Cheating and Miscarriage

[krjc88]

Recently me and my partner suffered a miscarriage ( April ) we both were completely devastated we talked about it but both became distant i would sit in the room and my partner would be in the other room. Me being a guy i tried to push it to the back of my mind and got straight back into work and was working away for 4 days at a time leaving my partner in our home, I never knew how badly she had took this. our problems started at the end of May when we would argue over little things and by June we were breaking up and getting back together multiply times this continued until July when we had broken up again and she had called her mum to come and pick her and take some stuff and move back in with her. This is when it hit me that i had lost her.

 

I managed to met her before her mum came down and pleaded with her to give us another chance i spilled my heart out to her but she had no emotion and left. later on that night she called asking me to come over to her ,mums which i did do we had a talk about our future and wanted to make it work. but over the coming months she started a new job and everything felt right ( for me ) October came and we had a few arguments and she decided to move back in with her mum claiming she wanted some space to find herself and give us a short break which i agreed to for her . I didnt want a break but decided that was something she needed with the pressure at work and at home.

 

That night she had cheated on me with someone from work she invited him up to her mums at 2am for a chat and drink which lead to her cheating. Her mum walked in on her and shouted and threatend to tell me or she would. she came home the next day and told me what happened . At first she admitted to kissing and doing some other stuff but was adamant she never had sex. she said she felt embarrassed and was disgusted with herself and regretted what had happened .

 

The next day i went over to her mums and told her what she had said and her mum said she did have sex so that night i confronted her and she admitted the truth that she had sex with him and said she couldnt admit it to herself never mind me .

 

After talking about her depression and the miscarriage she explained she felt like a different person with no emotions and blamed herself for what had happened . we decided to make a go of it again and 1 week later she said she was going to her friends for a drink and to have a chat with her. Turned out this was someone else from her office she claims she had sex for 30 secs and stopped because she knew it was wrong .

 

i didnt find out about this until a few weeks later when i confronted her . She said it was a drunken mistake and wanted to be with me so again we decided to give it another go. I told her to delete His number and the other guys number and have no more contact outside of work which she did do.

 

She went to a counciling and started to deal with her issues for depression and lying . things were looking up after a few weeks .

 

Then i got a bomb shell out of the blue. a parcel got sent to me with a letter inside saying i have been seening your partner for the last 3 months with her clothes . She ended thing with this other guy end of September and he had seen her post a pic of us on social media and was angry and sent this to me. she had told him she was single and seen him about 10 times at his while telling me she was at her mums and when i was working away he was down in my flat twice . She said he was more messed up than her and he had some crazy issues with split personailty and mental health issues and she said the attraction was because he had bigger problems than her.

 

So again we talked about it and because it was in the past i decided to try and move on again. everthing was going great with us until her xmas night out. one of the guys she had cheated on me with had called and txt her saying to come back to his hotel room .

 

She was sleeping next to me in our hotel and i checked her mobile. there was a few flirty txts on it saying she wished she was in his hotel room and that he looked good on the night out . I had left the next morning from the hotel and told her it was over . once i got home i was concerned about her as no 1 had heard from her . turns out she went to his hotel just as he was checking out and went back to his house for about 2hr and went to sleep. she claims nothing happened as she was hungover and tired . I said she could of went to her mums but she knew i would of called her mum and didnt want to go back there to be shouted at On the phone i was angry shouting at her telling her how long has she been cheating on me she swears she has not been seening him but did admit about a month ago he gave her a run home from work one night and she had sex with him in his car .

 

I packed her her case and was throwning her out when she begged me to not to end things , Now this girl was so perfect for the last 6yrs and this all started a month after the miscarriage she has completly changed . She now says she wants to do what ever it takes to make a fresh start with me and will do anything .

 

I told her to quit her job , delete all people from her work off social media and to get a new mobile number and suggested relationship counciling which she has agreed to do.

 

The only reason i am still here is because this is so out of character and it all started when she suffered the miscarriage back in April 2015 until now.

 

This my story and looking for help and advice . I truly love this girl and dont want to give up on her . She wants to make us work and will do anything now she got the shock when i packed her suitcase and she understands i am ready to walk away so my question is this

 

 

She is suffering from depression and claims she feels worthless and emotionless do i get her the help she needs and try and move past what she has done or is there to much water under the bridge and decide to let her go and move on with my life ?

 

Thanks for reading my story

 

Kyle

[PegNosePete]

Sorry to hear about the miscarriage. What a terrible thing to happen.

 

This my story and looking for help and advice . I truly love this girl and dont want to give up on her

My advice is: give up on her.

 

She has cheated on you, not once, not twice, not 3 times... how many? Sorry, I lost count.

 

She is a cheater and a compulsive liar.

 

If you believe she is not going to cheat again then I have a bridge to sell you.

[central]

She has cheated on you multiple times. As for the miscarriage - she may not have been pregnant by you, but you may never know.

[VeveCakes]

What happens if there is another miscarriage? Or a child dies?

 

The way people handle these situations tells you a lot about the person.

 

She needs major counselling if she is that depressed.

 

I think you deserve better.