mark1210 Posted June 1, 2005 Posted June 1, 2005 Hey There Gang, So after being single for nearly 2 months and dating off and on I finally had a date that really peaked my interests. I ended up setting up a date with her roomate but she wasn't my type, even she acknowledged that and suggested I talk to her single friend. Her friend and I spoke for hours and she was very attractive. What has me wondering is that she spoke only about herself and told me pretty initimate details, but asked nothing about me. This girl was very attractive, outspoken, and confident. So it isn't like she was shy so I don't think that is a good sign about her not asking about me. Maybe you all can tell me. During our chatting I asked her for her number which she gave me and even entered into my phone. At the end of the date I paid for my drinks, her drinks and the other womans' and walked her back to her apartment. No hugging or anything took place, I told her I had a great time and to take care. As I was walking off she said "You are going to call me right?" Maybe its because I'm a little rusty on the dating scene, or maybe I'm feeling insecure who knows. I guess my real question is..is she interested in me or not? I've never been asked if I would actually call or not. Thoughts, comments?
alphamale Posted June 1, 2005 Posted June 1, 2005 Originally posted by mark1210 but asked nothing about me. It is highly unusual for a female who is interested in a man to not ask personal questions about him due to curiousity and mentally trying to make a match and get info. Where do you live, what do you do, family, interests, etc..... Think about it MARK1210, when you are interested in a female you generally will ask her these questions right? ..is she interested in me or not? From what u have written (which is not much) I would say she wants to be "friends". I would not recommend settling for "friends".
Marshbear Posted June 1, 2005 Posted June 1, 2005 I would agree with Alpha. A women who is interested will ask about you because she wants to know what makes you tick. The fact that she only talked about herself says she isn't interested in you or what you are doing. Did she touch you in any way during the date? Did she make any plans for getting together again? Did she compliment you? No kiss at the end is a bad sign! I would say you are a friend and do not settle for that!!!!
alphamale Posted June 1, 2005 Posted June 1, 2005 Originally posted by Marshbear A women who is interested will ask about you because she wants to know what makes you tick. Correct analysis MARSHBEAR. Probably the number one determinant of interest from another party is if they ask you a lot of personal questions. A woman that asks these types of questions is pumping you for info to see if you are romantic material and if you are qualified to get into her pants.
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 1, 2005 Posted June 1, 2005 Alpha and Marshbear make a good point, and this is indeed likely. However, there *is* another possibility: She already knows a bit about you from the roommate and is trying to advertise herself to you. This, combined with nerves, made her talk too much about herself. I get this when a girl already knows about me and is trying to impress me with her "CV". Just as when men try it, this strategy doesn't impress as much as it is intended to Either way, it's probably not a great sign. If you still fancy her though, I'd try the second date - my experience suggests they realise their mistake and often are willing to work hard to make up for it...
alphamale Posted June 1, 2005 Posted June 1, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo Either way, it's probably not a great sign. If you still fancy her though, I'd try the second date - yes, I would say the OP call her also, RR. then go out on date but if you don't get strong "buying signals" then drop her ASAP and for God's sake don't become a "friend".
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 1, 2005 Posted June 1, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale yes, I would say the OP call her also, RR. then go out on date but if you don't get strong "buying signals" then drop her ASAP. Agreed. Be a man, not a mouse. Given the situation, date 2 should be on your terms btw. Give her 3-4 days to start wondering, then ring her casually with a fun proposal which puts you in charge. Take her to one of your places and show off one of your skills. Be relaxed, take charge of the conversation. And make sure you decide when and how it ends.
alphamale Posted June 1, 2005 Posted June 1, 2005 Originally posted by ReluctantRomeo Agreed. Be a man, not a mouse. squeak squeak...
