geronimo Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 I'm pretty sure its the "should be studying for exams, but lets think about your ex" feels talking but man I miss her. I'm pretty much over it, but there are days and times where I just start thinking about her and missing her and hoping we were together. Christmas time sure doesn't help since we used to go all out for Christmas and I don't really celebrate christmas at home but ever since her and I got together we made our own Christmas traditions. Everyone says I can do better and that I boost her in my head but I still can't help but feel ****ty about the fact that she left me for someone else. Doesn't help the fact that they're still together, I thought it might have been a rebound or something and that she would be done with him by now but it doesn't seem like it. Yes I'm doing NC have been for a while, I just know that they're still together from friends. I know everyone moves at their own pace but I really thought she was like me and was in our relationship for the long run. Also the fact that she jumped into another guys arms and kissed him like a few weeks after we broke up just makes me want to throw up. I still have not even kissed another girl cuz I just don't have it in me to do it unless I feel for the person I am with. Anyways just venting here, should get back to studying for my exam. Thanks for listening/reading. 1
anonymousbear00101100 Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 I know how you're feeling man. I had finals last week, and I found I spent more time on LS than usual when I was supposed to be studying. Boredom and misery are great friends. Hanging out with friends, meeting new people, and just staying active are the best ways to cope, but there are definitely times when being bored is unavoidable. I am also apart of the "my ex kissed another guy a week after we broke up" club. Based on what I found out about myself, I think this pains you for one of two (or some of both) reasons: 1. You have yet to fully accept this. Some part of you still believe that you and her will be together in the future. You want her to be faithful to your future relationship, and being with other men hurts since you are still staying faithful. 2. You are insecure and believe that her being with him lessens your value. You think she likes him more than she liked you. The fact that you haven't found another partner as fast as she has makes you feel like she was "better" one in the relationship, and that you were just lucky to have her. This isn't a competition. Just because she is faster to a new man doesn't mean she'll be happier in the end than you. You just have to continue focusing on yourself, and realize that happiness is in your future. Never doubt yourself. 1
Author geronimo Posted December 21, 2015 Author Posted December 21, 2015 Bro, you have got this down. That is exactly how I feel. And you're absolutely right, boredom and misery loves company. Also the two reasons you have given are pretty solid. #1 not so much, I am pretty much at the place where I have accepted the breakup and have accepted the fact that she may never come back but yea theres always going to be that little glimmer of hope that maybe one day, years from now we might meet again and make it work, but thats just a fantasy and deep down I know that. #2 tho, it pains me to say it but its exactly how I feel. And yea I know it isn't a competition and I'm pretty sure she isn't all that happy in this relationship from the things I have heard but than again I don't know exactly whats going on and it wouldn't make sense for her to still be in this relationship if she wasn't happy. Thanks alot man, this really helped! All the best to you too. 1
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