anonymousbear00101100 Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 (edited) Apologize for the length in advance. Back in February, my ex and I broke up. This girl from my school immediately clung to me. We started talking and she was very nice and complimented me and made me feel really good about myself and not lonely while I was trying to get over my ex (who I still very much loved). However, she started to make it kind of obvious that she liked me and wanted to date me. I told her that I had just gotten out of a relationship, and didn't want to date her or anybody for a long time. She said okay. So we continued talking and being friends. But she started sexting me. Quite often. She would send me nudes all the time and sometimes we would talk dirty. It got to be a little much though. She started sending nudes all the time, unsolicited, to the point where it wasn't cute or fun anymore. I still talked to her because I was very lonely and she made me feel good about myself. She wanted to actually have sex, which was fine by me, but again I told her (this was probably time number four now) that I still had feelings for my ex. If FWB was fine with her, then it was fine by me, but she shouldn't get any ideas of a relationship. She kept saying of course. I could tell it wasn't fine with her, but I was dumb. She continued sexting me, but I kept putting off actually doing anything because she kind of freaked me out a little bit. My ex and I ended up getting back together towards the end of February, and this other girl absolutely freaked out. She posted pictures of our conversations on Twitter and tried getting everybody to hate me. The nudes continued to pour in with captions like "See what you're missing". She told me that I led her on and now she was bulimic and that if I didn't date her she'd kill herself. Holy ****, it was like a movie. There was times I was afraid to come to school because I thought she'd beat up my girlfriend or me or my car. I ended up convincing her to take down the pictures and not kill herself. Nothing ever came out of her meltdown. Everybody just pretty much thought she was nuts and felt bad for me and my girlfriend. Not a great way to restart a relationship, but we worked through it and were very happy together. That lasted until early November when we broke up again (totally unrelated circumstances). About a week ago this same girl texted me again, and like an idiot I responded. I thought maybe she had changed and she was nice and could be a good friend. I talked to her for a little while and we didn't say anything for a few days. But Saturday night I was feeling lonely and weak, and when she texted me I responded again. After a couple of hours of nice conversation, she busted out some nudes and begged me to come over. I lied and said I was out of town. She started texting me today too, and I've just been kind of side stepping all of her attempts to dirty talk with me. She's manipulative and psychotic. Just the thought of her is repulsing. I can't say "Just leave me alone" because she will go bat **** crazy. I can't just ignore her because she won't leave me alone. She said her goal was to have sex with me by the end of the year which I replied "No thanks" to. She said "Oh trust me, it will happen". She seems to believe that sending me a bunch of naked pictures and having sex with me will make me like her. We don't even go to the same school anymore since we graduated. Why won't she leave me alone? How do I make this girl go away without setting her off and making her go crazy again? Edit: To make it extra clear, I did not ever have sex with this girl. We talked and hung out in person, but I don't think we ever so much as hugged. Edited December 21, 2015 by rjblak13
Erik30 Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 I think your only option is to block her on all media, because she won't leave you alone and you can't reason with her. She probably will talk s*** about you to other people after that, but you just have to trust that your real friends won't believe her. I was in a very similar situation, same with the sexting and nude pictures while never doing anything irl. When she was mad, she would show people screenhots of our conversations, which made me look like a jerk since she only showed my reply to her nasty comments. I lost some acquaintances who were closer to her, but most people knew there was something wrong with this girl. It turned out she was a narcissist, who often didn't take her medication. I blocked her. The first couple of months I got calls from a private number... every day. I'm sure it was her, but eventually it stopped. She probably found some new guy 2
Toodaloo Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Go no contact with both girls and give yourself the gift of a peaceful happy Christmas. Block them on your phone, social media etc. The only way is to just ignore, block and delete. Give yourself a break. If you want some attention call your guy friends and go do stuff with them instead.
Fleur de cactus Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 You are allowing this to happen by responding to her msg . If you want to put an end on this . Block her. 1
Glitters Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Prepare yourself for the day when your girlfriend finds out about it. She will be a permanent ex. You are not an innocent victim here. The word will spread and you will have a tough time getting another serious gf
CarrieT Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Block. Block. Block. Silence will give her the message and she will eventually go away on her own.
xcupid Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Why are you even responding to her?! Block her. Delete her. Stay away from her. Have no contact with her.
SweetCharity Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Though I'm finding it really hard to feel sorry for you no one should be harassed like this. Block her. When you respond to her you encourage her.
DrReplyInRhymes Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Well, a solution you may try, however wrong it may be, Is to tell her something that is outlandish, then block her immediately, It's not the best idea, and can have many outcomes I must say, But you could always just tell her that nothing can happen because you are gay.
karokarol Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 there is nothing you can do to fix her, and whatever happened, it is not your responsibility. walk away by blocking her and stop worrying about it. she has a family, and they are the ones who will need to take care of her.
Leucine Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Geez, why didn't you just f*** her in the first place? You would have gotten laid and she would have been content with reaching her "goal" and none of this would've taken place.
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