Bobbi7 Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Guys that enjoy wasting time...for example, they message, suggest to exchanges numbers. We text, then nothing. No hints of meeting up, just asking questions, then they don't bother contacting me again.
losangelena Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 What kinds of questions are they asking you? What kind of answers are you giving? 1
lilmissjava Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 This happens to me all the time. That's why I am taking a break. The thing with OLD is that there is always a "next" And it works both ways 1
Author Bobbi7 Posted December 21, 2015 Author Posted December 21, 2015 What kinds of questions are they asking you? What kind of answers are you giving? Just basic getting to know you questions. Where I live, work, do for fun. Everything that is on my profile. What a waste.
Author Bobbi7 Posted December 21, 2015 Author Posted December 21, 2015 This happens to me all the time. That's why I am taking a break. The thing with OLD is that there is always a "next" And it works both ways I might delete mine too. I'm tired of the bs. It's like guys complain all the time how hard they have it and when someone is showing interest on OLD, they think they can do better with a click of a button.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 LOL - that reminds me of the all-too-typical male personality in the chatrooms which were so plentiful in the late 1990's. They'd be so incapable of speaking to women, or unsure of themselves (in conversation with anyone or anything), that they'd ask "what color panties are you wearing?" ... JUST to see if women would answer them!! And whether a made-up color was offered in response, OR a true answer was given, the same male personalities caused themselves to feel (somehow) 'intimate' for having had the interaction. Maybe this is the same thing... 1
apefu Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Guys that enjoy wasting time...for example, they message, suggest to exchanges numbers. We text, then nothing. No hints of meeting up, just asking questions, then they don't bother contacting me again. no. what guys do are send up a lot of messages, every couple weeks someone responds, every few months he is able to get a date, then she disappears. girls have so much power. but girls fail at it because most go for the same few percent of guys. 2
Zippy2000 Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Thats the same with women. Talk and exchange numbers and then nothing. The reason why people do this is they believe they have found someone better or just changed their minds.
Rejected Rosebud Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 I don't think it's because they are guys ...
Samhain Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 Couple of guys have asked why women do it too. Sounds to me like it's just one of the things that goes with OLD. And as a few people have previously said, it probably is that they just found a better prospect. No loss, it's not like you knew them anyway. Just out of interest, you don't use the same name on your OLD profiles as you do on here do you.. Because maybe a few of them had station wagons. 2
Gaeta Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 Guys that enjoy wasting time...for example, they message, suggest to exchanges numbers. We text, then nothing. No hints of meeting up, just asking questions, then they don't bother contacting me again. You need to take control of your dating experience. No, in all of my dating experience, and it's quite impressive I have been online almost 4 years and met about 150 men. No, no one wasted my time on text. (They wasted it otherwise but not on text) A) I only give my number to someone who wants to set up a meeting. I am in the business of finding a man to meet, not in the business to make a contact on text or email. B) When I come across someone that doesn't show sustained interest I move to next. There are millions of men online. I am not gonna run out of men if I dump the stoopid ones. C) I only responded to messages from men in the category <looking for a serious relationship>. The rest of them I ignored. And when those men in the long term category messaged me I STILL asked them right away 'what are you looking for'. If the answer was not satisfying I would wish them luck and moved on. Honestly Bobbi, you attract half of your bad luck by being all over the place with no guide lines about what you want. 3
Wewon Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 This sounds like a typical OLD experience for both genders. There's clearly something about having a ton of options that causes people to behave like they're at a buffet. 1
StBreton Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 (edited) Just basic getting to know you questions. Where I live, work, do for fun. Everything that is on my profile. What a waste. Wait...you tell them where you live and work? Why are you texting re: what you do for fun? Why not just text with a "hey what's up?" and make a plan to meet. I did OLD for about a year and didn't have any of what you speak happen. We texted some light hearted banter back and forth for a few days and figured out time/place to meet then met. No one asked me where I lived/worked...my general location was listed on the dating site as well as my interests. Every guy (but one...and I decided not to meet him) said he would meet where ever I felt comfortable so there was no need to talk about where I lived/worked. Maybe you're losing the guys in conversation...maybe the banter just doesn't feel right for them and they move on? You do kind of ask some strange questions/make some strange statements on this forum so just a thought. How about providing specific text chats so us posters can gauge for ourselves what might be happening. Edited December 22, 2015 by StBreton
phineas Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 This sounds like a typical OLD experience for both genders. There's clearly something about having a ton of options that causes people to behave like they're at a buffet. Pretty much this. I do however stop texting women if they give me one or two word answers or are boring over text. If they aren't asking me questions also I assume they are just bored & i am almost always right.
Redhead14 Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 Guys that enjoy wasting time...for example, they message, suggest to exchanges numbers. We text, then nothing. No hints of meeting up, just asking questions, then they don't bother contacting me again. They are only wasting your time if you let them by sitting there fretting and wondering . . . 1
SwordofFlame Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 People do indeed change their mind after exchanging a few messages. Or someone better came along.
phineas Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 People do indeed change their mind after exchanging a few messages. Or someone better came along. This is true. That's why every time I refresh my photo's I hit up those same women again. Most times, they won't even remember me & I may end up getting a date.
Author Bobbi7 Posted December 23, 2015 Author Posted December 23, 2015 You need to take control of your dating experience. No, in all of my dating experience, and it's quite impressive I have been online almost 4 years and met about 150 men. No, no one wasted my time on text. (They wasted it otherwise but not on text) A) I only give my number to someone who wants to set up a meeting. I am in the business of finding a man to meet, not in the business to make a contact on text or email. B) When I come across someone that doesn't show sustained interest I move to next. There are millions of men online. I am not gonna run out of men if I dump the stoopid ones. C) I only responded to messages from men in the category <looking for a serious relationship>. The rest of them I ignored. And when those men in the long term category messaged me I STILL asked them right away 'what are you looking for'. If the answer was not satisfying I would wish them luck and moved on. Honestly Bobbi, you attract half of your bad luck by being all over the place with no guide lines about what you want. Yeah, I Nexted a few guys over his one word answers and half ass responses. A few times I suggested meeting up, and specifically told them to plan something out, it's not that hard for a guy to plan out something, then they ask me-"what do you have in mind?" I was like wth? I don't want to plan a first meeting! I don't have a penis for gods sake!
Author Bobbi7 Posted December 23, 2015 Author Posted December 23, 2015 Wait...you tell them where you live and work? Why are you texting re: what you do for fun? Why not just text with a "hey what's up?" and make a plan to meet. I did OLD for about a year and didn't have any of what you speak happen. We texted some light hearted banter back and forth for a few days and figured out time/place to meet then met. No one asked me where I lived/worked...my general location was listed on the dating site as well as my interests. Every guy (but one...and I decided not to meet him) said he would meet where ever I felt comfortable so there was no need to talk about where I lived/worked. Maybe you're losing the guys in conversation...maybe the banter just doesn't feel right for them and they move on? You do kind of ask some strange questions/make some strange statements on this forum so just a thought. How about providing specific text chats so us posters can gauge for ourselves what might be happening. No, I don't give my address or the name of the place of where I work at. duh. They ask what part of town I live at and vice versa, then the most commonly asked question, what do you do for a living. I think knowing what a guy does for a living-the name of his profession is a dealbreaker whether you want to meet them or not.
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