Ami1uwant Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 M9ve on to the new girl.... I would try to teach her something first and ask her about how it feels to know you were cheated on. 1
Author jerrygordon3 Posted December 9, 2015 Author Posted December 9, 2015 She's been bouncing back and forth constantly. its all been drama. So i didn't feel bad for meeting someone. I mean, she straight up cheated on me multiple times and knew that I had found out EACH and EVERY time.
losangelena Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 So, my gf cheated on me multiple times. Then told me she wanted to be with only me. I met someone and cheated on her while my gf sat at home crying. now she says she doesn't know if she wants to keep seeing me exclusively. Now she doesn't want me to talk to this new girl anymore, but hasn't said anything along the lines of wanting to be in a committed relationship. She is hurt that I don't think I did anything wrong. I warned her that I was going to meet someone else if she kept cheating on me, so i did. am I wrong? Sounds like you deserve each other. Two wrongs don't make a right, now do they? 5
Author jerrygordon3 Posted December 9, 2015 Author Posted December 9, 2015 after she cheated twice, the third time she dissapeaered all night, probably with him, she texted me saying she needed to figure things out. I was faithful and loving. and she watched me cry and be super depressed. I asked her to stop hurting me and she promised she would. Then she sent that break up text, next day came over and said things are weird and she just doesn't know, then that night i blew off plans with her and stayed the night with new girl. while i was MIA with new girl, my gf or ex at that point was sending me pages of **** confessing her love. next morning I let her know I had met someone. she's now saying how its my fault now and she can't commit. its all games. I told her I want a commitment and she isn't offering it. I'm going out of town tonight for a week and know she is going to go see him.
losangelena Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 Then dump her. Why are you staying with her? This sounds like an awful and unhealthy situation. 7
Space Ritual Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 after she cheated twice, the third time she dissapeaered all night, probably with him, she texted me saying she needed to figure things out. I was faithful and loving. and she watched me cry and be super depressed. I asked her to stop hurting me and she promised she would. Then she sent that break up text, next day came over and said things are weird and she just doesn't know, then that night i blew off plans with her and stayed the night with new girl. while i was MIA with new girl, my gf or ex at that point was sending me pages of **** confessing her love. next morning I let her know I had met someone. she's now saying how its my fault now and she can't commit. its all games. I told her I want a commitment and she isn't offering it. I'm going out of town tonight for a week and know she is going to go see him. Grow up. I was taking a dump while I read your thread and it was so lame my Turds started crying. 10
dreamingoftigers Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 You served her just desserts. I don't think it's as bad as all that. However, is the new girl aware of your situation? Because it isn't fair to her and you should quit allowing and participating in the back and forth.
Redhead14 Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 So, my gf cheated on me multiple times. Then told me she wanted to be with only me. I met someone and cheated on her while my gf sat at home crying. now she says she doesn't know if she wants to keep seeing me exclusively. Now she doesn't want me to talk to this new girl anymore, but hasn't said anything along the lines of wanting to be in a committed relationship. She is hurt that I don't think I did anything wrong. I warned her that I was going to meet someone else if she kept cheating on me, so i did. am I wrong? How old are you two? How long have you been seeing one another? my gf cheated on me multiple times she says she doesn't know if she wants to keep seeing me exclusively -- She wasn't anyway. Did you two ever talk about whether or not you both saw the relationship as exclusive/girlfriend and boyfriend? You both are immature and this "relationship" should end. The foundation of trust is destroyed. She cheated, you were passive-aggressive by cheating in response. What you should have done is broken off and moved on. She wants her cake and eat it too and hoping you'll be her doormat. Don't do it. End the relationship and go no contact.
