RD Alpha Posted December 24, 2015 Posted December 24, 2015 (edited) I've only experienced failure in regards to romance and relationships. I've never kissed anyone and mostly get rejected. There's this girl who I've never talked to and I've been interested in her for a while now. Yesterday I saw her in the club where people in my city go to have fun. From what I know she is a really good person and has great values. She is really popular and pretty, so she gets a lot of attention. Yesterday an stereotypical older and rich "pretty boy" was flirting with her. This kind of guys are really confident and appealing, therefore they have "game" and are really smooth. Those are the kind of guys that flirt with her. I don't really know if she likes them or not, I don't even know her. I'm shy, socially awkward, not that tall, insecure, not that popular, and not that smooth. If this was a movie, I would be the "geek" or "nice" guy" that is in love with the popular girl. And if reality was this way, I would actually have more chances because movies have their own magic. But life is completely different. During all the time I've been interested in her, I've told so many people about it that think I ended up being perceived a stalker or a creep because they may have told her about me being interested. It sucks. I've lost so many battles and I don't want to add another failure to the list. I consider my particular set of values worthy of attention, but people think otherwise. I've experienced many things that made me into the person I am today. I wish I knew how to achieve the goal of talking to her. Sometimes I feel that any attempt will make look creepy or awkward. I don't know what I'm looking with this post. Perhaps validation or a similar story with a happy ending. P.S: I'm 23 years old. I don't like drinking or smoking, but I like reading, sports, and music. I think I suffer from depression (not sure though, I'll have to get myself checked first). I do suffer from anxiety, low self steem, and probably a little bit of social anxiety. These are some facts that will put my situation in perspective. Edited December 24, 2015 by RD Alpha
brokengirl85 Posted December 24, 2015 Posted December 24, 2015 Hi No happy ending here. I've always been a shy girl madly in love with the popular guy at school. In my mind, I imagined he secretly loved me but that something was preventing him to approach to me. Years passed and he had several girlfriends. He never wanted to have anything to do with me. So, think you will not be an exception. I don't think a popular girl will want to go out with a geek or creep (as you defined yourself). Try to see a counselor and address your depression and anxiety problems. Try also to relate to girls that have something in common with you, someone who likes to read etc. Good luck
Author RD Alpha Posted December 25, 2015 Author Posted December 25, 2015 (edited) I think I exaggerated a little bit with the "geek" part. What I really meant is that I'm like the geek among my friends, who have better luck with girls and actually know this girl. It's funny how I am the only one that doesn't formally know her. I'm not super popular, but I'm not unpopular. I know a fair amount of people, but I'm not really friends with them. She's not the popular-bitchy type of girl that likes to party, but a good and smart church girl who is also popular. I want to believe that she's not out of my league (if leagues actually exist). In regards to the creep part, it's just a perception that I have for not being able to handle the situation confidently. Out of my own insecurities I thought that telling people about my interest in her would actually help my case, because they would establish some kind of connection between the girl and I. She obviously knows who I am, because the people that knew definitely told her about it. My biggest fear is that she actually thinks I'm a creep. I don't know what to do. Moving on would be the conventional choice, but as I mentioned, I've been rejected many times and I don't want to lose another battle. My love life sucks. And I'm tired of being told "You'll find the right girl", it's so freaking condescending. For the first time in my life, I want to get the girl I really want. I know it takes confidence, but the problem lies on actually being confident and doing what you have to do. My poor social skills and lack of social appeal have lead me to a lonely life. I have few friends and I feel like an outcast among them. Basically I've experienced rejection in many areas of my life. I really like this girl and I don't want to keep losing. Edited December 25, 2015 by RD Alpha
NopeNah Posted December 25, 2015 Posted December 25, 2015 Didn't read all posts: Why do you think you suffer from depression?
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