Author mark1210 Posted June 7, 2005 Author Posted June 7, 2005 Just a follow up response to my original post. After the second date its pretty apparent this girl is crazy and an attention whore. The date started off with her and I at Dave and Busters (Bar/Arcade) having some drinks and having a great conversation for about 2 hours. As soon as I step away to the Mens room I notice two guys at my table talking to her. Now, granted its a bar, they may have thought she was alone but she certainly didn't tell them to go away. I walk up and say excuse me your in my seat, to which the guy gives me a go to hell look and gives it back to me. After a few moments of awkward silence those guys leave. About 15-20 minutes later she feels like she is in a dancing mood and wants to goto a club. So I was like ok, sure. On the 1 hour drive there she did nothing but talk about how sexy she is and how guys fall over her feet. I am unfortunately a nice guy...too nice and told her I could see why, and basically sucked up to her. Never got one compliment the entire night, and I am sure I lost a lot of self respect in that. Irregardless, at the club she was dancing with guys, at first it was nothing big, just guys around her occassionally grabbing her waist and such. Nothing for me to get bent out of shape about, in fact i was dancing and smiling back at her. Unfortunately on this night, there were far more guys than girls. If there were single girls I would have been doing the same back. But this is where ok goes to very bad in .5 seconds. About 30 minutes later I see her making out with 4 girls...deep kissing, grabbing each other etc. She even came to me with the girls and said I need x amount of drinks. And like a dumbass I bought them. I spent over $300 on Saturday, mainly at the club, for my date and the girls she was kissing. I wish I knew why I just didn't say no. I think it was because I didn't want to upset anyone. Anyways, it gets even worse. Next thing I know she is dancing with the bouncers and dry humping them. Even flashing them, I ran into one of my male friends there and he said "Your date is a total hoe and doesn't respect you a bit". But yes folks..it even gets better. After enduring that for about 4 hours she wants to go to IHOP, just her and I. I told her if we go, breakfast is on you. She said fine. We go there, and come to check out..what does she do? She holds up the bill and says anyone wanna cover my bill? To which a few young guys said..whats in it for us? She said you'll see. Mind you, this was all in front of me. The guys paid the bill, and she flashed them her chest and even let them grab it. I was floored! I almost just left her there. On the way home she is trying to get her freak on with me. No way was I going to be a part of that. She invited me up to her room which I said no thanks and left. Sunday she calls like nothing happend, and I didn't answer. Today she calls inviting me out to her birthday. I told her no thanks, have a good time. So my question is, does she look at me as a friend, or some limp d*** that she can walk all over? I don't want to be this girls friend, and I don't want to have to watch her be a hoe bag.
Merin Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 Doesn't matter what she thinks at this point. Don't call her again, don't go out with her again and if you happen to see her out go out of your way to avoid her. This is a girl who IMO has zero respect for herself so it isn't suprising she has zero respect for you as a person either. In short, she's a beeotch who's used to getting her way for how she looks not who she is or how she treats people. It will eat her up that you don't want to go out with her again, to which I say good she needs a little lesson in humility
nicki Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 wow, her behavior is so out of line...unbelievable! Your description had me visualizing the entire night and laughing (i'm sure not so funny to you at the time, but a great story to tell later ) You behaved like a gentleman, but you don't ever need to talk to her again. Let someone else be her pimp. I feel sorry for her. She obviously has a lot of problems.
blue16 Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 dude u coulda got a 5-some with those girls, and/or gotten some action with that girl in her room! hehe all jokes aside, I thought u handled it pretty well...I would have no clue what to do in a situation like that it just sounds out of control. Extra points for not going up to her room, btw. One of the only mistakes you made was buying all those girls drinks, if that attention whore told me to buy them all drinks (her included) I woulda laughed in her face. But you made a great comeback tho by shooting her ass down later, and now ignoring her calls. Hey look on the brightside, you got an attractive chick just dying to get a hold of you...but you have better standards so you are declining. Nothing too bad about that.
Author mark1210 Posted June 7, 2005 Author Posted June 7, 2005 Thanks nicki and blue. Blue: Thanks for making me laugh over here. Yeah I was a dumbass for buying all those drinks. Chalk it up to a learning experience I supposed. I just cannot believe the audacity to want to invite me to her b-day party tonight. Obviously, I was merely there as just another body or probably more likely as Mr. $$$ Bags. Not worth my time, already invested too much and lost. And another bites the dust! =) Someone PMed me and suggested I get some book called "No More Mr. Nice Guy" I think I may have to give that a whirl. JP
BrotherAaron Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 That's why you don't pay for girls on the first date
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 Originally posted by mark1210 I just cannot believe the audacity to want to invite me to her b-day party tonight. Obviously, I was merely there as just another body or probably more likely as Mr. $$$ Bags. Well, my guess is that this girl has a history of being abused... she definitely seems to use her body as currency with men. I think she actually likes you - in her f**ked-up way - and you're a bit of a challenge. Not worth my time, already invested too much and lost. Good attitude. The guy who dates her is in for a whole load of trouble. Someone PMed me and suggested I get some book called "No More Mr. Nice Guy" Good book. That way, you won't always be the stone the builders rejected
crazy_grl Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 Originally posted by BrotherAaron That's why you don't pay for girls on the first date There's a difference between paying for your date and shelling out money for someone who whores themself out like this girl did. ("You can feel me up if you pay for my food." = whoring) Not saying that girls can't pay for themselves on a date. In fact, I usually try to do just that. But all girls are not going to be like this Little Miss Piece of Trash. And most dates aren't going to expect you to spend $300 on them and their probably equally trashy new friends. Originally posted by mark1210 I just cannot believe the audacity to want to invite me to her b-day party tonight. Obviously, I was merely there as just another body or probably more likely as Mr. $$$ Bags. Not worth my time, already invested too much and lost. She doesn't just want you there as another body. You're another *male* body to fawn over her. And yeah, she wants your money. You may not have realized your mistake fast enough to avoid shelling out $300 and your wasting your night, but kudos to you on not falling for this ridiculous, self-centered b!tch. Whatever you do, don't bother speaking to her again. I wouldn't be surprised if she starts calling you like crazy though. Just don't be mean to her if you end up having to talk to her. Be the better person.
