sportygirl89 Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 This is the friend I had a fall out. Initially she was the one who started it. She said the gift was thoughtful. I told her I wanted to move past the incident from the end of the summer. So far nothing. I don't get it. Most people are given a second chance. But I can't and won't force a friendship. She's younger than me so I don't think she is as mature as I am. She does not handle confrontation well.
d0nnivain Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Know you tried, then let it go. When somebody walks out of your life, don't chase them. 3
Author sportygirl89 Posted December 21, 2015 Author Posted December 21, 2015 Yeah I haven't but most normal people would give someone a second chance. One of my friends reminded me that some people are only in our lives for a short life time. So it is what it is. 1
preraph Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 I'm not much of a "second chance" person. Because I'm very decisive. I know if something has happened that I'm not going to be comfortable with and I know people don't usually change that easily. Just move on. There's someone for everyone, they say, even in friends.
Author sportygirl89 Posted December 22, 2015 Author Posted December 22, 2015 I'm not much of a "second chance" person. Because I'm very decisive. I know if something has happened that I'm not going to be comfortable with and I know people don't usually change that easily. Just move on. There's someone for everyone, they say, even in friends. The sad thing is that she initiated the incident. This whole thing could have been avoided IMO. But not wasting my time on her if she's not be receptive to whatever reason. I'm pretty happy with my life and this I felt like was weighing me down. I've noticed a lot more happiness not caring so much about it the past few days. I just don't know why she's being childish and not even being civil to the point of saying hi to me at church. I don't have to do all the work all the time. I've felt like I had to with this friendship.
basil67 Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 The sad thing is that she initiated the incident. This whole thing could have been avoided IMO. But not wasting my time on her if she's not be receptive to whatever reason. I'm pretty happy with my life and this I felt like was weighing me down. I've noticed a lot more happiness not caring so much about it the past few days. I just don't know why she's being childish and not even being civil to the point of saying hi to me at church. I don't have to do all the work all the time. I've felt like I had to with this friendship. She may have initiated the incident, but perhaps your reaction was way of of perspective with the initial thing. We really can't play a blame game without getting both sides of the story. But I agree about not giving everyone a second chance. Sometimes a person behaves so badly that you simply need to write them out of your life.
Author sportygirl89 Posted December 22, 2015 Author Posted December 22, 2015 She may have initiated the incident, but perhaps your reaction was way of of perspective with the initial thing. We really can't play a blame game without getting both sides of the story. But I agree about not giving everyone a second chance. Sometimes a person behaves so badly that you simply need to write them out of your life. If anyone should have quit being friends with someone. I should have been the one to do it. I always had to initiate any contact.
basil67 Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 If anyone should have quit being friends with someone. I should have been the one to do it. I always had to initiate any contact. And in a previous post you made other complaints about her. I really don't understand why you're spending any time thinking about her. Surely the death of this friendship is a good thing for you
Author sportygirl89 Posted December 23, 2015 Author Posted December 23, 2015 And in a previous post you made other complaints about her. I really don't understand why you're spending any time thinking about her. Surely the death of this friendship is a good thing for you People and especially girls amaze me. Lol. My volunteer organization is mostly guys so its so much more relaxing!
basil67 Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 People and especially girls amaze me. Lol. My volunteer organization is mostly guys so its so much more relaxing! Yep. Save your time for people who aren't hard work
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