fearfacmh Posted June 1, 2005 Posted June 1, 2005 This has absolutley been the worst year of my life. Before this year I was so happy and everything was perfect. I had a beautiful amazing girlfriend for 4 years who I was going to marry. Little did i know she slept with 2 guys and would give me herpes. I dealt with that it took 4 months. I was a mess, but I survived. Then I met a girl who I dated for 3 months. She was cool now I realize not the one for me though. We had fun and she accepted my herpes we had a good time. Then her ex-boyfriend (her first Love) dies in a car accident. It was horrible. I tried to help her and I tried to make her better. She just didn't want it. She's a mess now drinks and smokes everyday. It hurt me so much to see her just rot away. What are the chances of 2 just awful things like this happening to a truly good person in a matter of 6 months? It gets worse. There was this girl at my work who I've sorta had a crush on for a while. I"m 25 and she's 19 and she happens to be engaged. She clearly is too to be getting married. I tried so hard not to let anything happen between us but it did. She was just so enamoured with me and I couldn't help it. We didn't have sex but we did everything else. She was certain she was leaving her boyfriend. It's not like me to do something like this. I mean I know she was cheating but I truly was falling in love with her and I know and she knows she would be better with me. We are totally in love and she told her fiance she was leaving him about a week ago. I was happy. I really truely connect with this girl. Well anyways to make a long story short she comes in today and she says she's positive she's pregant with his baby. Of course she wouldn't consider abortion. So thats that I guess. She goes back to him. After it was so certain she was not happy with him and she was going to be with me. What the hell do I do? I just found this out today. I just can't even deal with this. I dont deserve this. how could 3 terrible things happen to me like this? God help me Fearfac
North Shore Posted June 2, 2005 Posted June 2, 2005 Okay, the first thing about your gf of 4 yrs cheating on you and giving you herpes sucks for you and sucks hard. My condolences and support there. But I think you're being a bit selfish on the other 2 things. Firstly, it was the young lady's first love that died, not yours, and her suffering isn't something that happened to you - it's happening to her. The man that died and the ones that loved him are WAY worse off than you are. So stop feeling sorry for yourself on that one. You seem to have moved on just fine from your "loss" by dating the co-worker. Which brings me to #3. SHE got pregnant and went back to the father. SHE's stuck in what is essentially a loveless relationship now. You didn't get pregnant and you didn't make her pregnant. Yeah, it sucks that you lost someone that could have been a great relationship, and I'm sorry for that, but I must emphasize the "could" on this one. You weren't with her long enough for you to know how well you would have worked together. And I, for one, think you may have lucked out by NOT getting in too deep with another woman prone to cheating on her SO. So suck it up buddy. You're better off than you know
Weird Posted June 2, 2005 Posted June 2, 2005 My simple piece of advice: Give up the chicks for a while. See how your life is being single and not revolving it around pussy. Sorry to be blunt but it's the truth. Seems too many guys seem to think their whole life can only be validated by women and if they are having women issues they think their life is crap. Yikes. Shame you let that girl cheat with you when you were a victim of your ex cheating on you and most likely knew it's wrong...don't like that son.
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