losangelena Posted December 24, 2015 Posted December 24, 2015 Girl, you are treading on thin ice, what are you thinking? Do not go out with this man in any capacity. He KNOWS you have a boyfriend? Yeah, and he's still suggesting you go out with him as "an attractive female." OK ... Yes, I'm sure the attention is nice, but let's get real. You don't KNOW this man in real life. You know the friendly, good-tipper who comes into your restaurant, but you really don't know who he is. This is a fantasy, and compared to what you have with your BF, maybe it's an attractive one. Never the less, in my opinion, you need to give this man a wide berth. He's now stated that he doesn't care about your boyfriend and he's not willing to respect that boundary. That is not "a good man." 1
Glass Hut Posted December 25, 2015 Posted December 25, 2015 Girl, you are treading on thin ice, what are you thinking? Do not go out with this man in any capacity. He KNOWS you have a boyfriend? Yeah, and he's still suggesting you go out with him as "an attractive female." OK ... Yes, I'm sure the attention is nice, but let's get real. You don't KNOW this man in real life. You know the friendly, good-tipper who comes into your restaurant, but you really don't know who he is. This is a fantasy, and compared to what you have with your BF, maybe it's an attractive one. Never the less, in my opinion, you need to give this man a wide berth. He's now stated that he doesn't care about your boyfriend and he's not willing to respect that boundary. That is not "a good man." I disagree. She wasn't exactly clear about her relationship to this guy at first. Sounds like he sees an opening and to him, she is fair game. She's not married, she can be asked out especially if she showed some interest (by not being forthcoming about her present relationship, it's a sign no matter how you slice it). The guy could still be a nice guy, or he might be a womanizer. Totally unknown. Based on the 100% tipping, I tend to think he knows how to hit a target so I'm suspecting closer to the second option. But, I've been there.... I wasn't tipping 100% but I was getting some serious signs from a girl who was in a relationship that she never talked about. So I asked her out. Ir really didn't work out well for me AT ALL. But I don't consider myself a bad guy, personally. I also disagree about not talking to this guy. I would start being totally upfront that you're in a relationship and not hang out with this guy, but, you could use him as a professional contact and see if he can get you a better job. Why the hell not? Well, for starters you started off with little white lies to the guy. That might make it harder to maintain a professional relationship with him. But you're not doing well financially so maybe just make sure he's clear on your status and see what he can do for your career. ......just some advice from a guy who can see past prior transgressions and likes to help people.
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