adrian77 Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 (edited) I'm married now but when I was single I couldn't just sleep or fool around with someone. I had to know them well and be attracted to someone if I as going to be physical with them. My friend can just get with anyone (especially when she is drunk) she had no problem going down on any guy or letting them do the same to her. Hooking up with married guys in her car....I just could never do that. It takes a lot for me to be attracted to someone and when I was I would also be a bit shy as well. She gets with a few guys a week (from work, online, random guy at bar) and she is 41 and 100 lb overweight. I've been with 5 guys my whole life. She is a good person but I wonder she acts this way and why I never felt comfortable acting in that manner....plus I never got approached either like she does. I guess some men just know who the easier one is? Edited December 21, 2015 by adrian77
TheArtist Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Yeah, sounds kind of like you've got yourself a little slutty friend there. No offense of course. 100lb overweight and clearly has no problem in doing stuff to strangers, well, that's an end-of-the-evening-drunk-man's-playground. It's definitely not you.
mssweet Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 No you're not a prude. The difference is that you have class and morals and she simply doesn't. I mean, she's screwing married men in her car?!
Author adrian77 Posted December 22, 2015 Author Posted December 22, 2015 I also wonder how so many men want to be with a women who very overweight and not attractive face wise? I know that when I struggled with 30 extra lbs I had trouble meeting people.
introverted1 Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 Why does this matter to you, OP? It sounds to me like you are seeking validation for your lifestyle choices versus your friend's, but the only thing that really matters is that you are happy in how you lead your life and she in hers. 5
basil67 Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 (edited) I also wonder how so many men want to be with a women who very overweight and not attractive face wise? I know that when I struggled with 30 extra lbs I had trouble meeting people. So much for the class and morals which a previous poster mentioned. Put your claws away. Edited December 22, 2015 by basil67 3
Author adrian77 Posted December 22, 2015 Author Posted December 22, 2015 Huh? I have no claws. I just wonder how some people get a lot of attention and some don't. It just seems like you have to come off as easy to get it.
smackie9 Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 Your friend is being self destructive. She is possibly seeking validation though risky sexual behavior. I have a friend that was like that...same thing, struggled with her weight, but she also suffered from depression. She even told me the attention made her feel desired and special, which was better than what she normally felt like. It was almost like an addiction....she told me she just could help herself, chasing that emotion.
Gaeta Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 You only post questions about your friend sex life and you posted that very same question on September 9th. You are obsessed with her, why? Are you bored in your marriage? 2
smackie9 Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 BTW a woman that offers sex, a lot of men won't turn it down, no matter how over weight, unattractive she is, .....especially if it's a quick BJ, it's a done deal. Like I hear some many guys say....it's just a hole they put their dick into. Your friend is offering the sex, she isn't the one that is being approached unless they already know her deal.
basil67 Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 Huh? I have no claws. I just wonder how some people get a lot of attention and some don't. It just seems like you have to come off as easy to get it. Perhaps it's to do with their personality and not their appearance. 1
bathtub-row Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 This is very disturbing behavior. Women who typically do this kind of thing have extremely low self-esteem and high needs for attention, to say the least. There's not anything you can do about it but you will probably find that this friendship will fizzle out eventually because you have so little in common.
introverted1 Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 You only post questions about your friend sex life and you posted that very same question on September 9th. You are obsessed with her, why? Are you bored in your marriage? And on September 13th, September 27th, and October 10th. You seem obsessed with your "friend," and decidedly unfriendly in how you depict her. 3
bathtub-row Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 Huh? I have no claws. I just wonder how some people get a lot of attention and some don't. It just seems like you have to come off as easy to get it. It's not hard to get a man's attention when he knows you're an easy target. This is not the kind of attention you want.
kendahke Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 (edited) She does what she does because of the life experiences she's had which have made her who she is today. You do what you do because of the life experiences you've had which make you who you are today. You can't compare your lives because you had two totally different experiences in the years leading up to now. I'm married now but when I was single I couldn't just sleep or fool around with someone. I had to know them well and be attracted to someone if I as going to be physical with them. My friend can just get with anyone (especially when she is drunk) she had no problem going down on any guy or letting them do the same to her. Hooking up with married guys in her car....I just could never do that. It takes a lot for me to be attracted to someone and when I was I would also be a bit shy as well. She gets with a few guys a week (from work, online, random guy at bar) and she is 41 and 100 lb overweight. I've been with 5 guys my whole life. She is a good person but I wonder she acts this way and why I never felt comfortable acting in that manner....plus I never got approached either like she does. I guess some men just know who the easier one is? Huh? I have no claws. I just wonder how some people get a lot of attention and some don't. It just seems like you have to come off as easy to get itYou're married, so why does it matter? Certain types of men gravitate towards her because there is something about her that attracts them to her. She meets their preference in some way, shape or form. They aren't the men that would gravitate towards you, nor should they since you say you're a married woman. So yeah, clearly there's no need to wonder about any of that. But the bolded above has to do with your judgmental attitude towards her and perhaps you're trying to figure out if you're better than her and if so, why are all these men gravitating towards her when you're the better of the two of you? But you're married, so it really shouldn't matter. Edited December 22, 2015 by kendahke 2
crederer Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 I also wonder how so many men want to be with a women who very overweight and not attractive face wise? I know that when I struggled with 30 extra lbs I had trouble meeting people. I don't mean this to be offensive, but are you jealous that an overweight, unnattractive woman is getting more attention than you? Because there are some real psychological reasons why this happens that I will shed light on for you if that's the case. If not...carry on. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 You're married, so why does it matter? . I was wondering this myself. Seems kind of silly for the OP to be asking if she's a prude when she isn't single/dating. All that matters is the relationship between her and her husband. But it's perfectly OK to be a concerned friend IMO. I mean if you care about a friend and they're making self destructive choices, it's natural to want to look out for them. However, comparing her dating/sexual choices to yours and figuring out if you're a "prude" seems null/void when you're married. 1
dads new boyfriend Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 I also wonder how so many men want to be with a women who very overweight and not attractive face wise? Most men would stick their willy in a blender with a wig. We're a shameful lot.
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