Fella17 Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 I have posted a month ago about this particular girl (my school-mate in college), but since then...not much have changed...I just, I don`t have enough courage to tell her how I feel. I am so angry at myself for not telling her... Today we finished our class, we both went out on our way to bus and then she told me that she is going to the nearest restaurant to have a lunch, so we parted our ways after that. Should I joined her? I have feeling that she would be O.K. with that. But I just said: "Well, that is a shame... Enjoy, I wish you a Happy New Year and Merry Christmas." Weak, right? Why didn`t I just say: "Okay, sure, I will join you." Damn...maybe, I am overthinking everything, but hell, that`s the way I am "programmed". We are very cool around each other (at least it seems so; we are laughing almost non-stop, making jokes blablabla) when we are on our way to school or on our way from it, on the bus, but when we are waiting for class or just generally being in school, we are "avoiding" each other, especially not making much eye contacts. I have noticed one thing which bothers me (maybe not so much bothers, but I am not sure what to think about this): I was smiling to her two times in class (acroos the room) and both times she met my eyes, smiled and quickly looked down (still smiling)...I don`t know. And when I was talking to my former school-mate (girl too), my crush passed by smiling, but looking to ground and not making eye contact. I won`t see her for almost two weeks, which is killing me, but should I still try to contact her in that time? Via facebook maybe? Tell her that I want to talk to her? Maybe EVEN ask for her number via facebook (oh, yeah, I am too shy to ask for her number...). I just want to be sure that she likes me too before making any "attack". Or is this waiting totally pointless and I should just give it a try no matter what? I mean, there is not much I can lose and I will at least know where I stand. One thing is certain: I REALLY, REALLY want to get to know her better, just be with her in general because I enjoy her company a lot. She is one of those girls where beauty is present in many ways. Thanks for reading and any kind of response! Oh and I wish you all a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!
PaperCrane Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 She likes you. Ask to spend time alone with her and make a move. 1
d0nnivain Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 Yes you should have offered to accompany her to lunch. the whole reason she told you where she was going was because she wanted you to tag along. If you have a way to contact her, do send Christmas wishes but nothing more. If she responds then you can make small talk & ask her on a date. Otherwise you will have to wait until school resumes. It's only a few weeks. Use the time to boost your own self esteem. 2
Author Fella17 Posted December 23, 2015 Author Posted December 23, 2015 She likes you. Ask to spend time alone with her and make a move. I hope so! @d0nnivain Yes, facebook is a way to contact her...But I have already wished her a Merry Christmas in advance...God, why I didn`t come with her to lunch? We would have such a great time, yet I made a fool of myself again... This 2 weeks waiting will be hard to handle...I am always telling to myself: "Just make a move already!" ...but I am not brave enough, fear of rejection is strong even though there are some possible signs that she likes me. Thank you both for answers!
Glitters Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 Why is it killing you to not see her for 2 weeks ? She likes you. You like her. End of story. Unless you take action
Author Fella17 Posted December 24, 2015 Author Posted December 24, 2015 Why is it killing you to not see her for 2 weeks ? She likes you. You like her. End of story. Unless you take action Well, obviously, because I love her company so much. Another couple of things: Actually, she doesn`t want to talk on Facebook because she says that it is weird for her to talk that way (It`s not only with me; I know that she really doesn`t want to communicate with anyone online), she likes to apologize for every little thing and she also remembers many things I have told her, which I have almost forgotten about. That`s it, I guess. I will wait for school to begin and then (probably) strike. I have to tell her no matter what. Oh yeah, I am afraid of possible weird atmosphere between us if she says no after all... From my perspective, she seems inexperienced when it comes to men (as I am when it comes to girls/women...), so that is maybe one of the reasons she will be afraid to say yes. I don`t know, I have to find out. @Glitters Thank you for answer!
Glitters Posted December 24, 2015 Posted December 24, 2015 A www she's cute! If she says yes? You'll have a funny grin the entire time you are around her and others asking what's the joke I guess many men would prefer an inexperienced girl anytime over the one who is going around the block. Her responses to your advances will be different ( maybe cute?)to what you are used to. She may not even know how to respond So how are you going to keep your nerves down for 2 weeks ? 1
Author Fella17 Posted December 25, 2015 Author Posted December 25, 2015 A www she's cute! If she says yes? You'll have a funny grin the entire time you are around her and others asking what's the joke I guess many men would prefer an inexperienced girl anytime over the one who is going around the block. Her responses to your advances will be different ( maybe cute?)to what you are used to. She may not even know how to respond So how are you going to keep your nerves down for 2 weeks ? How to keep my nerves down for 2 weeks? Hard 10 more days, I am probably just going to chill, prepare for making my move after holidays... So guys; from what I have written so far, are you almost 100% sure she is attracted to me in some way? Yes, I should ask her and "attack", but I am one of those people who have to be almost completely sure before making any kind of decision...yes, crazy, I know What is the worst thing that can happen? Rejection, not a big deal...I keep telling that to myself, but it is easier said than done
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