Winesar21 Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 It's been two months since the ending of my two year long relationship. After the first couple of weeks I was fine and then ever since then I have been crying everyday. Throughout the relationship our main argument was time. He was an introvert so he was fine not hanging out very often. I wanted more and this was always a point of contention. At the end of May I asked him where this relationship was going. Since he lease was coming up I said I thought it would be best if he finally got his own place. He said he turned in his lease and we started looking at places for him. The day he was supposed to move he told me that he didn't like the area where we found the apartment and it wasn't where he wanted to be. Probably because it was farther from his mom. Told me he lied about turning im his lease and he was going to try getting out of the new lease. Then goes on and on about how unhappy he was. I was unhappy as well. we agreed to go to counseling. I went in with an open mind. He did not. The counselor said he needed to set boundaries with his mom and he said she didn't know anything. Fast forward to October. He went on a trip. The entire trip he was talking about plans when he returned and how he wanted to take me to get my nails done etc. things had been rocky so I offered to just be friends. the day he came back my boss had invited us over for dinner. He said we didn't have to go to that but he would take me out to dinner. After he landed I hadn't heard from him. I called him and no answer. Next thing you know I receive a text that says please check your email I'm sorry. I read my email and he broke up with in a letter. This was an hour before I was supposed to meet him at a restaurant. I tried calling him and he immediately blocked my number and blocked me on Facebook. Never replied to my email or anything. One email and done. I wasn't happy with the current state of the relationship, but how can one person who has been so caring and gone great lengths to make me happy suddenly treat me this way? He said he would like to meet up in a few weeks but never contacted me. I am devastated. I can't even comprehend how one person could be so cruel. I have never lied to this man. Sure we had disagreement which caused both of us to have resentment, but he was so unwilling to see my point of view. I can't even look at happy couples. I want to just stay inside in bed and cry. I sometimes just wish I were dead. I feel like at my age all the good guys are gone. I truly believed this man loved me and I'm just baffled.
ExpatInItaly Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 I'm sorry this happened to you, OP. What a jerk. You say he went to great lengths - for example? I ask becasue it sounds like you've got him on a pedestal he doesn't deserve to be on. He lied about turning in his lease, was happy spending a lot of time apart from you, didn't make an effort with counselling...so where is the show of love on his part? It sounds like he has issues that run deeper than the relationship problems. How old is he? If he can't be away from his mom and he is an adult, you're going to be much better off in the long run. And anyone that could disrespect you the way he did by ending it in a freakin' email then deleting you from his life has a serious problem with emotional immaturity. Someday, your future self will be glad this man-child is not in your life anymore. 1
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