PrettyEmily77 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 By the same token, everyone who has ever gone on a date, trying to get to know someone new, only put their best qualities on display and omitted the negatives, is guilty of lying. Using your own words, "they deserve to know what type of guy/girl you are". Luckily the world doesn't work quite that way, eh? You don't need to bring up all the bad stuff about yourself to anyone, unless you want to end up completely alone. Sure, but cheating whilst in a relationship really is not in the same league as first date stuff. You know that, right? 1
mssweet Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Nice try, but I would use logic and try to understand what has actually happened. What has led to the situation of her not being content with me, and making my final decision based on the present situation rather than the past. Ummm, okay. Well, regardless of how well things are going in the present, if I found out my boyfriend had an affair with two women in the past, I would dump him immediately. If someone is not content in a relationship, END it. If you think the grass is greener somewhere else, END it. You can't have the best of both worlds. Cheating is purely a selfish act. 1
Buddhist Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 (edited) Wow what a great self indulgent post about narcissism and the shortcomings of some men. So pretty much he's just confirming that many men allow boredom to rule their lives and instead of growing up they just run out and shag some random chicks before making up with their girlfriend who's none the wiser. Pity the girlfriend in this story. She lost seven good years of her life on someone who wasn't worth it. I think this story is a great cautionary tale for young women to absolutely not try and settle down with a young guy. He's going to get bored, blame her for all his problems so he can shag someone else behind her back with no remorse. Also yet another reason never to accept an ex back into your life. Pretty much this guy is going to pretend nothing happened and allow his gf to think he's somehow a decent person. Awful. Edited December 19, 2015 by Buddhist 1
soph-walker Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Nice try, but I would use logic and try to understand what has actually happened. What has led to the situation of her not being content with me, and making my final decision based on the present situation rather than the past. I smell BS. If you genuinely care about a partner and are deep in love (especially after being with them 7 years) I would defy you not to get angry or at the very least feel angry and hurt/rejected on the inside despite whether or not you were able to act rationally after finding out you've been cheated on several times. You come across as an utter narcissist. The fact you have justified the reason you knowingly and willingly cheated on your long term partner is disgusting. I doubt if your friends and family knew, they would see the 'rationality' you have spouted. I don't know how you sleep at night!
Buddhist Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 I smell BS. You come across as an utter narcissist. The fact you have justified the reason you knowingly and willingly cheated on your long term partner is disgusting. I doubt if your friends and family knew, they would see the 'rationality' you have spouted. I don't know how you sleep at night! Agreed. If he wanted to be a decent person he would admit his mistake to his actual girlfriend and give her the opportunity to make an informed decision about her relationship. But he's not interested in consequences and instead just wants to congratulate himself on being so great and return to a relationship he so casually trashed. If this is any indication of how men think, no wonder women are becoming increasingly uninterested in them. 1
fitnessfan365 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 It's BS everyone. There's an article here from a female POV saying the EXACT same thing : I Cheated on My Boyfriend and Feel a Lot Better! All this guy did was flip it to go from a male POV.
PrettyEmily77 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 It's BS everyone. There's an article here from a female POV saying the EXACT same thing : I Cheated on My Boyfriend and Feel a Lot Better! All this guy did was flip it to go from a male POV. Thanks FF. The worst thing is that it actually happens IRL though, both genders are equally guilty of that kind of thing. A bit depressing, really...
soph-walker Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 It's BS everyone. There's an article here from a female POV saying the EXACT same thing : I Cheated on My Boyfriend and Feel a Lot Better! All this guy did was flip it to go from a male POV. What a complete time waster, OP. I can't fathom what you'd be hoping to achieve in posting this!
Leucine Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 I smell BS. If you genuinely care about a partner and are deep in love (especially after being with them 7 years) I would defy you not to get angry or at the very least feel angry and hurt/rejected on the inside despite whether or not you were able to act rationally after finding out you've been cheated on several times. You come across as an utter narcissist. The fact you have justified the reason you knowingly and willingly cheated on your long term partner is disgusting. I doubt if your friends and family knew, they would see the 'rationality' you have spouted. I don't know how you sleep at night! First of all, I'm not the OP. If you get so upset over things you read on the internet that you fail to address the correct person in reply, I don't doubt that you would have anger issues upon finding out that your ego has been dealt the blow of being cheated on. Secondly, I have learnt to expect the worst. I have had women treat me far more negligiently than just getting some strange dick on the side. At this point, I would take such things as little more than a learning experience. Thirdly, my family DOES know that I have cheated. They don't look at me any differently for it, but I appreciate your concern, anyway.
soph-walker Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 First of all, I'm not the OP. If you get so upset over things you read on the internet that you fail to address the correct person in reply, I don't doubt that you would have anger issues upon finding out that your ego has been dealt the blow of being cheated on. Secondly, I have learnt to expect the worst. I have had women treat me far more negligiently than just getting some strange dick on the side. At this point, I would take such things as little more than a learning experience. Thirdly, my family DOES know that I have cheated. They don't look at me any differently for it, but I appreciate your concern, anyway. Don't mistake my disdain for concern..
PrettyEmily77 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 If you get so upset over things you read on the internet that you fail to address the correct person in reply, I don't doubt that you would have anger issues upon finding out that your ego has been dealt the blow of being cheated on. Probably one of the most callous lines I've ever read on this forum. 2
soph-walker Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Probably one of the most callous lines I've ever read on this forum. It's like water off a duck's back for me. In my opinion, cheating is ultimately wrong and should not be justified without remorse as has been done in this thread. My opinions are my own.
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