Just seen Him with his family :-(

[Louisesarah]

That's what hurt to think he regrets it after everything.

Him telling me his feelings etc how can you say all of that and then say woops mistake.

Why be so cruel about it ..why couldn't he just say sorry for how u treated you.

Then again he texts his mum wish you would die so I guess it's no surprise he can be nasty to me.

[privategal]

I just can't understand why he spent 2 years texting and telling me how he felt,there was times he would text me hundreds of times a day.

What was that for,1 night of sex.

He's a good looking man he could get any woman.

He told me on many occasion he didn't want me as just the other woman..

He even planned after we slept together about coming over next time.

So in his head he did have the feeling to see me again..what changed guilt?

 

Sometimes its about the build-up and the chase...once a guy gets what he wants he is no longer interested. Maybe the sex wasn't good, maybe he felt it wouldnt be no strings attached as you would get clingy and want more than he wanted or talk to his family about it (which you did).

But those are just guesses...the why, why, why could go on forever. I guess you never asked him directly.

I mean what if I wanted to know why I wasn't born a blonde with blue eyes. I could ask why forever my whole life...it wont change anything.

The fact is he got caught up for awhile with you, he didn't want to continue. He ended it. I really don't see the mystery. I see a classic ahole opportunist and the mystery, chase, and buildup are gone...now so is he.

[Louisesarah]

The day after he messaged me saying

"That was good fun ;-) next time il bring some wine.

What happened stays between us two,it's just a shame we can't be friends"

[Louisesarah]

He was very pushy with the sex the next day.

I said maybe we shouldn't do this and he said well we are and he was pulling my underwear down( I did want him I just knew it was a mistake before hand) he was turned on and wouldn't take no for a answer

We had sex and he was really hungover and before and after sex he was vomiting in the bathroom.

Can't say it was everything I hoped it would be

[Louisesarah]

I said to him it's that time of the month and how pushy he became made me feel awkward.

I tried touching Him and he replied don't get me turned on if your not going to f*ck me..then he went in a mood and that's when he started pulling underwear down.

Automatically I started feeling cheap and self conscious so I turned over and he started having sex with me ( don't get me wrong once he started I enjoyed it and didn't say stop or anything )

I just didn't want it to be when I was time of the month.

Then after sex he vomited with the alcohol from night before

And came back to bed fell asleep and said I wish we could lie here all day ,like how pushy he was was normal

[privategal]

I said to him it's that time of the month and how pushy he became made me feel awkward.

I tried touching Him and he replied don't get me turned on if your not going to f*ck me..then he went in a mood and that's when he started pulling underwear down.

Automatically I started feeling cheap and self conscious so I turned over and he started having sex with me ( don't get me wrong once he started I enjoyed it and didn't say stop or anything )

I just didn't want it to be when I was time of the month.

Then after sex he vomited with the alcohol from night before

And came back to bed fell asleep and said I wish we could lie here all day ,like how pushy he was was normal

 

Sounds like a really magical experience.

[waterwoman]

I said to him it's that time of the month and how pushy he became made me feel awkward.

I tried touching Him and he replied don't get me turned on if your not going to f*ck me..then he went in a mood and that's when he started pulling underwear down.

Automatically I started feeling cheap and self conscious so I turned over and he started having sex with me ( don't get me wrong once he started I enjoyed it and didn't say stop or anything )

I just didn't want it to be when I was time of the month.

Then after sex he vomited with the alcohol from night before

And came back to bed fell asleep and said I wish we could lie here all day ,like how pushy he was was normal

 

 

Love's young dream.....

[Ms. Faust]

It's kind of funny how the tone of the story changes once it is filled in with more details.

 

He held me, and told me he wished he could lay with me all day...

turned into

after the second time he threw up from being drunk he crawled into bed and wished he could lay with me all day...

 

what a difference!

Edited December 1, 2015 by Ms. Faust

[Louisesarah]

It's kind of funny how the tone of the story changes once it is filled in with more details.

 

 

turned into

 

 

what a difference!

 

Thankyou your post actually made me laugh for the first time in a while.

It's so true tho isn't it ..it's went from a romantic novel to I don't know what.

The sex itself wasn't bad but the lead up and after bit made me queasy.

No one likes hearing someone throw up.

He actually thought it was " good crack" his words which is a bit surprising

[Louisesarah]

Also which was strange I tried touching Him( sexually) but he kept pushing my hand away ..wouldn't let me take the lead in any way.

He just wanted to be in control which did make me feel like a disposable vagina.

[Lovetoohard]

This was a disturbing read. I am not one to be harsh but I don't know how you let this jerk use you like you were a cheap hooker. Work on your self esteem and having boundaries.

[Louisesarah]

I just don't know why he behaved like this,he went from crying and being vulnerable to saying that.

My friend has said he can be sitting there all nice then snap and tell you he wants to punch your head in.

I wish I didn't care

[Lovetoohard]

Sounds like a very emotionally unstable man, maybe even bipolar. You care because you still have feelings for him, but you have to realize that you cannot change or fix a broken man. distance yourself and gain some perspective on how unhealthy all this is. Trust me, i have been on the dark side and had the strength and willpower draw boundaries. I still care about my ex but it will never be at my expense.

[whichwayisup]

That's what hurt to think he regrets it after everything.

Him telling me his feelings etc how can you say all of that and then say woops mistake.

Why be so cruel about it ..why couldn't he just say sorry for how u treated you.

Then again he texts his mum wish you would die so I guess it's no surprise he can be nasty to me.

 

Exactly! Why would he treat you better and be nicer to you than his own mother!!

