What do women bring to the table in Marriage

[DrReplyInRhymes]

I like to think that marriage itself is much like a gun,

Use it the wrong way, and you'll end up really hurting someone,

But when used for the right reasons, or used for survival,

It's implications can be seen as something extremely vital.

[Rejected Rosebud]

Let me ask you a question and this is a serious question.

 

What exactly do you want them to bring?

One thing for sure, they are not supposed to "do whatever they want."

[Rejected Rosebud]

What on earth is the point of threads like this?

Shrug.

I KNOW!! The guys who start them I guess they think of themselves as making some kind of outrageous statement - I usually get up in arms about overt misogyny and for that reason I sometimes get sucked in. But really guys, NO ONE CARES if you don't think women bring anything to your table or that you're all inflamed over the institution of marriage! Those attitudes make you a terrible candidate for marriage, people who want to be married are going to find each other. So don't worry, and don't ever get married!! We'll be fine!!

[dreamingoftigers]

I would guess pretty much the same things as a guy.

 

The ability to be a really supportive partner through the ups and downs of life or the ability to be a giant pain in the ass.

 

When one is a committed asset, one brings a lot to the table and there are benefits to going "all in."

 

Short of that, no, it's not worth the investment.

[GunslingerRoland]

No one is supposed to get something out of a marriage, except spending the rest of your life with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

 

 

 

 

If you keep the decision on whether to marry someone or not, down to that simple principle you'll find out it works surprisingly well. There was a time when there were many reasons people "had to" marry, those are done.

[Lurkeraspect]

Lately i have been having second thoughts about what purpose does marriage serve to a man in this modern world. Women can do what they want , especially in the western world. Sleep with the bad boys in their 20's and than wait for poor looser guy when they turn 30 who is financial stable and get married.

 

Even though the world has progressed towards equality in pay, there is still the age old thing that men are supposed to pay for a date and should have a strong financial support and get ripped off in divorce by tax daddy and uncle judicial system.

 

So if a man were to marry in this era, what does the women bring to the table other than sex. In an age where women can do what they want even after getting married, the penalty is for the man to pay for child support and alimony, is it sensible to just shack up instead of getting legally married ?. The fact that the judicial system will make the father pay even for a child who is not his, under the assumption that it is the best interest of the child. Do men have anything they get out of legally getting married ?

 

Thoughts ?

 

I can't get past the above (that you typed twice). I think your problem is that you were born in the wrong century. Yep, women are free to do whatever they choose/want. The days of being owned like property are about 200 years in the past. If owning a woman is your benchmark of marriage, I'd skip it, cause you're going to be miserable.

[hasaquestion]

hors d'oeuvres

[sambolini]

I can't get past the above (that you typed twice). I think your problem is that you were born in the wrong century. Yep, women are free to do whatever they choose/want. The days of being owned like property are about 200 years in the past. If owning a woman is your benchmark of marriage, I'd skip it, cause you're going to be miserable.

 

That's not quite what I got from that statement. My ex wife had an affair and the courts rewarded that behavior by giving her the majority of time with our daughter and child support.

 

My interpretation is that they are rewarded even if they are the cause of the marital breakdown. There are no negative consequences for bad decisions they make in marriage.

 

I think what he's asking is what could a woman offer that would make him consider taking that risk with her. I think that's a fair question for any man to ask.

[Lurkeraspect]

Perhaps that's what he meant.

 

But...here's the thing, we all take risks when we marry. There are no real guarantees that husbands or wives won't cheat, turn into strangers, stop having sex, hold a job, etc. if you're that fearful, I'd skip it. I had an almost 30 year marriage, we divorced. People change, people cheat, it's a fact of being human. But even with my divorce, I wouldn't wish it away. Many good years, children, vacations came out of that union. Life is hard, marriage is work, divorce is sometimes inevitable.

[sambolini]

Perhaps that's what he meant.

 

But...here's the thing, we all take risks when we marry. There are no real guarantees that husbands or wives won't cheat, turn into strangers, stop having sex, hold a job, etc. if you're that fearful, I'd skip it. I had an almost 30 year marriage, we divorced. People change, people cheat, it's a fact of being human. But even with my divorce, I wouldn't wish it away. Many good years, children, vacations came out of that union. Life is hard, marriage is work, divorce is sometimes inevitable.

 

I don't disagree with this.

 

But divorce is highly skewed against men. For a man to ask "What could a woman offer to offset that?" is not an unreasonable question.

 

I'd agree that anyone who asks that question probably shouldn't marry.

[William]

Folks, moderation has detected some irregularities here sufficient that I've requested the help of other moderators. In the meantime, I'm going to close this up pending their look at what I found. Thanks for your participation!