In love with an escort (oh not another one of these?)

[speedfreak]

Hello,

 

I'm 22 years old, and am in love with an escort who is 39 years old. I just graduated from college and have been working ever since. I first met this escort almost 2 years ago through a Craigslist post I made during one of my drug binges. Since then I've continued to see her and changed as a person, no longer the drug user I was when I first saw her. (anyways enough backstory about me)

 

I've come to realize over the last month or so that I'm in love with this escort. I didnt see her much for the first year and a half but this last 6 months or so I've been seeing her once a month or twice a month, and I feel like each time I see her we grow closer and I leave feeling more in love with her. As far as I can tell I'm the only person under 30 who she sees.

 

I've seen 6 or 7 escorts over the last 3 years and this has never happened with any of them. I've done some research over the last couple of days and found out that this isn't that uncommon and have realized that it would never work but I still feel this way....

[speedfreak]

I should mention that she has remarked numerous times about how I have grown over the last 2 years, and this last weekend when I saw her she comment about how I'm turning into such a man and that you can see the "boyness" disappearing from my face

[VeveCakes]

That person you are in love with is not who you think it is. You don't know the "real" her. You know the "working" her. I suggest you stop seeing her, and maybe seek some counselling about forming positive relationships.

[speedfreak]

Thanks for being straight up, and you're right.

[preraph]

One thing you have to receive and believe is all sex workers make it their business to only offer up whatever they think you want and never to be unpleasant or, well, human. They are paid to be nice to you when they don't even like you, to have sex with you when they don't even like you and might not even be heterosexual, to lie and tell you how you deserve so much more and flatter and lie and tell you what a great guy you are and they're more than happy to let you cry on their shoulder because you're giving them money.

 

You don't even know this woman. You only know a facade she offers you that she thinks you will be attracted enough to to pull out your wallet. It's all done with mirrors, my friend. When she goes home at night, the last thing she wants to do is go down on anyone.

[speedfreak]

That is true, perhaps I'm just being niave.

[neowulf]

That is true, perhaps I'm just being niave.

 

Don't be too hard on yourself. Many people mistake the fantasy for reality. Hell, the most successful escorts are masters at making you *believe* you share a unique connection. It's what keeps you on the hook and paying.

 

Just know, it's not real. I agree with the other posters. I think it's time you distance yourself from this woman. She's tying you up from going out and finding a real relationship.

[Gold Pile]

Her business is speaking and doing things you like. Your feelings for her have grown but very likely her feeling toward you haven't changed. Go back to being diversified and spread yourself amongst several such ladies. Don't rule out more conventional dating either.

[Rejected Rosebud]

Why do you have that username though?

[Robert Z]

One thing you have to receive and believe is all sex workers make it their business to only offer up whatever they think you want and never to be unpleasant or, well, human. They are paid to be nice to you when they don't even like you, to have sex with you when they don't even like you and might not even be heterosexual, to lie and tell you how you deserve so much more and flatter and lie and tell you what a great guy you are and they're more than happy to let you cry on their shoulder because you're giving them money.

 

You don't even know this woman. You only know a facade she offers you that she thinks you will be attracted enough to to pull out your wallet. It's all done with mirrors, my friend. When she goes home at night, the last thing she wants to do is go down on anyone.

 

Taken right from the Starsky and Hutch show.

 

Don't but into trivial stereotypes. Escorts are as varied as individual as are any other group of people. By the same token, not all escorts are Asian sex slaves.

 

My opinion is people often see themselves in others and expect from others what they would do.

[Popsicle]

Right, it's not uncommon. She is probably used to it, but will not be unkind to you (unless she is mean and unprofessional)

Edited December 23, 2015 by Popsicle

[Robert Z]

I hid the fact that I had fallen in love with my escort because I was afraid she would leave. When we first met, she made it clear that she had dumped guys for less. This was right up front. And, incidentally, she didn't have an orgasm until we had seen each other for a time. If she was going to fake it, she would have faked it to help hook me as a customer. She didn't get off until I was already completely hooked! So she was a more honest with a john than many women are with their husbands.

 

 

See the Escort and Sugar Baby Experiences thread in the Sexual and Reproductive Health and Practices forum [here]

Edited December 23, 2015 by Robert Z

[AspenBaldwin]

I blame Julia Roberts and her movie 'Pretty Woman' for all the men out there who think they have found THE prostitute with a heart of gold that will make them happy.