EC Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 Spin off from my other thread... So after stating that I am my bf's first gf and first love BrotherAaron wrote: So your his first girlfriend? Cool. You own him. Have fun, you're gonna break his heart. I thought that funny because my brother still has a spot for his first girlfriend and even though he has dated many other girls and had another serious relationship he always used to get this far away dreamy look in his eyes saying that no one would ever compare to his first gf/love. She owns my heart and always will. Guys? Link to post Share on other sites
Treasa Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 BaaaaHAHAHAHAHA. Hell no. What a loser. I realize I may be alone in saying this. But seriously, I don't think everyone has a soft spot. My boyfriend's first girlfriend, for example, cheated on him, took him for granted, and then left him for someone else. However, *I* got his virginity. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 No I can't stand my "First Love" LOL Last I heard he was in jail.. so if there is a soft spot then okay, I hope he got the softest cot in his cell! Link to post Share on other sites
Marshbear Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 I think about my "first Love" on occasion and then I thank God we split up. Amen!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 I am back with my first REAL love Link to post Share on other sites
st8toftheheart Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 This is pretty common from what I hear. First love is usually memorable because it was in fact your first love. The first time you experienced something of that nature. Like the first time you rode a bike. However mine is not. It was a horrible relationship and has probably jaded my view about relationships. No relationship I have had since has been able to erase that first one. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 Do I have a soft spot? Only the soft spot I must have had in my head for thinking that what we had was 'love', but luckily that healed over. Link to post Share on other sites
outdated Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 Originally posted by st8toftheheart This is pretty common from what I hear. First love is usually memorable because it was in fact your first love. The first time you experienced something of that nature. Like the first time you rode a bike. The first time I rode a bike I ended up in a ditch. Come to think of it, that's where I ended up with my first love. WOW, it is like riding a bike! Link to post Share on other sites
AliceW Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 Originally posted by LucreziaBorgia Do I have a soft spot? Only the soft spot I must have had in my head for thinking that what we had was 'love', but luckily that healed over. Tha! is so true for me as well! Link to post Share on other sites
AliceW Posted June 1, 2005 Share Posted June 1, 2005 Originally posted by LucreziaBorgia Do I have a soft spot? Only the soft spot I must have had in my head for thinking that what we had was 'love', but luckily that healed over. Link to post Share on other sites
BigB Posted June 2, 2005 Share Posted June 2, 2005 First GF, no soft spot, we were friends more than anything, no sex (we were young) she left me for some older dude while I was at summer camp. Second GF (first love maybe?) first relationship with sex... no soft spot for her either, I wish she'd die. evil psychotic b*tch. I got over her quickly after she stole most of my stuff and skipped town without any warning, notice, or explanation. At least I think I got over her quickly, I haven't dated since, still trying to figure that out. Link to post Share on other sites
Author EC Posted June 2, 2005 Author Share Posted June 2, 2005 First GF, no soft spot, we were friends more than anything, no sex (we were young) she left me for some older dude while I was at summer camp. Second GF (first love maybe?) first relationship with sex... no soft spot for her either, I wish she'd die. evil psychotic b*tch. I got over her quickly after she stole most of my stuff and skipped town without any warning, notice, or explanation. At least I think I got over her quickly, I haven't dated since, still trying to figure that out. Im so sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
st8toftheheart Posted June 2, 2005 Share Posted June 2, 2005 Originally posted by outdated The first time I rode a bike I ended up in a ditch. Come to think of it, that's where I ended up with my first love. WOW, it is like riding a bike! Not exactly what I was aiming aiming at but you get an A for creativity. Link to post Share on other sites
BigB Posted June 2, 2005 Share Posted June 2, 2005 Originally posted by EC Im so sorry. thanks, you know now I thank her for it. I'd like my stuff back, but I'm glad she's gone. I would have been sad, missed her, begged her back, all that crap, if she'd just broken up with me. By skipping town with a bunch of my stuff and my $$, I went straight to the "what the hell was I thinking?" stage in about 12 hours. I'm starting to think maybe I haven't met my "first love" yet. Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted June 2, 2005 Share Posted June 2, 2005 Major weak spot for him. I was 14 and haven't seen him since. Maybe it's a good thing... Link to post Share on other sites
CurlyIam Posted June 2, 2005 Share Posted June 2, 2005 First love, not first bf. My first bf was a bit of a player. We used to have some common friends, but I moved and lost touch. He must be working in my hometown and making some girl miserable - he had a special gift for that. Well, at least I have the good memory of having dumped him, right after he acted like the arse that really is, LOL! Link to post Share on other sites
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 2, 2005 Share Posted June 2, 2005 Yeah, I still have a soft spot for my first love. She was sweet. We kept in touch for years. Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted June 2, 2005 Share Posted June 2, 2005 Gosh, my first love? Heck yeah I still have a soft spot for him. He was the first man I loved and our relationship was magical! I'm not just thinking back on it with rose colored glasses it's true. I was the envy of all of my girlfriends because I had this smart, good looking, sweet, sensitive, popular guy in love with me. He wrote me the longest, sweetest letters. Things did not end on a bad term with him. Later we got back together when we were older but it didn't work out. Still, if he needed me- and it's been years and years since I've spoken to him- I'd be there for him in a heartbeat. Not in a romantic way but we had a bond. I'm very sure he feels the same way about me based on some things I've heard from some of his friends and family. The only relationship I've had that ever came close to what I had with him, is the current one I'm in with my bf. That's pretty high praise!!! Link to post Share on other sites
