I have moved on and am happy, but ex still pops up in thoughts sometimes

[inrepair]

My ex of a little over a year broke things off about 4 months ago and I was initially pretty devastated. However, I haven't had any contact since a week after the breakup and after learning she had been checking out for some time (despite verbally saying otherwise), I found it much easier to let go and move on.

 

I have been dating this new girl for a month now and already I have discovered she is a much better fit than my ex. This girl put more thought into my birthday after a month of dating than my ex did after 4 months of dating last year.

 

I like this new girl a lot and have a great time with her, but now and then memories/thoughts of my ex pop up. They're NOT thoughts about getting back together or thoughts of missing her, but more so just thoughts of curiosity. Like what is she up to? How has she been? Does she ever think about me?

 

As I said, there's no desire to get back with her, but I still subconsciously think about her from time to time. Is this normal?

[NewPerspective93]

It's normal, just let go of the thoughts as they come because they're just thoughts.

 

Think of yourself as a kid with a jar and your thoughts as fireflies; they'll pass through unless if you decide to stop and catch them.