EnigmaXOXO Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 I think all of us have dating horror stories. They make for great comedic relief later on when you share them with friends. I think nut-jobs like this serve a greater purpose in the world. Only after your fair share of loonies can you truly appreciate the more subdued (and sane) nice gals and guys in the world. I say, more power to them! -- cause they sure make the rest of us 'up tight' folks look a whole lot better in comparison!
debs Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 OH lord, Mark! You made my day! take this old broads advice and ditch the Self absorbed selfish bomb shell! Talk about a life of grief!? I see my exH's wife in this girl! And all I can do is rofl at my exH now! I would rather be happy single than miserable married and wondering what is next!
ConfusedInOC Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 Originally posted by mark1210 Just a follow up response to my original post. After the second date its pretty apparent this girl is crazy and an attention whore. The date started off with her and I at Dave and Busters (Bar/Arcade) having some drinks and having a great conversation for about 2 hours. As soon as I step away to the Mens room I notice two guys at my table talking to her. Now, granted its a bar, they may have thought she was alone but she certainly didn't tell them to go away. I walk up and say excuse me your in my seat, to which the guy gives me a go to hell look and gives it back to me. After a few moments of awkward silence those guys leave. About 15-20 minutes later she feels like she is in a dancing mood and wants to goto a club. So I was like ok, sure. On the 1 hour drive there she did nothing but talk about how sexy she is and how guys fall over her feet. I am unfortunately a nice guy...too nice and told her I could see why, and basically sucked up to her. Never got one compliment the entire night, and I am sure I lost a lot of self respect in that. Irregardless, at the club she was dancing with guys, at first it was nothing big, just guys around her occassionally grabbing her waist and such. Nothing for me to get bent out of shape about, in fact i was dancing and smiling back at her. Unfortunately on this night, there were far more guys than girls. If there were single girls I would have been doing the same back. But this is where ok goes to very bad in .5 seconds. About 30 minutes later I see her making out with 4 girls...deep kissing, grabbing each other etc. She even came to me with the girls and said I need x amount of drinks. And like a dumbass I bought them. I spent over $300 on Saturday, mainly at the club, for my date and the girls she was kissing. I wish I knew why I just didn't say no. I think it was because I didn't want to upset anyone. Anyways, it gets even worse. Next thing I know she is dancing with the bouncers and dry humping them. Even flashing them, I ran into one of my male friends there and he said "Your date is a total hoe and doesn't respect you a bit". But yes folks..it even gets better. After enduring that for about 4 hours she wants to go to IHOP, just her and I. I told her if we go, breakfast is on you. She said fine. We go there, and come to check out..what does she do? She holds up the bill and says anyone wanna cover my bill? To which a few young guys said..whats in it for us? She said you'll see. Mind you, this was all in front of me. The guys paid the bill, and she flashed them her chest and even let them grab it. I was floored! I almost just left her there. On the way home she is trying to get her freak on with me. No way was I going to be a part of that. She invited me up to her room which I said no thanks and left. Sunday she calls like nothing happend, and I didn't answer. Today she calls inviting me out to her birthday. I told her no thanks, have a good time. So my question is, does she look at me as a friend, or some limp d*** that she can walk all over? I don't want to be this girls friend, and I don't want to have to watch her be a hoe bag. To quote Monty Python: "Run awaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
Kaotic Dizaster Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 I just read your dating disater story ... OMG what are girls thinking these days ?? I give you major credit for being a gentleman in the whole sitiuation , because if I was a guy and that happened I would have told her exactly what she is .... because someone like that really needs to be put into check ..... Now be careful from now on and don't ever spend that much on a date that earlyof a start!
HoneyWheat Posted June 14, 2005 Posted June 14, 2005 wow I am so shocked and floored. is this the girl you wrote about on two other threads??? i sure hope not
Author mark1210 Posted June 14, 2005 Author Posted June 14, 2005 no lol, this is a different nut bag =)
ReluctantRomeo Posted June 15, 2005 Posted June 15, 2005 Originally posted by mark1210 no lol, this is a different nut bag =) You collecting them, or what?
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