Terry1990 Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 Hello I am friends with my ex gf we broke up about a year ago now but we have always maintained contact and meet up on and off this year even felt like we got close again at one point. But basically she now has a bf who's she been with since the start of November! I asked her if she fancied coming for a drink with me sometime and also said I don't want to come across as inapropriare as you have a bf which I respect I'm not trying to cause any trouble for her. She says she will meet me for a drink when she's free as she has a child and it's not around the xmas season. A few days later I get a text saying she's broke from xmas shopping and she doesn't want me to have to pay for her and is there anything else we can do. I suggest she could come over mine and I would buy a few drinks and she's said that's cool! I then ask her if her bf is ok with that and she's says yea he doesn't mind. Now I know this might sound a bit mundane but isn't that a bit odd that he doesn't mind or do you think she hasn't told him I know for a fact any guy wouldn't like it so I'm really not sure what to do. I ask her what day she can meet and she texts me back in saying she busy this day and that and that she's going to London to stay over night with her bf which is strange and she never discusses details of her life normally like that! Anyway I care for this girl I always have and I just feel something isn't right with this I will meet her but as for her bf being ok with her going round her ex house for a drink it just doesn't sit right what should I do ?
Scarlett.O'hara Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 If you were so concerned about how her boyfriend would feel you wouldn't have invited her over to your place to drink alcohol. You know exactly what you are doing and what you want to happen. It all sounds very sneaky. Either this guy is going to be cheated on or you are going to be rejected by her. However it goes down, someone will get hurt. 1
Author Terry1990 Posted December 20, 2015 Author Posted December 20, 2015 im not out to cause rifts or get anyone hurt tbh I wasn't even sure she was still with him until she sent the text saying she's going away for the night with him! This's after we arranged all this As the last time she mentioned him was a month ago when she said "I'm with someone at the moment" and all that! Yea invited her over and if she said that's a no go then fair enough but she said she's told him we are meeting as friends maybe she hasn't said how but yea I think I should not do it I just wanted to know why she would say this
Scarlett.O'hara Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 I don't know what she is thinking to be honest. If she told her boyfriend the truth about your history and the fact she will be drinking at your house, I doubt he would be ok with it.
mightycpa Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 You invited her over, and I assume you intend a platonic get together, as opposed to a sex romp. Your conscience can be clear, and you're the only one you need to worry about. Whether she tells him or not, and whether he cares or not is between them. She doesn't need you to run her relationship or worry about it for her. He doesn't need you to look after his interests.
Omei Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 If you were so concerned about how her boyfriend would feel you wouldn't have invited her over to your place to drink alcohol. You know exactly what you are doing and what you want to happen. It all sounds very sneaky. Either this guy is going to be cheated on or you are going to be rejected by her. However it goes down, someone will get hurt. Gonna have to agree here. If your just friends you would drink at public place and you offered to pay for the drinks but at your house lol couldnt be more clear dude lol you could of offered to buy her drinks at a public spot but didnt.
Omei Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 I don't know what she is thinking to be honest. If she told her boyfriend the truth about your history and the fact she will be drinking at your house' date=' I doubt he would be ok with it.[/quote'] Likely because she didnt tell him no one in a fresh relationship would be down with that.
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