ask you, you think not contacting her at all in any way would be the best plan. And not even viewing or liking anything on social media as well? She's a 19 year old girl, probably loves the attention. If I go no contact, don't view snapchat stories a, no likes on any social media, no text or calls, j think that'll have her curious. This usually works. It may take 1-3 weeks but j find they usually come back, and from guys I've seen doing this. She's probably used to guys bothering her and asking her what's wrong all the time when she ends things but I'm not falling into that. She also doesn't seem to have that much experience with guys just from what I've seen

 

I actually do agree with what you plan to do.

 

You have reached out TWICE ...that is enough.

 

Now you pull back and disappear.

 

If she likes you, yes she will wonder and perhaps start second guessing her decision to blow you off...

 

Sooooooo many stories like that on here.

 

Girl over-reacts, dumps the guy, then a couple of weeks later, second guesses her decision and tries to reconnect.

 

She is only 19....this is to be expected. Her emotions are in high gear....and her reactions impulsive and often times irrational!

[Reitteg813]

I actually do agree with what you plan to do.

 

You have reached out TWICE ...that is enough.

 

Now you pull back and disappear.

 

If she likes you, yes she will wonder and perhaps start second guessing her decision to blow you off...

 

Sooooooo many stories like that on here.

 

Girl over-reacts, dumps the guy, then a couple of weeks later, second guesses her decision and tries to reconnect.

 

She is only 19....this is to be expected. Her emotions are in high gear....and her reactions impulsive and often times irrational!

 

True. A lot going on in her life now as well. I'll wait it out and see. Thank you for your input

[truth_seeker]

Maybe when you said you were busy Tuesday, she thought YOU had another date.

 

Which you every right to have, but some girls are funny that way ...over-sensitive.

 

She may have told her friends you turned her down, and her friends convinced her you were some sort of player or something.

 

So she cancelled your Wednesday date and is blowing you off because of something she is imagining and/or her friends have convinced her of.

 

I'm not kidding, a girl's *friends* can be vicious ...jealous, don't trust men, think they are all players, whatevs.

 

I mean, since this happened pretty much immediately after you turned her down for Tuesday, I bet that's the reason.

 

Did you meet her on-line? Is your profile still active? Have you been checking it?

 

Girls are *funny* about that too.

 

Good advice here. You cancel Tuesday, she thinks to herself: "I'll cancel Wednesday."

 

Girls in general can be vicious. Not just their friends, but co-workers, relatives... to be fair, same with guys, too. Two people could like each other, but other women get jealous and try to sabotage... other guys like the girl, and try to sabotage so they can get the girl... people can really suck.

[Reitteg813]

Good advice here. You cancel Tuesday, she thinks to herself: "I'll cancel Wednesday."

 

Girls in general can be vicious. Not just their friends, but co-workers, relatives... to be fair, same with guys, too. Two people could like each other, but other women get jealous and try to sabotage... other guys like the girl, and try to sabotage so they can get the girl... people can really suck.

 

I don't think it was that. I didn't really cancel for Tuesday I just told her Wednesday would work better. And I still haven't heard from her since: I haven't tried contacting her since either. And I never will. I really can't think of anything that would have changed her mind about this in just matter of hours of making plans. Extremely odd.

[hippychick3]

I don't think anything you did warranted her to become so hurt that she would ignore you for this long. I still believe she had another guy in the background and is seeing how it will work with him. She may come back to you when he doesn't work out and at that point, I wouldn't bother with her again.

[Reitteg813]

I don't think anything you did warranted her to become so hurt that she would ignore you for this long. I still believe she had another guy in the background and is seeing how it will work with him. She may come back to you when he doesn't work out and at that point, I wouldn't bother with her again.

 

 

You're probably right. Maybe, idk. She's just so damn busy though that I don't see how she would have the time to juggle around with two guys and all the stuff she has going on. And just how often she initiated text convo's with me, and how her phone never went off whenever we hung out, she'd just leave it right besides her face up, she didn't care, but who knows. And we hung out every weekend from the start of us talking, and on the one weekend night we didn't hang out, she's usually be texting me and end the convo saying goodnight. Doesn't matter anymore. Just strange and never seen anything like this happen.

 

And yeah I know I did nothing wrong at all. Especially with how great things were

 

Her and I do live almost an hour and a half away from each other, but neither of us minded the drive. It's not that bad, but maybe she found a guy much closer where she doesn't have to drive that far. Idk

[truth_seeker]

I don't think anything you did warranted her to become so hurt that she would ignore you for this long. I still believe she had another guy in the background and is seeing how it will work with him. She may come back to you when he doesn't work out and at that point, I wouldn't bother with her again.

 

This could be it.

 

I was on Tinder and connected with this girl. It was going well but then just died. I didn't really care too much as it was Tinder, but a couple of weeks later she messaged me and told me sorry for not being around and wanted to go out.

 

It was pretty obvious what had happened: she liked me enough as an option, and had other guys higher on her totem pole. When they didn't work out, she came back to me.

 

My advice to you OP: forget her. I say this because if she had you as a back up then you'll never be her guy. She'll always be looking for that guy and only hold onto you until she finds him.

[Reitteg813]

This could be it.

 

I was on Tinder and connected with this girl. It was going well but then just died. I didn't really care too much as it was Tinder, but a couple of weeks later she messaged me and told me sorry for not being around and wanted to go out.

 

It was pretty obvious what had happened: she liked me enough as an option, and had other guys higher on her totem pole. When they didn't work out, she came back to me.

 

My advice to you OP: forget her. I say this because if she had you as a back up then you'll never be her guy. She'll always be looking for that guy and only hold onto you until she finds him.

 

Yeah I have a feeling she'll text me back eventually after I just don't contact her at all in anyway. 19 year old girls and women in general love attention. She used to guys constantly complimenting her, trying to get with her, and stuff like that but she seems pretty picky so she'll probably wonder why I only called and gave up after that. But yeah no way I'd take her back

Edited December 26, 2015 by Reitteg813