Amelie1980 Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 6 months nc today. I will never contact him again. Ever. But cant forget him. Think about him constantly. 2
Greekboy Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 6 months nc today. I will never contact him again. Ever. But cant forget him. Think about him constantly. I feel you Amelie, couldn't have said it better for both of us:) 2
LostInNC Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 6 months nc today. I will never contact him again. Ever. But cant forget him. Think about him constantly. I sat in my driveway and cried today so I am there with you but I can't go through a year or six months more of this s**t. I will go insane.
itisdanielle Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 Good job! You should feel proud & strong right now
Dylon Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 I've seen your posts here and there expressing your hurt. You know, you might not realize this, but you are growing during this painful time. It will make you a better person in the long run, better lover, more mature, and wiser. Hang in there. You are going through the sourness of the grape skin, and soon you will reap the reward of the sweetness once you are ready. Cheer up! 4
makemineamac Posted December 24, 2015 Posted December 24, 2015 Amelie, what are you doing to change that? Are you talking to anyone? You deserve so much, you're insightful and helpful and so many things, I just wish there was a way for you to stop burning your great energy on thinking about him. Would just love to know what active steps you're taking to get to where you want to be. I think you're great, would just love to see you happy and resolved with this. 1
mg4514 Posted December 24, 2015 Posted December 24, 2015 You're not alone Amelie, and I hope that makes you feel better. To know two things: 1) there's nothing wrong or unusual about your feelings. Many of us are experiencing the same and 2) you have entire group of supporters here that will listen when you need to let loose.
Heartbrokenguy80 Posted December 24, 2015 Posted December 24, 2015 I'm also experiencing the same thing. Broke up 7 months ago. I still think of her every second I'm awake. When I'm sleeping I do dreamt of her. It's basically in my head 24/7 n I can't get her out of my mind. I feel u. Hang on
Author Amelie1980 Posted December 24, 2015 Author Posted December 24, 2015 Amelie, what are you doing to change that? Are you talking to anyone? You deserve so much, you're insightful and helpful and so many things, I just wish there was a way for you to stop burning your great energy on thinking about him. Would just love to know what active steps you're taking to get to where you want to be. I think you're great, would just love to see you happy and resolved with this. Absolutely nothing. He dated me once. Came back lying about his intentions until he got someone else. Can't help thinking he will come back again.
Blanco Posted December 24, 2015 Posted December 24, 2015 Absolutely nothing. He dated me once. Came back lying about his intentions until he got someone else. Can't help thinking he will come back again. This is a major part of what's keeping you stuck. Even if you don't want to be with him, you've mentioned many times how you believe he'll be back. As long as you hold that belief, you're going to find it difficult to let go. I know you're in a low place because of your unemployment, health issues, and poor relationship with family. However, doing "absolutely nothing" and believing he will come back isn't the best recipe for recovery. It's as if you are, intentionally or not, pausing your life until he does return. Obviously, if he comes back, he comes back. You cannot control that either way. What you can control is what kind of condition he finds you in if he does return. You don't seem like you've accepted that power.
Author Amelie1980 Posted December 24, 2015 Author Posted December 24, 2015 This is a major part of what's keeping you stuck. Even if you don't want to be with him, you've mentioned many times how you believe he'll be back. As long as you hold that belief, you're going to find it difficult to let go. I know you're in a low place because of your unemployment, health issues, and poor relationship with family. However, doing "absolutely nothing" and believing he will come back isn't the best recipe for recovery. It's as if you are, intentionally or not, pausing your life until he does return. Obviously, if he comes back, he comes back. You cannot control that either way. What you can control is what kind of condition he finds you in if he does return. You don't seem like you've accepted that power. I have a very good job interview lined up in early Jan. I am trying my best. But have nothing to occupy myself in the meantime as I have to worry about money. This has been the worst year of my life.
Blanco Posted December 24, 2015 Posted December 24, 2015 Upshot: 2016 theoretically has to be better, right? 2015 has been the hardest year of my life, too. I don't know if it's been the worst. It's been unpleasant in a lot of ways, though I've remained optimistic that the main bad things are necessary to get to better times. I'm not out of the woods yet, but I know that I'll look back at this year as a series of continual challenges that made me into a better, stronger person. I won't have any desire to repeat this year, but I think I'll look back on it with a strange, almost morbid fondness. If nothing else, I know it will make me appreciate the better times ahead. Stay strong and keep moving. You're doing fine. 2
Author Amelie1980 Posted December 24, 2015 Author Posted December 24, 2015 It may not be better. I am not optimistic about the future, merely scared about what I lost in recent years.
Author Amelie1980 Posted December 26, 2015 Author Posted December 26, 2015 I cant stop it. They weren't friends in christmas eve. The one who strung me along and lied to me just using me while lying about his intentions: the girl he dumped me for....his girlfriend just popped up on his best friends and his cousins Facebook. They friended on Christmas day. He lied to me and used me and he never introduced me to his family. Why wasn't i good enough. I feel like crap now.
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