 

Don't try and figure him out, you'll never be able to figure out why he did and said the things he said. He's NOT a kind person, he's selfish and cruel. You know this now so do your best to put him out of your head. He's not thinking of you or crying over all this at all. Don't waste your precious energy and heart on someone who doesn't give a sh.it!

[stillafool]

The day after he messaged me saying

"That was good fun ;-) next time il bring some wine.

What happened stays between us two,it's just a shame we can't be friends"

 

Notice how he wants to make sure you didn't tell anyone about you two? It's because he doesn't want it to get back to his gf. This guy is probably texting more girls than just you. He probably gets drunk and texts women to feed his ego. He's not going to leave her.

[MJJean]

If his gf found out she would more than likely kick him out.

 

So, knowing he'd be kicked out and not be able to see his child until the court sorted everything out, he still got drunk and ****ed you.

 

Again, KNOWING, he jeopardized his relationship with his infant so that he could come over,get drunk, and have still drunk in the morning sloppy sex.

 

Totally a great dad. Really.

 

Not to mention that good parents don't take off overnight to get drunk and screw. Good parents are at home caring for the child.

 

I think your mental health issues are seriously clouding your thinking. I am certain that if you were back on your meds and your illness was under control you'd see this POS for what he is and stop obsessing over him.

[Ms. Faust]

I think your mental health issues are seriously clouding your thinking. I am certain that if you were back on your meds and your illness was under control you'd see this POS for what he is and stop obsessing over him.

 

Yeah, considering the circumstances and your unreasonable feelings of love and sympathy for him I really think you need to seek out some sort of mental assistance. Whatever you have going on in your head is blinding you to what everyone else sees.

[MuddyFootprints]

So, knowing he'd be kicked out and not be able to see his child until the court sorted everything out, he still got drunk and ****ed you.

 

Again, KNOWING, he jeopardized his relationship with his infant so that he could come over,get drunk, and have still drunk in the morning sloppy sex.

 

Totally a great dad. Really.

 

Not to mention that good parents don't take off overnight to get drunk and screw. Good parents are at home caring for the child.

 

I think your mental health issues are seriously clouding your thinking. I am certain that if you were back on your meds and your illness was under control you'd see this POS for what he is and stop obsessing over him.

 

This is a little o/t, and I think I know what you meant, but good parents absolutely do (and should) take off overnight to have a few drinks and enjoy some private time and intimacy together without the kids.

[Louisesarah]

I think it's because we have known each since we were kids.

10 years ago he was in the army,so respectable and a decent bloke.

He used to walk me home.

Have fun with him,I don't recognise the person he has become.

Never in a million years 10 years ago would he have done what he has.

[stillafool]

 

He has said he couldn't bare not living with his child and not waking up with him daily.

 

 

This is a little o/t, and I think I know what you meant, but good parents absolutely do (and should) take off overnight to have a few drinks and enjoy some private time and intimacy together without the kids.

 

I agree but not with other partners. Besides I thought dude couldn't wake up without seeing his child. Apparently that goes out the window when sex is at stake.

[Louisesarah]

I think if it was a random person it would of been easier.

As we have known each other for so long it's hard to believe he would treat me so poor.

[Lurkeraspect]

I think if it was a random person it would of been easier.

As we have known each other for so long it's hard to believe he would treat me so poor.

 

You know what's hard to believe? The fact that he treated you like trash and you continue to analyze and profess love for this guy. Whatever he was 10 years ago, he's not that guy anymore.

 

Please seek mental health help. You probably need to get back on your meds and have some indepth therapy for your low self esteem and self loathing.

[Louisesarah]

You know what's hard to believe? The fact that he treated you like trash and you continue to analyze and profess love for this guy. Whatever he was 10 years ago, he's not that guy anymore.

 

Please seek mental health help. You probably need to get back on your meds and have some indepth therapy for your low self esteem and self loathing.

 

I don't self loath

Most days I do actually like myself

[ladydesigner]

I think it's because we have known each since we were kids.

10 years ago he was in the army,so respectable and a decent bloke.

He used to walk me home.

Have fun with him,I don't recognise the person he has become.

Never in a million years 10 years ago would he have done what he has.

 

The parallels between an OW and BS are very similar. I believe both feel similar, while an OW cannot believe that a MM can turn around and discard just like that, so does the BS. We also cannot understand why someone we have thought we have known so long can just turn it off and be with someone else. It is a painful realization, one that I don't think you should spend too much time obsessing about.

 

Your MM, like many, are usually very broken people with voids so deep they cannot ever be content. I wouldn't even try to understand it because you don't think that way and you would never treat someone the way he treated you. That is why it is hard to understand because it can't be understood.

 

Let go for YOU!

[sandylee1]

I just can't understand why he spent 2 years texting and telling me how he felt,there was times he would text me hundreds of times a day.

What was that for,1 night of sex.

He's a good looking man he could get any woman.

He told me on many occasion he didn't want me as just the other woman..

He even planned after we slept together about coming over next time.

So in his head he did have the feeling to see me again..what changed guilt?

 

Was he with this girl 2 years ago?

Why has he never asked you out when he's been single?

 

Sometimes people are just too close to get into relationships with... I mean the fact that he's your BFFs brother. This causes her to be piggy in the middle if you argue..she's torn between her brother and BFF . Too close for comfort TBH.

 

I've known girls date their BFFs brothers and when they split up....a huge rift is created and the friendship is never the same again. You guys haven't even hada relationship and your friendship is being affected.

 

Don't keep being miserable.......like he is. You only get one life...you need to make the most of it. He's not the only datable guy around.