contel3 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 A question mostly for the guys (but women are welcome to answer too). How important are looks for you once your ALREADY in a relationship? Does attractiveness have a significant impact on how happy you are in a relationship? When you are dating, does it influence how strongly you pursue a woman? My personal experience is that the people I was most in love with weren't the most good looking ones....I just felt attracted to them for some reason, but they deffinitely didn't fit any "beauty standards". Sometimes I am a bit worried to be "overlooked" or have my date think he can do "better than me". I know I am pretty smart, funny and everything but my looks are just average. I'm not ugly or anything, I just don't turn heads.
One_Made_of_Silver Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Someone once said that if looks were the most important thing to women, they would all be lesbians. It is no secret that looks are not as important to women as they are to men, generally speaking. To women, I think a guy has to have a passing grade in terms of looks, but his personality, hobbies, conversation, etc is really what seals the deal in terms of attraction. 1
casey.lives Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Looks are get you in the door. ...And when you're in a relationship, it's still extremely important to be sexually attracted to your partner.. no drastic changes allowed (life permitting) 1
TheArtist Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 I once read somewhere that everyone typically ends up with someone who is equal to their own physical attractiveness level. It's probably a natural instinct for humans to mate with someone of similar attractiveness to maintain that baseline in their group. It does kind of suck all the romance out of it thinking about it that way. Sorry about that. Anyway, I wouldn't worry about it, it's something that seems to just happen, just look at how many people date 'out of their league' and make it last; very few indeed. Obviously excluding those that are obsessed with high earners and the like. Another thing that I once read about is that successful couples have very similar mouths and lips, and for the most part it seems to be true. Just look at photos of couples smiling and you'll see how similar their mouths are. Again, don't bother looking for this, it just kind of happens. Personally, I've got to have that personality, humour and an ability to converse about anything, otherwise it's just not going to work.
PrettyEmily77 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 It's as important as you want it to be. 1
SwordofFlame Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 She needs to keep up with her looks in the relationship. No letting yourself go once you've got a ring.
soph-walker Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 A question mostly for the guys (but women are welcome to answer too). How important are looks for you once your ALREADY in a relationship? Does attractiveness have a significant impact on how happy you are in a relationship? When you are dating, does it influence how strongly you pursue a woman? My personal experience is that the people I was most in love with weren't the most good looking ones....I just felt attracted to them for some reason, but they deffinitely didn't fit any "beauty standards". Sometimes I am a bit worried to be "overlooked" or have my date think he can do "better than me". I know I am pretty smart, funny and everything but my looks are just average. I'm not ugly or anything, I just don't turn heads. This may sound trite but if I think a guy has a good personality and is kind hearted, he is attractive to me physically...it does matter to me that he is physically good looking, but I think what I'm trying to say is, if he's a good person, it's highly likely I'll find him attractive. 1
Ic1 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Looks are as important as you want them to be, and this is affected by how much you invest in it yourself. eg; The girl at the bar who's heaviest with makeup and accessories to match the fashion runway most likely has the most attraction for a man in a Calvin Klein outfit. I keep my personal definition of 'pretty' and 'beautiful' to define two different things. Not different levels of the same form of attraction. A pretty girl is the cute one I'll wink at on the street, while a beautiful girl is one I could discover to be after getting to know her.
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