Told a girl she sucked in bed. Got back together. Now should i tell her this?

[elronwood1]

If you saw my other thread i made a pretty huge boo boo n told my gf she was awful in bed n was pretty mean. We worked it out in the end and are 75% good now, it's obs taking time to go back to normal, but i have a new issue.

 

She is ALWAYS talking about celebs she wants to have sex with. I get girls will say stuff like Hes handsome, hes cute. But im talking. ****, hes sexy. If i had a hall pass he would be in my top 3. And it's all the time.

I'm getting less comfortable with how many people she's been with. She's slept with a lot of people. They come up in conversation. Which ya know. I have too. And i can deal with if she would just stop talking about guys all the time. Last night her n mate were talking n she said "Yea, Taylor Swift, shes a bitch, she just gets to pick any guy and **** him."

And i'm jus sitting there like, this is sposed to make me attracted to you?

Then i caught her looking at two guys running past on the beach, like full on turning around to look.

She's bi and was talking about her friend the other day like "God, she is the only one of my friends i would get with, we've talked about it but i don't think she's bi"

Like how is that any different from me talking about a girl i know n wanting to get with her?

 

 

I get she may still be pissed at me but i can't carry on like this. I'm getting more reserved and when we talk i'm just waiting for her to drop something in that's going to annoy me n im tense again n not enjoying the relationship.

 

Is this normal? I want to tell her tonight how i'm feeling but don't want to rock the boat as we just got back together, but i don't think i can take another night like this

[Tayla]

ya can't rock a sinking boat. Neither of you are relationship material. Although I give you props for letting her carry opinions .

 

Seriously if she's had THAT much practice with men, chances are she isn't of poor performance . She just isn't into your style .

 

Move along, the only thing normal here is the ability to see what isn't respecting.

[elronwood1]

I don't think you should walk away if you disagree on something. I may well do that, but want to at least talk about it first.

Girls, what do you think is acceptable in relationships as far as talking about other people, celebs you may have a crush on?

I get you can say someone is good looking but saying you want to **** someone is out of bounds right?

[anonymousbear00101100]

I think she's either trying to hold some type of power over you by making you realize that she can also get sex whenever she wants. I think it's coming from a place of pain for her. Right now she probably feels a little insecure and wants to talk herself up and bring you down so she's in control.

 

I would try to talk to her about it. If she didn't want to get back together, she wouldn't have, but nobody deserves to subject to this type of mental abuse, regardless of what you said in the past.

[basil67]

Oh dear - you both sound so classy

[Tayla]

I don't think you should walk away if you disagree on something. I may well do that, but want to at least talk about it first.

Girls, what do you think is acceptable in relationships as far as talking about other people, celebs you may have a crush on?

I get you can say someone is good looking but saying you want to **** someone is out of bounds right?

 

Is your reality checker malfunctioning? or perhaps your moral compass is stuck?

 

Buy this "girl" a filter. Its what will turn her into a lady. Not everything one thinks needs to be said.

 

Its not acceptable. Nor is what you said to her in her bedroom antics. either you are part of the solution Or the problem, be the solution. Apologize.

 

Basil said it best.

[PrettyEmily77]

I don't think you should walk away if you disagree on something. I may well do that, but want to at least talk about it first.

Girls, what do you think is acceptable in relationships as far as talking about other people, celebs you may have a crush on?

I get you can say someone is good looking but saying you want to **** someone is out of bounds right?

 

Depends on how you make each other feel. The BF doesn't mind saying he has a crush on Giselle Bunchen and you know, I can see his point . He also is kind, thoughtful and super attentive.

 

The pb isn't so much that you continually discuss each other's crushes, it's more like you don't seem to have any respect for each other.