K2z Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 ... in my case, broken box cutter blades lodged in my chest. What's your physical sensation? 1
jen1447 Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 I used to have the impression of being hit w/a sledgehammer when I'd wake up, whether that'd be in the morning or the numerous times I'd wake up thru the night. Or even from a nap. Not the physical pain of that, just like a literal feeling of a major blow shaking the body and so on. That and feeling like there was molasses in the brain or sth lol. 1
RocketQueen Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 In some ways the first few months or so I can hardly remember, I would get home from work and not really know how I'd made it through the day but in other ways I will never forget the all consuming blackness of it all. The little sleep I had offered no relief as I often dreamed about him- either that we were still together or that I was in some situation where he was hurtful and cruel, waking up was hard. I remember the hardest times were when I felt nothing at all, the angry phase I could deal with, the sadness phase I just rolled with but the realisation that this was it was the hardest. A year on I still have bad days but at times I was sure I might actually not get through this but I'm still alive and am realising my worth again. Ironically it would seem he's realising I'm not as bad as he thought too. 2
Author K2z Posted December 22, 2015 Author Posted December 22, 2015 Then there's the tear monsoons. Especially if you are a guy, you may not be prone to crying too much. But something or other will trigger a brief gush of tears. If you're in public you can hold them back. If you're at home you will facepalm and just heave for 15-20 seconds or so. Then back to the cold chest with the broken box cutters. 2
anonymousbear00101100 Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 I would say that anxious pre-stomach flu feeling. Sometimes when it first happened and I would try to sleep, I would realize that my heart has been pounding out of my chest for hours and it was just exhausting. I'm mostly fine now. I still think about her and miss her from time to time, but my body is fairly relaxed, and I can go about my day uninterrupted. 2
katiegrl Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 The cliche'd punch in the gut. The physical feeling is loss of appetite and nausea. Emotionally feel like I just lost a limb...and trying hard to function without it. 1
jen_r Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 Headache, I make myself sick from worrying and thinking etc. My chest feels heavy. 1
LostInNC Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 I feel like my experience is very surreal as if I am on the outside watching this weird show of life and things are so sharp and clear but i feel like my feet are stuck in the mud. I feel like this is not happening and not my life but I know it is. Almost 2 months later and I am still in the shock zone.
Captivating Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 (edited) Numbness in the first week, then the emotional roller coaster begins. Waking up in the morning and your stomach squeeze begins immediately. First you think about your ex all the time , replaying the last weeks spent together in your brain over and over again. Sudden urges of crying, you can hardly stop. Slowly these episodes subside over time. You have better days, then dark days. Up and down. You self doubt yourself and thinking that your ex is probably having the time of his/her life....these self inflected stupid thoughts driving you crazy. Then the anger stage starts. Then you realize that you need to cut this c r a p out and focus on yourself. In 3 months, you think less and less of your ex. The stomach stress is gone, you don't cry every day, maybe once every two weeks this is the withdrawal, it takes a LOOONG time ....and in a couple of months you won't care. You will find someone who is a better fit. I know it's hard to believe this now. Edited December 23, 2015 by Captivating
Pamvhv Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 I can't focus. I forget basic vocabulary. I keep screwing up at work. I was up for a promotion but now we'll have to wait and see. If I do eat I get violently ill. I get these random panic attacks where my pulse just feels too fast. I randomly cry over stupid things. Today I cried at Napa cabbage in the Safeway.
Author K2z Posted December 23, 2015 Author Posted December 23, 2015 and in a couple of months you won't care. You will find someone who is a better fit. For me, crazy came first, then bargaining, then numbness. And I don't know about that "couple of months" thing. It's gonna take a long damn time before I can muster up trust for a woman again, to say nothing of confidence and self-esteem within. I think maybe I need a visionquest. I've always wanted to cross the UK, or Scotland, or Ireland, on foot. Walking all day long for 8 hours and crashing at a little inn in the evening. Maybe this is the time to do it. 1
Heartbrokenguy80 Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 For me I will wake up very early every morning and I can't go back to sleep. My mind will flow with thoughts of her from the moment I open my eyes till the moment I sleep. Everything reminds me of her. The food, the place, the restaurants, the song, etc. everything. Tears will flow down when I am alone. I can't control it. Then I will have chest tightness and my heart will beat very fast. Then I'll imagine she together with other guys maybe sleeping or intimate with them. It sucks.
Thatmixedotaku Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 For me it's a burning sensation , deep in my chest. A pounding in my head,and a feeling of unrest that I can't get rid of no matter what I do. Also neusea when I think about it a lot . Not a pleasant experience
lemondrop21 Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 Something squeezing my chest. And the first couple nights, waking up gasping and drenched in sweat.
Captivating Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 For me, crazy came first, then bargaining, then numbness. And I don't know about that "couple of months" thing. It's gonna take a long damn time before I can muster up trust for a woman again, to say nothing of confidence and self-esteem within. I think maybe I need a visionquest. I've always wanted to cross the UK, or Scotland, or Ireland, on foot. Walking all day long for 8 hours and crashing at a little inn in the evening. Maybe this is the time to do it. K2z, Traveling sounds great, you should do it. About the couple of months I mentioned.....yes you are right. It takes longer to get over somebody completely. But in a half year time after the BU you will function well in life, you won't have sudden uges of crying in the grocery store etc. You will be fine. And YES you will find someone incredible again, and YES you will trust someone again.....be patient and keep an open mind. ttyl
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