Mjm1014 Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Okay so this sucks I guess this is more of a vent post more than anything (and had one or two beers lol). I'm going on 29 years old, and just accepted a job with an airline in a different city. This is literally my dream job because it's in the same town where my family is. Problem is, I don't even start for another 3 months and training will take up to 6-8 months (in a totally different city than I'll finally be living in). When I finally make it, I'll be traveling up to 18 days a month until I finally build up seniority in the company..I'm at the age I obviously really want to date and finally meet someone, but I feel like every time I finally get settled somewhere I move (for my current job they had me move 4 times), and now I have to move for this job. I know it's a good move, but **** I really want to be able to date and meet someone and don't want to end up in a LTR. Days are seriously dragging out as I wait. Anyone else going through something similar? Getting out of the career is not an option since I invested so much time and money-almost as much as med school. Kinda stuck and it's depressing. I guess I should just be that guy on tinder that isn't looking for anything :/
d0nnivain Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Try dating or at least looking in the town where you will eventually settle. Since you have family there & work for an airline, presumably you will get back there more often then you will be any place else in the next year. Meanwhile do play the field as you are out & about. You don't know what path you will eventually end up on. Remember, man plans & God laughs. So take things as they come. Your future mate may be in your training class. 1
Versacehottie Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Unless you are going to hate your career in the end, focus first on that and second on the dating. If you are like every good guy I know, you won't be able to really move forward into a marriage type relationship until your career is sorted out. Much better to be dealing with this at 29 rather than mid-thirties or beyond! A year will go by faster than you think. And then you will be in a position where your career is on track, you will know the variables as far as city and you can put something in place that has potential for growth/marriage. You can do in the meantime some dating, and as donnivan suggested the two best cities to look in would be where your family is and the city where you will end up. Count yourself lucky that you don't already have a long term gf in place who wants things to progress and is putting pressure on you. Aim to hit the ground running as soon as you know what city you are going to be based out of. also I'm all for the organic. As Donnivan also said you can make great plans and God has other things in mind. So make new friends, date some. You are in a good position to really meet someone that you care about and that's great because that's the only thing that will keep of you both hanging in there. It's a good test for future life that will test a marriage etc. And don't miss the obvious--date a flight attendant! They are in motion just like you, will be doing training just like you and in a better position to understand the challenges of your chosen career. Plus they can get tickets to come see you for free wherever you are. Good luck
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