justagirl15 Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 This tinder guy deleted me off Facebook but when I messaged him earlier, he suggest we go out to lunch sometime next week since I am leaving for a 1 month break soon. We work next to each other. Why would he still reply to my text message if he blocked me on FB? I am thinking that maybe he does not want to hurt my feelings? I am confused and I don't even know if I should go. We do not see each other often (Maybe 3 times so far within a month) and we do not text each other also. Usually do not even meet on the weekend (only lunch during work) and a movie once. I am the one who initiates most of the time to hang out. I am sure he doesn't like me...but I do. I don't know why he still responds if he does not like me but blocks me -_-. Should I still approach him or will that be annoying? We are 7ish years apart. I am 22.
Buddhist Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 This tinder guy deleted me off Facebook but when I messaged him earlier, he suggest we go out to lunch sometime next week since I am leaving for a 1 month break soon. We work next to each other. Why would he still reply to my text message if he blocked me on FB? I am thinking that maybe he does not want to hurt my feelings? No. He doesn't want you to know he has a girlfriend most likely, or doesn't want his gf finding you on his Facebook. He's covering his own ass not yours. 3
Author justagirl15 Posted December 21, 2015 Author Posted December 21, 2015 No. He doesn't want you to know he has a girlfriend most likely, or doesn't want his gf finding you on his Facebook. He's covering his own ass not yours. I am very, very sure he does not have a girlfriend. He adds one or two girls on FB occassionally and we do not msg on FB at all. I just don't see why he blocked me only.
Author justagirl15 Posted December 21, 2015 Author Posted December 21, 2015 Our last conversation went well, although it was couple days ago. My only guess is he met someone and that is why he is cutting out other girls? I still do not see why you have to block someone unless you hates them
Buddhist Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Our last conversation went well, although it was couple days ago. My only guess is he met someone and that is why he is cutting out other girls? I still do not see why you have to block someone unless you hates them Because he doesn't want you knowing about his life. Simple. Spin that anyway you like. 1
frus69 Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Why do you care what this tinder guy does? Are you expecting something like a relationship happening here??
Author justagirl15 Posted December 21, 2015 Author Posted December 21, 2015 Why do you care what this tinder guy does? Are you expecting something like a relationship happening here?? I do not, but I want this guy in my life because I like him a lot. I knos a relationship is not in the question.
Author justagirl15 Posted December 21, 2015 Author Posted December 21, 2015 Why do you care what this tinder guy does? Are you expecting something like a relationship happening here?? Why would he still reply then?
frus69 Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 I do not, but I want this guy in my life because I like him a lot. I knos a relationship is not in the question. Why would he still reply then? Because he will take it if you offer so he will still reply to you But he does not want anything substantial with you so feel no need to let you in his life. Since you don't expect a relationship, then just sex left on the table. Im sure he will take it if you offer so why care whether you are in his life or not
Author justagirl15 Posted December 21, 2015 Author Posted December 21, 2015 Because he will take it if you offer so he will still reply to you But he does not want anything substantial with you so feel no need to let you in his life. Since you don't expect a relationship, then just sex left on the table. Im sure he will take it if you offer so why care whether you are in his life or not We never did anything sexually and is always really polite towards each other...so i do not think that is on his mind. I won't hook up with him either.
Buddhist Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 We never did anything sexually and is always really polite towards each other...so i do not think that is on his mind. I won't hook up with him either. Then WHY is this posted in a dating forum?
basil67 Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 The most common reason for blocking people on FB is because their posts are annoying. Think about what your feed looks like
frus69 Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 We never did anything sexually and is always really polite towards each other...so i do not think that is on his mind. I won't hook up with him either. Duh just because it hasn't happened yet doesn't mean it's not on his agenda? And if you don't want sex and relationship is not possible, then what do you want?
ExpatInItaly Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Duh just because it hasn't happened yet doesn't mean it's not on his agenda? And if you don't want sex and relationship is not possible, then what do you want? This? OP, this doesn't make sense. Why exactly are you in contact with him? To be friends?
Author justagirl15 Posted December 21, 2015 Author Posted December 21, 2015 Duh just because it hasn't happened yet doesn't mean it's not on his agenda? And if you don't want sex and relationship is not possible, then what do you want? I really like him but I do not think he likes me since he never makes a move on me. I don't mind going out with him as friends and spend time together without the relationship. He is at the age where he wants to settle and I do not think I am the girl he wanted. I know because he never really brings me into his life. For me, he likes me it is cool. If he doesn't, it is totally fine also. I am just confused about why he would block me when he is still willing to spend time and money to hang out with me.
Author justagirl15 Posted December 21, 2015 Author Posted December 21, 2015 This? OP, this doesn't make sense. Why exactly are you in contact with him? To be friends? I don't mind just the friendship, but if a relationship comes..I will be happy too
Versacehottie Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 I am very, very sure he does not have a girlfriend. He adds one or two girls on FB occassionally and we do not msg on FB at all. I just don't see why he blocked me only. Ok, well if he does not have a gf or someone he wants to become his gf, then he just simply wants you to be a hook up and only a hook up. If he was ok adding you before and has you blocked now, that's most likely what it is. He wants you in his life for the hook up only and is covering himself. I sense that because it changed (he friended you before and now blocked), he was either going along with that initially to get what he wanted (to hook up with you) OR something in his life has changed (he has clarity about what he wants from you, ie nothing more than hook up OR things are moving in a good direction with another girl and he doesn't want your presence to mess that up). 1
truth_seeker Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Amazing how the guy treats you as you're nothing to him, and here you are wanting him more and more. For him to block you means he doesn't want you seeing what's going on his FB. Maybe there's another girl he's in a relationship with or he likes better. He doesn't want you possibly interfering with that (you start stalking this girl, contacting her to find out what's going on). Sounds like is holding onto you for either sex or if his other options don't pan out. 1
truth_seeker Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 (edited) OP, I see this a lot, and in the past I was guilty of this myself -- we're too sensitive and let others get in our heads. Take this a learning lesson and build thicker skin for the future. The next guy who behaves this way towards you, don't let it get to you, drop him and move on. Consider it "good riddance". Edited December 22, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Redhead14 Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 This tinder guy deleted me off Facebook but when I messaged him earlier, he suggest we go out to lunch sometime next week since I am leaving for a 1 month break soon. We work next to each other. Why would he still reply to my text message if he blocked me on FB? I am thinking that maybe he does not want to hurt my feelings? I am confused and I don't even know if I should go. We do not see each other often (Maybe 3 times so far within a month) and we do not text each other also. Usually do not even meet on the weekend (only lunch during work) and a movie once. I am the one who initiates most of the time to hang out. I am sure he doesn't like me...but I do. I don't know why he still responds if he does not like me but blocks me -_-. Should I still approach him or will that be annoying? We are 7ish years apart. I am 22. I am the one who initiates most of the time to hang out. I am sure he doesn't like me...but I do -- this is the reason for a woman to sit back and let the make do the majority of initiating in the very beginning -- because if she's doing it all, she wonders whether or not he would do it himself. She should be responsive and receptive (if she's interested enough so he knows she's interested), but leave it to him for a little while. Him blocking you on Facebook means squat. Perhaps since he doesn't know you well enough yet, he doesn't want to let you into his social "world" because technically, it's none of your business. Leave him alone and observe. Let him reach out to you first. You prompting him will only leave you still wonder whether he responds to be polite or is sincerely interested? Let him demonstrate his interest. You've been initiating, so he definitely knows you're interested.
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