whattodo791 Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 So I just finished up college. The past month of that I met a girl that I really liked. We hit it off and did a decent amount together despite us both being really busy with graduation. We also started spending the night together during that time. Without getting into details, she made it clear that she liked me and casually suggested a few times that I find work near her. The thing is that she moved three hours north. I'm also seeking work in that area so there is a chance that I could end up living near her, but for the time being I'm staying where I am now. I'm trying to get a different job ASAP and her area is the best place for my field. Currently I'm visiting family across the country for the holidays and we've been texting. The thing is that she's really sporadic with her texting. When we do get into conversations, it's usually lengthy and pretty flirty. But than sometimes she'll leave me hanging for a day or so without a response. Usually I prefer girls who are more responsive, but I understand that she's busy and we're not committed to each other. When she does text me it's evident that she's interested, but not responding for 24 hours makes me feel the other way. I don't know if she's genuinely busy, unable to text back, or is just ignoring me for periods. I have noticed that when she's on fb or social media she always responds; so I don't know what to think. Normally I would just drop it and cut communication with her because of the delicate situation and uncertainty, but I really like this girl. I don't want a LTR but if I do get a job up near her than I would be interested in taking things further. Right now I'm tempted to be upfront and ask her if we should keep communicating, I love talking to her when she does respond but I also hate being left hanging; and I know that I can find other girls. Is this the right thing to do? I've never asked her why she doesn't respond, but am tempted to know this too. I'd like to know these things so I know where I stand as to not waste anymore of my time. I never barrage her with messages when she doesn't respond. I just let it be and wait to see if she hits me back. I'm not going to come off as desperate. What to do? I can give more details if necessary.
Author whattodo791 Posted December 21, 2015 Author Posted December 21, 2015 Or should I drop communcation with her, unless she initiates it; keep my options open, and if I end up in her area let her know?
Space Ritual Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 IDK but 24 hours is not a lot of time. I have seen a few threads started recently about texting and the etiquette that goes with it and for some reason people tend to be pretty impatient. Seriously 24 hours is nothing. If it took a week for somebody to get back to me I would not pursue it any further, but 24 hours? Sadly I think that you are putting the cart before the horse here. You are across the country right now. What about giving her a ring on the horn if it's bugging you that much? Delicate situation and uncertainty? LMFAO What are you doing? Writing Foreign Policy briefs on Syria? Come on man you can't be that anxious over a chick can you? It's the Holiday season, bro! You need to step back and just let go of the outcome. You are getting way too far ahead of yourself. Give her a call tomorrow during the day and exchange small talk.
Author whattodo791 Posted December 21, 2015 Author Posted December 21, 2015 (edited) IDK but 24 hours is not a lot of time. I have seen a few threads started recently about texting and the etiquette that goes with it and for some reason people tend to be pretty impatient. Seriously 24 hours is nothing. If it took a week for somebody to get back to me I would not pursue it any further, but 24 hours? Sadly I think that you are putting the cart before the horse here. You are across the country right now. What about giving her a ring on the horn if it's bugging you that much? Delicate situation and uncertainty? LMFAO What are you doing? Writing Foreign Policy briefs on Syria? Come on man you can't be that anxious over a chick can you? It's the Holiday season, bro! You need to step back and just let go of the outcome. You are getting way too far ahead of yourself. Give her a call tomorrow during the day and exchange small talk. Thanks for the response. And I'm only temporarily across the country. You're right. I need to just drop it all. She always responds eventually and it's never been negative. I don't know why I get myself worked up. And if it doesn't work out, than that's a distance problem and out of my hands. I've just usually dated people who respond immediately am an not used to other styles. I feel a little stupid posting this question haha Edited December 21, 2015 by whattodo791
Glitters Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Texts take how long to type ? Even if someone is extremely busy, thru don't stay busy continuously for 24 hours. Taking 2 minutes is not tough, even if to just say , very busy but read your text , will reply later Take it as a no , don't wait. She might come back though with some excuse. It's up to you to decide what you would do then.
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