kendahke Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 after she cheated twice, the third time she dissapeaered all night, probably with him, she texted me saying she needed to figure things out. I was faithful and loving. and she watched me cry and be super depressed. I asked her to stop hurting me and she promised she would. Then she sent that break up text, next day came over and said things are weird and she just doesn't know, then that night i blew off plans with her and stayed the night with new girl. while i was MIA with new girl, my gf or ex at that point was sending me pages of **** confessing her love. next morning I let her know I had met someone. she's now saying how its my fault now and she can't commit. its all games. I told her I want a commitment and she isn't offering it. I'm going out of town tonight for a week and know she is going to go see him. Why you didn't dump her after the first time is a mystery of the ages. Before you cheated, you were on higher moral ground. Now you're in the gutter with her. Do you think that's a winning strategy? The better thing would have been dump the cheater, meet the new girl and be with her without the drama of the cheating ex. So now what happens when you tell the truth about this to new women in your life--"my girlfriend cheated on me so I cheated on her to teach her a lesson"? For a woman with a healthy sense of self respect, that's not going to go over well and will end what you have in its tracks. For those who are damaged, desperate or messed up, perhaps not. What will you do if they ask you if you've ever cheated on a girlfriend? Lie? Lie by omission (not telling them the complete truth)? Do you feel that you are owed the truth when dealing with a romantic partner, but you don't owe anyone else the truth? Yeah, a pretty big misstep. May have felt good in the moment when you did the cheating, but as you can see here, a plan not well thought out can bring about years of self recrimination. 2
Samhain Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 So, my gf cheated on me multiple times. Then told me she wanted to be with only me. I met someone and cheated on her while my gf sat at home crying. now she says she doesn't know if she wants to keep seeing me exclusively. Now she doesn't want me to talk to this new girl anymore, but hasn't said anything along the lines of wanting to be in a committed relationship. She is hurt that I don't think I did anything wrong. I warned her that I was going to meet someone else if she kept cheating on me, so i did. am I wrong? You were never in a committed relationship. Committed relationships are what people who "don't cheat" multiple times (for revenge or any other reason) are in. 2
aliveagain Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 Just tell her she just kissed the good life goodbye then block her from everything. One of you needs to grow up and end this.
TunaCat Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 You both sound childish. So she cheats on you, and then you decide to get back at her by cheating on her? How is that logical? Instead of just LEAVING the relationship like a healthy person would do, you "seek revenge on her" Break up with her. Now. 2
smackie9 Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 Why don't you just have a open relationship with her....be committed to each other but f$%# other people.
Redfisher Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 Grow up. I was taking a dump while I read your thread and it was so lame my Turds started crying. I will be using this line in the future.... Thanks in advance. 1
Space Ritual Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 I like to keep my audience riveted even when my advice sucks...LOL!
Wewon Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 You should have ended it after the first cheat, not wait until it became multiple cheats, let alone add to the problem. Things like this always seem to keep escalating until you both end up on an episode of Cops or Jerry Springer. 2
Krieger Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 Sounds like you deserve each other. Two wrongs don't make a right, now do they? do on to others how as the done on to you. It is only fair but I would of dump her like a bad habit . If I was this guy I would of cheated on her as well if she did it first. However I would of taken it to the next level by cheating on her with like a best friend or family member or even some one she hates that is how I role. Play stupid games win stupid prizes .
Krieger Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 You should have ended it after the first cheat, not wait until it became multiple cheats, let alone add to the problem. Things like this always seem to keep escalating until you both end up on an episode of Cops or Jerry Springer. Well I would of cheated on her and taped it and showed it to her and tell her I am out.
Krieger Posted December 9, 2015 Posted December 9, 2015 You both sound childish. So she cheats on you, and then you decide to get back at her by cheating on her? How is that logical? Instead of just LEAVING the relationship like a healthy person would do, you "seek revenge on her" Break up with her. Now. She need to feel what it is like to be cheated on. IMO every woman needs to be cheated on once in there life . Why you ask woman have the next man on speed dial and will cheat at a drop of a hat if needs are not meet. It is a fact that woman cheat more than men do . At the end of the day men and woman are as loyal as the options IMO.
losangelena Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 do on to others how as the done on to you. It is only fair but I would of dump her like a bad habit . If I was this guy I would of cheated on her as well if she did it first. However I would of taken it to the next level by cheating on her with like a best friend or family member or even some one she hates that is how I role. Play stupid games win stupid prizes . Charming. 1
smackie9 Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 Easy big fella, Have a beer.... mmmmmm beer.
Redfisher Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 mmmmmm beer. Right? The girlfriend and I are on a Corona and lime kick nowadays....so good
Krieger Posted December 10, 2015 Posted December 10, 2015 Charming. Thanks I know am Mr charming it is a gift. Now I all ready know if I was dating that a girl will cheat on me or all ready has another guy on speed dial to take my place. It is ok it how woman are wired to find a the best provider for them and so on. I am always looking but not going to cheat if I had a GF. I will look if I had a GF because at any min she could stop being entertained and want a new clown to dance for you enjoyment. Most woman I know do not want a real relationship and it is fine just let me know if I dating you so once I find a woman that wants a real relationship you get the old I stop calling you .
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