jsmith92 Posted December 24, 2015 Posted December 24, 2015 Hi all, I think the way I'm feeling is really effecting my relationship. I'm not sure if it is depression but I have just been feeling really down and lost the last 8 weeks and it is starting to cause silly issues between myself and my girlfriend. 8 weeks ago I left my job being told that a mate of mine had work elsewhere he could get me. It was a job I was in for 3 years and had been saying for a while I wanted to leave and I finally did it and handed in my notice. I quit my job but the job I initially thought I was going into became unavailable and it has now been 8 weeks that I have been unemployed. I have had three interviews but narrowly missed out on two of them. I am becoming anxious about my future, im bored every day and I have a feeling of not being good enough for my girlfriend at the minute. She assures me that it will all be fine soon and she has been very supportive however it is something that I just cannot shake and stop worrying about. I don't live with my girlfriend however I see her most nights and most of the time we are fine but little issues appear out of nowhere and I think most of it is down to the situation I currently find myself in. I want to be doing everything I can for us but while I cant I just beat myself up about it and feel useless. I have asked her to maybe give us some space for a few days just so I can think about what im going through, how I am acting and just generally giving us some space, im frustrated in my current position and I am taking it out on her a lot of the time when I don't want to be. Does anyone have any advice on how I can handle this better? Its my problem that I will solve in time hopefully sooner rather then later but it is causing unnecessary problems for us at the minute.
mlpony Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 Hi all, I think the way I'm feeling is really effecting my relationship. I'm not sure if it is depression but I have just been feeling really down and lost the last 8 weeks and it is starting to cause silly issues between myself and my girlfriend. 8 weeks ago I left my job being told that a mate of mine had work elsewhere he could get me. It was a job I was in for 3 years and had been saying for a while I wanted to leave and I finally did it and handed in my notice. I quit my job but the job I initially thought I was going into became unavailable and it has now been 8 weeks that I have been unemployed. I have had three interviews but narrowly missed out on two of them. I am becoming anxious about my future, im bored every day and I have a feeling of not being good enough for my girlfriend at the minute. She assures me that it will all be fine soon and she has been very supportive however it is something that I just cannot shake and stop worrying about. I don't live with my girlfriend however I see her most nights and most of the time we are fine but little issues appear out of nowhere and I think most of it is down to the situation I currently find myself in. I want to be doing everything I can for us but while I cant I just beat myself up about it and feel useless. I have asked her to maybe give us some space for a few days just so I can think about what im going through, how I am acting and just generally giving us some space, im frustrated in my current position and I am taking it out on her a lot of the time when I don't want to be. Does anyone have any advice on how I can handle this better? Its my problem that I will solve in time hopefully sooner rather then later but it is causing unnecessary problems for us at the minute. Based on what you are saying, it sounds like you are handling this well. Unemployment can be a really stressful time and it's not unusual to feel down on yourself or want space. Even if you have to take a break from the relationship until you find a job, that is ok. You need to take care of yourself. Explain that to her. You seem like an intelligent person who is trying your best to find a job. Just keep looking. You will find something in time. Keep up hope and take a class if that is offered. Everything will be ok.
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