Satu Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 Being drunk isn't a mitigating factor. Ask any judge... Time for deep self-reflection. Consider therapy. Take care.
katiegrl Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 (edited) No. ---- ** I don't automatically blame the man but most often the abuser in a relationship is the male.**** ---- But if you want to find out who's the abuser just look for the one who is the controller. Abuse is all about control. There are women who are ghastly abusers and they're usually so much worse because they tend to resort to covert tactics. But men who are abused most often don't have a clue they're being abused and it's rare that they'll look for help. Quote above in asterisk --JC this is simply not true. Women can be equally if not more physically abusive ...but it goes unreported because of the stigma and negative implications towards the man ...for allowing himself to be abused. Also, the police, the courts, society are not as sympathetic when the man is abused, because he the MAN, and should therefore be the stronger person. So it goes unreported, out of concern he will be viewed as weak. The OP's boyfriend did the right thing by leaving the RL....but do you think he will report it? No way! For the reasons stated above..and because, just like you did, concern that HE will be accused of provoking her. So it would appear men are most often the abuser, but the fact is when men are abused, it goes unreported, and that is why we don't hear about it as often, if at all, as when the woman is abused. Edited December 26, 2015 by katiegrl 2
StBreton Posted December 26, 2015 Posted December 26, 2015 (edited) The logic is pure conjecture. I'd like more information. Something was seriously wrong in the relationship to begin with in order for Cinders to go off her nut and do the one thing that is an absolute deal breaker for her. The assault ended the relationship. But I think it was merely the straw that broke the camel's back. Jelli Something is wrong with Cinders more like. If she is this frustrated and near her breaking point ...time to walk away...from the relationship or the argument till cooler heads prevail (though judgement is impaired when drinking ...so walking away is not as likely the go to coping mechanism). I don't deal with things in a violent manner. That is my character ...no matter how much I've had to drink. Will I get dogmatic about some points ...Absolutley. This argument led to a character flaw being revealed that the OP needs to work out. Edited December 26, 2015 by StBreton 2
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