cupcakebunny Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 I am almost 7 months from BU and doing better. I'm having more good than bad days -- and the bad moments are less of a pain spiral and more a 5 min. sob and then calm down. I just wanted to let people know that it does get better. It's a process but you will notice the pain starting to peter off. I was the dumper but it was more out of my emotional health and safety -- he was abusive. Parts of me still grieve the good times and the fact that I didn't want it to end but needed it to because I was so very unhappy. When I think about that, I start to get upset but I made a list of things that he did that I found particularly awful. Things I was either to afraid/embarrassed to tell anyone else at the time. Things that are sort of the big pillars of why I left and how they never changed 4 years in. I find this is important since months after the breakup, the hurt and unhappiness has faded, so I'm left missing the good times. So take heart it will get better but thought I would share what helped me to get through a slump. 1
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