Quokka Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 Four days ago, I commented on this girls tweet that said "I wish someone would come into my life and stay" And I replied "sup" and we started messaging shortly after that. That night she asked me to hang out with her and her friend so I was like sure and my buddies came with. One of my buddies had a thing with her about a week ago but it didn't work out. When we showed up we started drinking and she started flirting me with and my buddy who she had a thing with. I blew it off considering I really had no right to be mad. Next morning I wake up with a text from her apologizing about last night and wants to hang out again tonight. I had plans in my states's capital and planned on going to the club with her, her friends, me and my bro's. Soon as we get there she's grindin on me, touchin me up, and kissing me up. As the night progresses and the drinks get poured she starts flirting with some random dude and grinding on him instead of me and so I walked away to go smoke. She came out 5 minutes later and one of my friends who is a pretty good looking girl started making out with me in front of her. She got really mad and called my name and said wtF! I was like "Can't really blame me can you?" Next morning, she texts me apologizing again for her behavior and tells me to come over when I get off work. I agree and go over there, she is having a small party at her house. as the night progresses she's touching up on me etc. and then she goes to another guy but she only kisses me. but she sits in his lap, takes his phone, obvious flirting is happening. Again I walk away to smoke and she follows me and starts making out with me and feeling me up. Eventually we break away from the party to play hide and seek (lmao) We go to her bed and get it on we didn't have sex for fear of someone entering her room(parents still awake) but we did pretty much everything else. I slept by her all night and woke up this morning for work. Told her to hit me up as I left hugged goodbye. Now I'm sitting here 4:30 pm and haven't gotten a message from her which is unusual.I really don't know if I like her. I just like what we had going. What the hell is she up to here??
Ic1 Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 She's a dangerous one. Isn't it obvious why nobody stays in her life? If she truly acts how you describe all the time, and she's even been around enough to have hit up someone you know and happen to bring the first time you meet her... STDs would be on my mind.
Author Quokka Posted December 21, 2015 Author Posted December 21, 2015 She's a dangerous one. Isn't it obvious why nobody stays in her life? If she truly acts how you describe all the time, and she's even been around enough to have hit up someone you know and happen to bring the first time you meet her... STDs would be on my mind. Fair enough but I musta worded something wrong because she didn't bring that dude she had a thing with over. He came with me and my crew. Her friends were all girls.
TigerCub Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 You say you liked what you guys had going on. What exactly was that? Her making out it with you and flirting and making out with other guys, then apologizing about it and asking you to go to her and hang out and you running over whenever she asked? That girl just sounds like a bimbo with majorly low self esteem. Don't you think you can do better? What is it that you want? Do you want a girlfriend or someone to fool around with? It's an honest question and it would help determine if she's worth the trouble.
Author Quokka Posted December 21, 2015 Author Posted December 21, 2015 You say you liked what you guys had going on. What exactly was that? Her making out it with you and flirting and making out with other guys, then apologizing about it and asking you to go to her and hang out and you running over whenever she asked? That girl just sounds like a bimbo with majorly low self esteem. Don't you think you can do better? What is it that you want? Do you want a girlfriend or someone to fool around with? It's an honest question and it would help determine if she's worth the trouble. Honestly that's a simple question but difficult for me to answer. I've been out of the relationship game for 2 years. All I've had are hook-ups for two years so I don't even really know how a real relationship feels. I don't know what this girl would be like if we were to date. But right now I'm fine with just hooking up with her. I have no expectations or hopes on this one.
TigerCub Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 (edited) Honestly that's a simple question but difficult for me to answer. I've been out of the relationship game for 2 years. All I've had are hook-ups for two years so I don't even really know how a real relationship feels. I don't know what this girl would be like if we were to date. But right now I'm fine with just hooking up with her. I have no expectations or hopes on this one. Well you're being honest - that's good. I understand what it's like to be out of a relationship for a while and not knowing how to be in a 'real relationship' - the thing is, if you spend too much time on bimbos like that, it might end up hurting you more in the end by making you more cynical due to going through so many of them - it just might taint your view of women in general,if all you end up encountering and wasting time on is slutty low self esteem girls. If you want to hook up, fine, but a hook up is someone that doesn't require much effort and isn't someone that is worth the investment really. Like you shouldn't run to her every time she calls, and there are plenty of other girls that are more than happy to have FWB arrangements, and hopefully they wouldn't have been with your friends already. It's just a word of caution - don't spend too much time in the 'hook up phase' because you might lose more and more of the feelings of what it's like to be in a real relationship. I'm speaking from my own experience, your may not be like that and I hope it doesn't get to the point where you become cynical Oh and I'm sure you already know this - but play safe, especially with hook ups. Edited December 21, 2015 by TigerCub
SomeDude16 Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 Poor quality girl, you're only making things hard for yourself. Move on....
Scarlett.O'hara Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 I think the major factor here is alcohol. If all your encounters involve drinking then you will both have impaired judgement, which means there will probably always be some issue or conflict. If you are genuinely interested in getting to know each other on a deeper level, try doing it without alcohol.
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