LVN6 Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Hello everyone, Going straight to my topic. While i was having a conversation (texting) with my girlfriend, i did the mistake of saying something i should not. It was a simple but stupid argument, that led to a misunderstanding. The point is that she has been misunderstood, and after that has gotten cold and distant. I have already apologised, however like in most situations, when she says, "it is okay - no problem", it is only concealing it, simply. After that, she has simply stopped texting me first, and probably has broken up with me.(Leaves you questioning that). However, if i text her, she will get into conversation, but only with brief messages and just being cold.(Like she does not know you). In this point i think i should not keep texting her. Anyway, how would be the best possible way to take it from here? Should i keep the normal flow of messaging, but making it less frequent, or should i give her space, and wait for her to text me, going completely silent? What do you say? PS: We are talking about an ldr. Thnx!
Smilecharmer Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Maybe just try to find other friends whom aren't so sensitive since you meant no harm. Just ghost out.
Chi townD Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 All depends on how bad this thing that you said to her. I think that she's now trying to distance herself from the relationship. She's probably going to end it. I don't mean to sound so negative. But, I just want you to prepare yourself because that's the direction I see this is heading.
CarrieT Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Why don't you forget about TEXTING and try TALKING?!?! Don't you know how much can be communicated through voice inflection and heartfelt words? 1
Author LVN6 Posted December 21, 2015 Author Posted December 21, 2015 Thank you all for your feedback! @Smilecharmer I am not sure if it is about being sensitive or just a really bad immature characteristic.. @Chi townD indeed. This is how it goes most times. Not that bad really. I just made fun of a board game and generally the people who play it, and probably some people close to her do play that. However, the base point i made this topic was to get some opinions from this point on, meaning should i keep texting her or just ignore her? @CarrieT Good point, but she does not like talking that much. We most times text. Hence why i mentioned on my post the (texting) when i wrote conversation.
Chi townD Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Dude, she's puling away and you feel it too or else you wouldn't have come on here. If it were me, I would pull back as well. But, I think this might be the end. Unless, something extraordinary happens.
ExpatInItaly Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 [QUOTE=LVN6;6699471]Thank you all for your feedback! @Smilecharmer I am not sure if it is about being sensitive or just a really bad immature characteristic.. @Chi townD indeed. This is how it goes most times. Not that bad really. I just made fun of a board game and generally the people who play it, and probably some people close to her do play that. However, the base point i made this topic was to get some opinions from this point on, meaning should i keep texting her or just ignore her? @CarrieT Good point, but she does not like talking that much. We most times text. Hence why i mentioned on my post the (texting) when i wrote conversation. But you can see communication is very impaired when you rely only on texting, especially when conflict arises. You're not going to get anything resolved if only she decides when and if to speak on the phone. A mature relationship needs communication from both sides, and texting is a piss-poor conduit for argument-resolution. Be the bigger person here and call her. Ignoring her is silly and won't help. If she can't handle a phone-call when there is clearly a problem, you might want to consider her maturity level and thus preparedness to be in a relationship. You say this was a relatively stupid argument; if she's reacting this way now, what would happen if a serious problem came up?
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