Lala454545 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 I keep going on first dates (from online apps.) They say I'm beautiful, kiss me, ask to see me again and I say yes. Then they never text me again and I see them back online dating. This has literally been the last 5 guys I have been on dates with. I only send a thank you I had fun text after the date. This keeps happening to me. Do they just all want to sleep with me?
Snakechammah Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Sometimes it's the one that comes on too strong that is the insincere one. Slow and steady wins the race! I wish you all the best with finding the right one. Don't be disheartened, he's out there somewhere!
brandon26003 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Could be that they're not ready to give up playing the field.
d0nnivain Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 OLD is apparently populated by flakes with GIGs. I'd assume anybody coming on strong is lying. 2
Hopeful30 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 I have no idea! Why go on a date if you're gonna flop anyways? My only guess would be they want YOU to do all the chasing, and once they see you're not the kinda girl they can get into bed easily right away, they move on to someone who is. That's the only thing my imagination can conjure, because that IS weird.
Ami1uwant Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Hard to say if there is a reason...each could have their own... 1 one of them didn't feel it for you 2. One had more interest in someone rose they were dating at the same time 3. Dome are players hoping to get something on that date. There are other reasons...
SwordofFlame Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 I keep going on first dates (from online apps.) They say I'm beautiful, kiss me, ask to see me again and I say yes. Then they never text me again and I see them back online dating. This has literally been the last 5 guys I have been on dates with. I only send a thank you I had fun text after the date. This keeps happening to me. Do they just all want to sleep with me? I would think they just want to sleep with you. Especially if these dates are from Tinder. 1
Popsicle Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 I think those initial feelings and excitement are true, but they get scared. Why they get scared is complicated, but not your problem. And yes OLD is filled with people like this. They can just move right onto the next stranger once they feel a slight scare. 1
katiegrl Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 I have no idea! **Why go on a date if you're gonna flop anyways?*** My only guess would be they want YOU to do all the chasing, and once they see you're not the kinda girl they can get into bed easily right away, they move on to someone who is. That's the only thing my imagination can conjure, because that IS weird. I think you go on a date to determine if there is an attraction, and if there is, you go on a second date, assuming the attraction is mutual. If no attraction, you move on to the next. What happened here though is that OP's dates led her to believe they felt an attraction by telling her she is beautiful, kissing her and asking her out again. Then they disappear never to be seen or heard from again. WTF. I dunno OP....apparently there are a lot of fickle guys out there who are full of crap. Perhaps they were hoping to get sex that night (with you initiating) and since you didn't offer yourself ...they decided to next you. But that is just a guess. From reading this board, apparently there are quite a few women out there who only want sex themselves, especially on Tinder. So maybe they were hoping you were one of those girls. Again, a guess. What apps did you meet them on? Tinder by any chance?
truth_seeker Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Anyone that comes on strong is usually fast to fade. Remember that. 2
katiegrl Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 I would think they just want to sleep with you. Especially if these dates are from Tinder. Read this after I posted my response.....but yeah this is most likely what happened.
Space Ritual Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Do they just all want to sleep with me? Yes. Girls want a lot of things from one guy. Conversely, Guys want one thing from a lot of girls. Sorry to be so blunt, but Online Dating Sites are the last place you are going to find the cream of the dating crop. Most men that populate those sites are desperate. On the flip side men tend to think automatically any females that are on those sites are equally desperate. I will state again what I have stated before.... We men have fragile egos, far more fragile than we will ever care to admit. We men also tend to have a skewed self view in that women are supposed to find even the most cretinous of us simply something that cannot be resisted. So when we get shot down we tend to just move n to the next piece of potential meat that comes up on their newsfeed. Please consider that your best chance of finding something long lasting and fulfilling will not be off of a dating site, but rather somebody you meet by happenstance in real life. 1
Popsicle Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Yes. Girls want a lot of things from one guy. Conversely, Guys want one thing from a lot of girls. Sorry to be so blunt, but Online Dating Sites are the last place you are going to find the cream of the dating crop. Most men that populate those sites are desperate. On the flip side men tend to think automatically any females that are on those sites are equally desperate. I will state again what I have stated before.... We men have fragile egos, far more fragile than we will ever care to admit. We men also tend to have a skewed self view in that women are supposed to find even the most cretinous of us simply something that cannot be resisted. So when we get shot down we tend to just move n to the next piece of potential meat that comes up on their newsfeed. Please consider that your best chance of finding something long lasting and fulfilling will not be off of a dating site, but rather somebody you meet by happenstance in real life. Yes this is the problem with OLD, it is completely contrived. The guys on there think that SOMETHING has to come out of this interaction they have with a woman or else he is a failure. And they know you as a woman are on a dating site to date, that's what the site is for, so this makes the guys extra neurotic about everything and the interactions are inorganic. In person none of this would happen.
