How do I get him back?

[confusedgirl16]

My boyfriend and I recently broke up. After the breakup, I was just done with him since this was the third time it had occurred. I thought I was completely over him so shortly after I kind of hooked up with another guy, twice. The first time we were both drunk, so I was more chill about it and just thought it was fine. However, the second time I was sober and I got upset shortly right after the whole thing. I realized that I really wanted my ex back. I told my ex that I had hooked up with someone else, but that I really did want him back and that the other guy meant nothing to me. My ex was heartbroken and told me that he did not want me back because of what i did. I was crushed because my ex told me that his feelings for me have increased since we broke up and that he really does want to be with me but he just can't get over what I did. I let a few days go by and then contacted my ex again. This time, he wasn't 100% opposed to the idea of us trying things again but said that we should both move on and maybe we could start over one day, just not now. My ex has already kissed four girls since he found out about the other guy but he said he still does love me and really want to be with me. I don't know if I should keep on pouring my heart out to him in hopes of getting him back or just let him do his own thing for a while and then talk to him in a few weeks/ a month. I don't want him to forget about me and move on from me, I just want him to move on from the fact that I was with another guy. How can I get him back??

[Amelie1980]

Youve already broken up three times?

 

Just leave it and the destructive cycle will probably begin again.

[hippychick3]

Let go and move on. The fact that you've already broken up three times (regardless of the reasons why) show that you are not compatible. Forget about trying to get him back. Go no contact, get through the inevitable (and necessary) pain from the breakup, and learn from your mistakes so your next relationship can be successful.