lovelifesmile Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 me and my boyfriend are arguing about me going to sleep.he gets mad when I go to bed and in the morning we have a huge fight ... I'm really getting tired what should I do
smackie9 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 I need more info. He wants more sex? he doesn't get to see you that much? why would he get mad? you live together? how old are you, how long have you been togethr??
Author lovelifesmile Posted December 19, 2015 Author Posted December 19, 2015 I'm 16 he's 17 no we fall asleep on the phone it can be 1:00 if I fall asleep he'll be mad and call me 100 times
Ic1 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 ^ Agreed. This has much more to it for any responses on the situation.
smackie9 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Is this an LDR? Does he live in another country with a 8 hour time difference?
Ic1 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 ^ Agreed. This has much more to it for any responses on the situation. Good timing on response, right before me. So these fights happen over the phone, and late? Real issues should be addressed in person, and you can't have them interfer with school. (Insomnia affects grades) Perhaps he's angry that you don't submit to him and get a reason to drop the conversation?
Author lovelifesmile Posted December 19, 2015 Author Posted December 19, 2015 we live near eachother and everything we go to sleep on the phone but he's mad because I doze off
soph-walker Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 we live near eachother and everything we go to sleep on the phone but he's mad because I doze off Have you tried speaking on the phone when you're not tired... 1
sportygirl89 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 A 17 year old should be asleep getting good night of sleep. Seems like your boyfriend has issues. Honestly doesn't even seen worth the hassle. 2
smackie9 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 He gets mad because he feels rejected. He feels you don't value him enough to stay up with him. Bottom line he is insecure. How to deal with it? Just be real sweet with him, tell him how great he is, how much you are going to miss him, boost his ego. This should be enough to calm his insecurities down before you say goodnight. 2
Author lovelifesmile Posted December 19, 2015 Author Posted December 19, 2015 we talk everyday go to sleep wake up On my way to school On my way home from school all day
brokengirl85 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 This post is non sense! Why don't you talk with your boyfriend? And calling you 100 it's definitively not right. If you're feeling trapped in this situation, break up with him. I think you're falling Asleep for a reason. Maybe he's boring or maybe he's too clingy. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Well I personally don't blame you. Who the hell wants to be talking on the phone @ 1am? I think your BF is being unreasonable and clingy. Especially since he calls you over and over and over. Unfortunately though, he's only 17 so he's at an immature age. However I will say this. Different sleep patterns can actually have a negative effect on relationships. I used to be a big time night owl. Whereas my ex GF was up at 5am for work during the week. So on Friday nights, she'd want to be in bed asleep by 10pm when the night was just starting for me. It was a buzz kill. Luckily now I'm much better about sleeping patters and keeping regular hours.
katiegrl Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 I'm 16 he's 17 no we fall asleep on the phone it can be 1:00 if I fall asleep he'll be mad and call me 100 times Sweetie ..there is a very simple solution to this. When you feel yourself fading out and want to go to sleep, tell him nicely it's late, you are fading off, wish him good night and that you will talk to him tomorrow. Sounds like what is frustrating him is the fact you're in the middle of a convo and you just suddenly drop off ..leaving him not knowing what the hell happened to you. Hence all his calls afterwards trying to find out if you're okay! So just tell him *before* you drop off that you need to get off phone now..that you're tired and fading out. Tell him you love him and will talk to/see him tomorrow. If he still puts up a stink, then he is insecure, needy, and possibly controlling. So be careful hon....g'luck! 5
Author lovelifesmile Posted December 19, 2015 Author Posted December 19, 2015 You two have been BF GF for how long? we are 6 months
smackie9 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 If you two are new together like a few weeks or a few months, he is just experiencing the honeymoon stage....or the obsessive stage. At 17 our brains are still developing, and to have hormones mixed with being in love....is an stimuli over load. It causes anxiety, insecurity, confusing, frustration. it's tough to manage, so they end up acting out, not realizing how it effects the other person. This feeling makes them so driven with their own desire, they can't be reasonable. Totally normal stuff here. He's 17 for f sakes, this is all new to him. 1
Author lovelifesmile Posted December 19, 2015 Author Posted December 19, 2015 and how do I react or say
Wewon Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Tell him that bed time is 11pm and that's when the phone conversations end. He shouldn't be keeping you up so late. 4
basil67 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 I agree that you should tell him goodnight before you get so tired that you're falling asleep.
d0nnivain Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 I'm 16 he's 17 no we fall asleep on the phone it can be 1:00 if I fall asleep he'll be mad and call me 100 times we live near eachother and everything we go to sleep on the phone but he's mad because I doze off we talk everyday go to sleep wake up On my way to school On my way home from school all day Your BF is an immature controlling jerk who is adversely effecting your health. Your 1st strategy should be to tell him you care about him & like talking to you but that you need your rest & that if cares about you he will respect that. Then you say good night when you are tired & go to sleep. If that doesn't work you tell your parents. You also tell them that you want to tell your BF that they found out about your late night chats, they don't like it & that they are now taking your phone away at 11 p.m. Your parents will respect you for having a plan. Then you leave your phone on silent in the living room or kitchen overnight 2
Popsicle Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 Tell him you definitely like him but he should be getting his rest too. 1
katiegrl Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 I agree that you should tell him goodnight before you get so tired that you're falling asleep. ^^Again, just do this ....it's rude to just drop off in the middle of a conversation anyway. How would you like it if he or anyone did that to you? Is there something preventing you from telling him you're tired, fading out and need to get off phone and get some sleep? This is just basic stuff, common courtesy.
Cherryz Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 Doesnt matter if its ldr or not. You have to go to sleep so be it! Beside you need your sleep and its very late. He selfish. Tell him to stop and if he dont respect you sleeping then break up. Because you need your sleep so you can be well at the morning and at school. Only thing you can do if you ddnt do before is telling him you are going to sleep. But it could happen that you fall asleep without being able to tell him. Thats normal. He shouldnt mind if it happen sometimes.
katiegrl Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 (edited) Doesnt matter if its ldr or not. You have to go to sleep so be it! Beside you need your sleep and its very late. He selfish. Tell him to stop and if he dont respect you sleeping then break up. Because you need your sleep so you can be well at the morning and at school. Only thing you can do if you ddnt do before is telling him you are going to sleep. But it could happen that you fall asleep without being able to tell him. Thats normal. He shouldnt mind if it happen sometimes. I don't sense he is preventing her from getting her sleep....my sense is it frustrates him when she suddenly drops off from a conversation....without a word, just drops off. How is he supposed to know she fell asleep? What if she had a heart attack? Okay too young for that, but anything could happen. He calls back because he is worried, and she isn't answering, which gets him more worried, so he keeps calling! I can tell you that if my soon to be ex-boyfriend were speaking with me on the phone, and I just suddenly dropped off, without saying a word, he would be seriously worried about what happened to me! And would continue calling until I answered and he knew I was okay. If I told him I fell asleep, he would still be mad, and would say "next time TELL ME when you start getting tired, don't just drop off, leaving me not knowing what the hell happened." I don't understand people anymore, jesus, this is just basic common courtesy, unless she has narcolepsy or something. OP do you suffer from narcolepsy? If not, tell him you love talking to him, but you can't talk after 11 because you need sleep, and so does he! And when you do talk and you start feeling tired and are fading out, tell him! Don't just suddenly drop off, again rude and frankly disrespectful, unless again you suffer from narcolepsy or some other medical condition. Edited December 20, 2015 by katiegrl
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