Mjm1014 Posted December 24, 2015 Posted December 24, 2015 I don't want to drag this out I'll keep it as brief as possible. For the past two years I've been living in Chicago away from my family (in Pittsburgh) for a job. Last year when I was living there I "dated" a girl in Pittsburgh which was a long distance relationship..her and I hung out for about 3-4 months but she never wanted to fully commit and call me her bf. Over time she became distant and told me she didn't think it would work and she couldn't help her feelings about me. I feel like the distance was part of the equation, but am not 100% sure why she wanted to stop seeing me. Anyways I finally got a job offer and am moving back to Pittsburgh, and while I did date someone else briefly, I am still not over the girl in Pittsburgh. I'm moving back soon and want to tell her, and see if she would want to get together again. We've been no contact since then. I basically begged her (dumb idea, I know) to keep going out but she insisted it wouldn't work. So.... A.) should I message her and tell her I'm moving back and hint that I want to try making things work? Or B.) should I cut my losses, keep my head held high and keep trying to move on? I still get really sad when I think of all the times we spend together and miss her. We had a really strong bond-or so I felt-until the day she ended it abruptly. :/ I honestly don't know what I did to make her change her mind since I didn't do anything wrong but feel maybe I turned her off somehow? please give me your honest answers!
TunaCat Posted December 24, 2015 Posted December 24, 2015 I'd go with A. Even if she's no longer interested, at least you'll know and will be able to move on and find someone else. You'll never know unless you ask.
Author Mjm1014 Posted December 24, 2015 Author Posted December 24, 2015 Hmm should go for A or B? Looks like 50/50 from the responses fml lol
DoesntGetIt Posted December 24, 2015 Posted December 24, 2015 If you don't give it another shot you'll always wonder what if and what could have been. If you do give it another shot, worst case scenario is she says no and you know for sure. Seems like an easy call to me.
NopeNah Posted December 24, 2015 Posted December 24, 2015 I'd just pop back on the scene in pitt and see where she's at..You don't know if she's seeing someone,pregnant or anything. Just roll back to town and evaluate it from there..
LostOnes05 Posted December 24, 2015 Posted December 24, 2015 Go with B...if you have mutual friends, they are likely to tell her you're back in town. She will find a way to contact you if interested.
czen Posted December 25, 2015 Posted December 25, 2015 I would go for C, just move back, get settled and after a few days/weeks, hit het up. Talk a bit, ask her to hang out and see how she's been. A lot can happen in two years. I definitely would not go for the "Hey, I'm back, we can now make this work!" approach. You do not want to come across like the guy who moved back for her. Just take it slow and easy. Don't be too available for her.
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