Lala454545 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 I had a great 1st date and said he wanted to c me again. He says he doesn't wait 3 days to text and that's games and he's a real man. He kissed me and held my hand and said he wanted to see me and asked me twice if I wanted to. I said yes. I texted after the date to say I had fun. It's day 2 and he hasn't texted me and he's online dating. Is he playing with me and not interested?
d0nnivain Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 He may be but then again it's the Holidays & everyone has very little time this time of year. As much as you'd like this to work out & go smoothly, just let it go & stop staring at the phone. There are too many variables for us to give you meaningful insight based on limited info.
Xiomn Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 He may be but then again it's the Holidays & everyone has very little time this time of year. It's a text, how much time do you need? Let me answer that for you: 5 seconds.
d0nnivain Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 It's a text, how much time do you need? Let me answer that for you: 5 seconds. If your mind is on the 76 directions in which you are being pulled, that 5 seconds may be too much at this time of year. Between Thanksgiving & the Monday after New Years you never really know what other people have on their plates.
katiegrl Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 (edited) I had a great 1st date and said he wanted to c me again. He says he doesn't wait 3 days to text and that's games and he's a real man. He kissed me and held my hand and said he wanted to see me and asked me twice if I wanted to. I said yes. I texted after the date to say I had fun. It's day 2 and he hasn't texted me and he's online dating. Is he playing with me and not interested? Any man who tells you on the first date he's a *real* man.... probably isn't. That alone would have turned me off. I mean who says that? And what constitutes a *real* man anyway? What an odd thing to say...especially on a first date. And yes, if he is not too busy to be back on line, then he is not too busy to send a 5 second reply to your text. My take? He is full of crap .... next! Like is too short. Edited December 19, 2015 by katiegrl 3
KatZee Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Stop being so needy. Be unavailable. This is terrible. Wanting to hear from a guy you had a great date with is needy? Be unavailable? Enough with the games. This is why dating is in the state it's in. No one is real anymore. Everyone's playing some sort of game. Guys need to act X sort of way, women need to act Y sort of way, and it's no wonder there's so much crap and confusion. You want to hear from him? Shoot him a text! It's already been studied that men would rather date a woman who acts INTERESTED in them, and not unavailable. Just don't be over the top. Shoot a simple message inviting him on a 2nd date. Say that you've wanted to check out [whatever restaurant/place you're into] if he'd like to join you. Then, leave it alone. 1
Popsicle Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 He's either not interested or he's got issues (which you don't want to deal with). He's probably one of those guys who's too sensitive.
katiegrl Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 OP already sent a text after the date thanking him and that she had fun. He never replied but is back on line. Texting again asking him out? = bad idea IMO. If he were interested, he would have replied back to her FIRST text. This isn't a game ....it's common sense.
KatZee Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 OP already sent a text after the date thanking him and that she had fun. He never replied but is back on line. Texting again asking him out? = bad idea IMO. If he were interested, he would have replied back to her FIRST text. This isn't a game ....it's common sense. Not every single male is the same. I had a date with a guy, and I played the "Let's be aloof and unavailable game." The guy did wind up texting me a few days later, and I had to make up some ridiculous BS reason for why I hadn't texted him after our date, and he made a comment of, "Oh so that's why I haven't heard from you. :p" Dating is a two way street. Not just for women to sit back and let men do all the leg work. Him not texting her is in NO WAY, shape or form, indicative of lack of interest. Some men DO want to see effort from the other side. Crazy, I know.
truth_seeker Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 (edited) Any man who tells you on the first date he's a *real* man.... probably isn't. That alone would have turned me off. I mean who says that? And what constitutes a *real* man anyway? What an odd thing to say...especially on a first date. And yes, if he is not too busy to be back on line, then he is not too busy to send a 5 second reply to your text. My take? He is full of crap .... next! Like is too short. 100% Agree. A real man doesn't need to tell women he's a "real man". Edited December 19, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Xiomn Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 (edited) If a girl texted me she had fun after a date and I felt the same way then I would have took ((((2)))) seconds out of my time to simply text 'Me too' While I don't want to jump to conclusions and give the impression he's not interested, because I'm realistic and I know my limits don't stretch to the ability to read a human beings mind, that's my perspective on it nevertheless. Edited December 19, 2015 by Xiomn 2
truth_seeker Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Dating is a two way street. Not just for women to sit back and let men do all the leg work. Him not texting her is in NO WAY, shape or form, indicative of lack of interest. Some men DO want to see effort from the other side. Crazy, I know. Yes, this is true, but with OP's guy he seems like a tool. He tells her to her face he will text her and he didn't. He's not a "real man" as advertised.
katiegrl Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 (edited) Not every single male is the same. I had a date with a guy, and I played the "Let's be aloof and unavailable game." The guy did wind up texting me a few days later, and I had to make up some ridiculous BS reason for why I hadn't texted him after our date, and he made a comment of, "Oh so that's why I haven't heard from you. :p" Dating is a two way street. Not just for women to sit back and let men do all the leg work. Him not texting her is in NO WAY, shape or form, indicative of lack of interest. Some men DO want to see effort from the other side. Crazy, I know. KZ I'm confused by your post. You say you played the aloof and unavailable game and did not text him after the date. That dating is a two-way street. I agree with you. However, the OP **DID** text him after the date, thanking him and telling him she had fun. So how is that *her* playing the *aloof and unavailable* game? Should she then text him **again**, after receiving no response back from him? How is that a two way street? Do you not think if he were interested, he would have, at the very least, *replied* to her text? Not understanding your rationale there ...can you clarify? Edited December 19, 2015 by katiegrl
xcupid Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 You want to hear from him? Shoot him a text! It's already been studied that men would rather date a woman who acts INTERESTED in them, and not unavailable. Just don't be over the top. Shoot a simple message inviting him on a 2nd date. Say that you've wanted to check out [whatever restaurant/place you're into] if he'd like to join you. Then, leave it alone. I wouldn't do this ^^. If he doesn't text you then he's not interested enough - although give him some leeway since it's Xmas time.
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