GingerVixen Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 I hate girls like these. They make Nice guys like you become players and *******s. Never change. This girl doesnt want an alpha male. She wants someone to treat her badly. Being an alpha male does not mean NOT Being a nice guy. Being an alpha male does not mean Being a bad boy. She is immature and you should dump her. I would love to meet a nice guy. There are planty of girls out there eager to meet a nice guy like you.Dont waste your time with this moron. She will regret her decision later
Heracles Posted December 29, 2015 Posted December 29, 2015 (edited) Added part: You need to deepen and broaden your life experience in order develop self-mastery. Also, maybe you will realize that some people simply don't want you to understand the nuts and bolts of how things really work. I said that without even noticing the answer right above mine that perfectly illustrates my point. Being nice is OK but being a nice guy i.e. nice all the time and overly affectionate and more importantly gullible only makes you more usable and manipulable for long term goals that you don't even know exist, yet. I'll end this with a quote: "Free from desire, you realize the mystery. Caught in desire, you see only the manifestations. Yet mystery and manifestations arise from the same source. " --Yet another edit-- How can a woman tell you, a man, what being alpha MALE _is_ or _is NOT_? Edited December 29, 2015 by Heracles
RBLL Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 If she says you're not man enough for her, the best way to prove her wrong is to ditch her. Coldly and without remorse. Do not base your sense of self worth on what this one human thinks of you. Agreed. It's taken me 50 years to figure that out. The rub is in wanting to be wanted and accepted, while pretending you don't care.
spiderowl Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 I am sorry, this must be really awful for you. It sounds like you two might not be compatible. Like you say, she needs to appreciate it you for what you are and not undermine your self-esteem. It looks like she does want to end things. I know it must hurt but you need someone more suited to you, who will love you for yourself. It seems this girl can't. If I were you, I would end it first.
hhatesboys Posted December 30, 2015 Posted December 30, 2015 I'm sorry about your breakup, this must be awful for you. As a girl who is attracted to "bad boys"... and one that has had relationships with "nice guys," here are my thoughts: Consider what would happen if you try to salvage this relationship? I think that it would drag on while you spend all of your time trying to please her. And it will never be enough. Eventually, she will leave or you will give up. When it is over, you will feel drained and probably pretty angry that you did all of this stuff for her and she did not appreciate it. Really, if you don't have a "bad boy" quality, you will never be able to fake it. Think of it more of a "type" -- she wants a jock (or she thinks she does) and that is just not who you are. Treating her badly will not help. It will just make it easier for her to justify dumping you. Don't talk to her again. If she messages you respond with one or two words only. You don't have to be a jerk, just treat her like she is not a part of your life anymore. I can honestly say nothing has ever hurt in a breakup for me more than indifference. If she changes her mind she will come back to you and apologize. Either way you will bow out with dignity and you won't feel bad about yourself. That is the best outcome for you either way.
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