tanbark813 Posted June 2, 2005 Share Posted June 2, 2005 I don't get all dreamy-eyed or anything when thinking about my first love, nor does she "own" me or anything like that. But I do have somewhat of a soft spot for her because she was a sweet girl and really seemed to genuinely care about me. The breakup wasn't ugly either. AND, she's one of the few gfs who didn't cheat on me (as far as I know). Link to post Share on other sites
laRubiaBonita Posted June 2, 2005 Share Posted June 2, 2005 i will have soft spot for my current bf....who is my first LOVE.........but not the fisrt guy i have "dated" by any means. my first real bf, i did like...i had a crush ion him before we dated...then i realized he was better to look at then actually spend time with, then he cheated on me with my best friend, when i was really sick......what an arse! but the suckers are married last i heard. Link to post Share on other sites
Teag Posted June 2, 2005 Share Posted June 2, 2005 I have a soft spot for my first love. We were together for a long time when I was 15, we ended up breaking up b/c he moved 3 states away. He ended up comming to visit the next summer & man had he grown up, he was so gorgeous, we ended up hanging out all weekend flirting a stuff. We wanted to do more but I had a boyfriend at the time & didn't want to cheat on him so I just let him go. If turned out to be a huge mistake b/c the guy I was dating ended up cheating on me. We've email a few times since but lost touch & now I'm 22 & married. But I still think about him & get that "feeling" when I look at his pictures. He'll always have a special place in my heart. (We were both virgins when we were together & never had sex. but now I wish I would have that summer he was down.) Link to post Share on other sites
ConfusedInOC Posted June 2, 2005 Share Posted June 2, 2005 Originally posted by EC Spin off from my other thread... So after stating that I am my bf's first gf and first love BrotherAaron wrote: I thought that funny because my brother still has a spot for his first girlfriend and even though he has dated many other girls and had another serious relationship he always used to get this far away dreamy look in his eyes saying that no one would ever compare to his first gf/love. She owns my heart and always will. Guys? I still have a soft spot for my first love but she in no way compares to my most recent ex. My first love was puppy love, my recent ex I love/d deeply. Link to post Share on other sites
BrotherAaron Posted June 2, 2005 Share Posted June 2, 2005 Hey... look I compelled someone to start a thread I just broke up with my first love at the end of February. I suppose the closest to having a "soft spot" for her I will get is saying that, even though she seriously f***ed with me there at the end, I don't hope she dies. See? I'm too nice, really. Had we broken up on good terms, I suspect that I would think that nothing could ever compare to her. I did, however, let her get away with a lot of BS that I shouldn't have, and wouldn't have, except that I was still dumbstruck by her being my first love. Yes, she owned me because I did not know what I was doing. My comment was largely a joke (I'm sure you noticed ) but I do think that, relationshipwise, he'll often look to you for leadership since you are the one with experience. He is the one afraid of getting dumped. He's the one with the soft spot. From reading people's responses, I'd say that, as long as you don't toy with him, he'll likely keep that soft spot for you for the rest of his life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author EC Posted June 2, 2005 Author Share Posted June 2, 2005 Hey... look I compelled someone to start a thread I just broke up with my first love at the end of February. I suppose the closest to having a "soft spot" for her I will get is saying that, even though she seriously f***ed with me there at the end, I don't hope she dies. See? I'm too nice, really. Had we broken up on good terms, I suspect that I would think that nothing could ever compare to her. I did, however, let her get away with a lot of BS that I shouldn't have, and wouldn't have, except that I was still dumbstruck by her being my first love. Yes, she owned me because I did not know what I was doing. My comment was largely a joke (I'm sure you noticed ) but I do think that, relationshipwise, he'll often look to you for leadership since you are the one with experience. He is the one afraid of getting dumped. He's the one with the soft spot. From reading people's responses, I'd say that, as long as you don't toy with him, he'll likely keep that soft spot for you for the rest of his life. Yeah I noticed the joke. lol I was just curious. I know hes afraid of losing me because hes never felt this before. But in a way what I feel with him I have never felt before either. Like CIOC said my first love was just that my first puppy love. My current bf I love deeply. Its very different. Link to post Share on other sites
Sharmaine Posted June 3, 2005 Share Posted June 3, 2005 I still have a soft spot for my first love but she in no way compares to my most recent ex. My first love was puppy love, my recent ex I love/d deeply. Sounds like your recent ex was your true 'first love', if you loved her deeply and she meant more to you than your first ex. I class my 'first love' as not being the very first guy I dated, (who was a simple crush), but as being the very first guy I fell totally and utterly in love with! It was with the 'first love' that I had my first taste of love, experienced what true love was all about.......it was the 'first' time I fell in love. I dated two guys before I met my 'first love. None compared to the 'first love'. None had the ability to make me feel the way the 'first love' did.......I was totally besotted with the guy and would have followed him to the ends of the earth. Likewise my 'first love' had previous gf's to me - however he classes me as being his 'first love' because it was the 'first' time he experienced 'true love..........I was his 'first' everything, likewise he was mine. I met him when I was 17, he was also 17. We had a long relationship lasting through to our mid twenties. I moved long distance but he has always and for years remained in my heart.......I never forgot him. 11 years later, we meet again online on a friends website.......the 'first love' had come looking for me and found me, seemed he'd never forgot me either. Despite the years that have rolled by, I'd drop everything to be back with my 'first love'. He meant everything to me and still does.....time has changed nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
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