oberkeat Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 (edited) Sorry to be so blunt, but Online Dating Sites are the last place you are going to find the cream of the dating crop. Please consider that your best chance of finding something long lasting and fulfilling will not be off of a dating site, but rather somebody you meet by happenstance in real life. I fully endorse these statements. Neither men nor women will meet anybody worth dating online. Yes this is the problem with OLD, it is completely contrived. The guys on there think that SOMETHING has to come out of this interaction they have with a woman or else he is a failure. And they know you as a woman are on a dating site to date, that's what the site is for, so this makes the guys extra neurotic about everything and the interactions are inorganic. In person none of this would happen. Before you lay it all on guys, let's be sure to acknowledge that women are not blameless. Far from it. A lot of women allow the endless options that online dating presents turn them into serial daters. They flutter from stranger to stranger, first date to first date, month after month, never settling on any of these guys, because they always think a better option is one swipe away. GIGs definitely. OLD doesn't bring out the either gender. Edited December 19, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Merge
katiegrl Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 I fully endorse these statements. Neither men nor women will meet anybody worth dating online. Before you lay it all on guys, let's be sure to acknowledge that women are not blameless. Far from it. A lot of women allow the endless options that online dating presents turn them into serial daters. They flutter from stranger to stranger, first date to first date, month after month, never settling on any of these guys, because they always think a better option is one swipe away. GIGs definitely. OLD doesn't bring out the either gender. First paragraph -- attended two weddings last summer -- both couples met ON-LINE. I know many other couples in LTR who met on-line also...one of whom is a poster on this board -- fitnessfan. It's just another venue to meet someone. Does not guarantee you will click, just like you won't click with everyone you meet IRL either. You get from it what you put in, and if you have a crap attitude about it, nothing ain't ever gonna happen ...just like it won't IRL either. 1
xcupid Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 He's looking for sex. You did the right thing in your followup text. If he disappears, then that says it all.
Glitters Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Many guys are looking for sex on first date. If they don't get that , they either try to get a feel from you , as to how long will it take to bed you. If they don't see any prospect in the quick future, they go to next. If they succeed on the first date, they will have a ' relationship 'with you till they find next target
xcupid Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Sorry to be so blunt, but Online Dating Sites are the last place you are going to find the cream of the dating crop. Most men that populate those sites are desperate. On the flip side men tend to think automatically any females that are on those sites are equally desperate. I will state again what I have stated before.... Please consider that your best chance of finding something long lasting and fulfilling will not be off of a dating site, but rather somebody you meet by happenstance in real life. Oh really?!?
LydiaLong Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Well maybe the guy DOES think she's beautiful and wants to kiss her. But maybe he also wants to see other beautiful women and kiss them also. Don't take it personally.
katiegrl Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 (edited) Well maybe the guy DOES think she's beautiful and wants to kiss her. But maybe he also wants to see other beautiful women and kiss them also. Don't take it personally. "Also" want to see other women? There is no "also"....they don't wish to see the OP at all after the first date.. So where does the *also* come in to play? They completely disappear after the first date...after telling her she is beautiful, kiss her, ask her out again. There is such a thing as multi-dating, many people believe in it until you become exclusive. Since they find her beautiful and are attracted, enough to kiss her and ask her again ..then why not continue to date *her* .... while still pursuing others ... until they become exclusive? Not understanding the complete disappearing act... when clearly they were attracted on the first date. Makes no sense, unless all he was after was sex, did not get it, and nexted her. Or wants her to chase. Boggles the mind. Edited December 19, 2015 by katiegrl
LydiaLong Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Men are more 'ecumenical' when it comes to dating. Women tend to want more one at a time.
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