Jackfrost Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 My girlfriend has never cheated on me or given me a reason not to trust her but lately she started sending these guys and girls pictures of her belly button and I'm not sure if I'm ok with that. On the internet there's this group of people with some kind of belly button fetish/fixation and they constantly exchange pictures of each others belly buttons. It's actually really creepy. These guys send her pictures of them poking their belly buttons, making them poke out like outies, sticking food and objects in them and asking her to do weird stuff with her belly button in pictures. I've found pictures in her phone of her poking her belly button and rubbing lotion in it. I didn't think she had anything for belly buttons but it seems like she does now. She doesn't hide this from me but doesn't tell me about it either. It bothers me because it's creepy and i think the people she sends these pictures to are getting off to them. I want to ask her to stop sending pictures and talking to these belly button freaks but I'm afraid she'll get mad. I mean she's never sent anything sexual or flirted. Advice? Should I ask her to stop or just not worry about it?
smackie9 Posted December 17, 2015 Posted December 17, 2015 Sounds weird but not harmful. This is where a fetish can make a relationship incompatible.....you don't share it with her so she is going to find others to share it with. This is what having a fetish is all about. I wouldn't stick with someone that had a fetish. I'm all for whatever floats your boat, but not with me.
Buddhist Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 I think you should rub some lotion on your bellybutton and take a pic and send it to her. Be sure to capture your treasure trail....she will be smitten. 2
soph-walker Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 She has been sending strangers on the internet pictures of her belly button and acceping pictures pf other peoples belly buttons! Yeah I'm serious. I think it's some kind of weird fetish because in some of the pictures she's poking it, rubbing lotion around in it, taking really up close shots.. She always goes to this chatroom and all she talks about with these people is FREAKING BELLY BUTTONS AND WHAT THEY WANT TO DO WITH THEM!!!! She's never sent or received actual nudes but i feel cheated on!! How do i confront her about it? Should i even worry about it? She doesn't put any effort into hiding it from me but she doesn't ever talk to me about it. How have you found this out?
wb1988 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 (edited) How have you found this out?I hope you weren't planning on turning this around on him. Who cares how he found out because obviously he was right to snoop, or did you expect him to just do nothing and somehow find out without snooping (i.e. when it's already too late)? So her thing is belly buttons. Maybe it's a little sexual and maybe it's pretty weird but I don't think it's a big deal as long as it doesn't develop into something more. I'd just give her a pass on this bro, consider yourself lucky that all you have to worry about is a belly button. Edited December 19, 2015 by wb1988 1
soph-walker Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 I hope you weren't planning on turning this around on him. Who cares how he found out because obviously he was right to snoop, or did you expect him to just do nothing and somehow find out without snooping (i.e. when it's already too late)? So her thing is belly buttons. Maybe it's a little sexual and maybe it's pretty weird but I don't think it's a big deal as long as it doesn't develop into something more. I'd just give her a pass on this bro, consider yourself lucky that all you have to worry about is a belly button. I was curious to find out how the OP found this out about someone he's close to, perfectly normal question if you ask me;)
Author Jackfrost Posted December 19, 2015 Author Posted December 19, 2015 I found out by looking in her phone. We look at each others phones all the time but mostly out of boredom not distrust. I saw all her belly pics and the ones she received and conversations she was having
soph-walker Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 I found out by looking in her phone. We look at each others phones all the time but mostly out of boredom not distrust. I saw all her belly pics and the ones she received and conversations she was having Ah ok, I wasn't sure how this could have surfaced to your attention. I think if you are comfortable lookig at each other's phones all the time, then she can't be doing anything untoward with pics of belly buttons, or else they'd have been hidden out of sight and inaccessible to you. It's quite an unusual one, I've never heard of a belly button fetish before. I guess if it exists (whatever it is..) there will be a fetish for it! I'd maybe gently broach the subject to see her reaction, seeing as you saw the evidence in full on her phone?
io2iio Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 You dont confront her. You walk way and start flirting with a hottie right infront of her. Jealousy is evil but is required in this case. Or simply you can walk away and go find a woman who is worthy of you.
Samhain Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Seems weird she has a fetish that she obviously isn't hiding from you, but doesn't discuss with you either. You should just straight up ask her about it. It's making you uncomfortable and for that reason alone you need to tell her that. I don't think "dumping" is necessary, at this point, but her answers to your questions will tell you everything you need to know with regards to where to go from there. Just say to her exactly what you've said here, that you saw the pictures, and you're wondering what the hell's going on because she's never discussed this with you. And if it's something she's into sexually, you would prefer she involved you rather than sending and receiving pictures from strangers because it's making you uncomfortable. You really never do know until you ask.
wb1988 Posted December 21, 2015 Posted December 21, 2015 I found out by looking in her phone. We look at each others phones all the time but mostly out of boredom not distrust. I saw all her belly pics and the ones she received and conversations she was having Where there any conversations that involve anything outside belly buttons, i.e. a guy mentioning his dick? Seems weird she has a fetish Everything is 'weird' to people that don't share the same interest. I have a friend that thinks I'm weird because I'm not into feet (women's feet) LOL. Also there's a chance that the fetish isn't even sexual.
Author Jackfrost Posted December 23, 2015 Author Posted December 23, 2015 In my last post i talked about how my girlfriend sends strangers on the internet pictures of her belly button and talks about belly button play with these people. Some freaky fetish! I told her i didn't like it and she said she would stop but she still does it in secret. I found out by looking at her internet history. She has sent this guy a bunch of pictures of her belly button from different angles and sometimes with her finger in it. He tells her he wants to lick and play with it. He also told her that she should learn how to turn it into an outie and pour hot candle wax on it because it "feels soooooo good." I'm going to print out the conversation and confront her with it. Is this a good idea? I'm real sick of my girlfriend going behind my back to have some freaky belly button fetish with random strangers.
bathtub-row Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 I wouldn't confront her at all. I would just tell her that you are no longer interested in continuing the relationship, and break up with her. There's no law that says you have to have a reason, or explain yourself. When a significant other does things behind your back - especially after you've already discussed it - the time for conversation is over. Just leave. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 I don't think confronting her will make much difference. You already know she is a liar. Break up with her. She will know why.
AspenBaldwin Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 Get a sharp q-tip and stab her in her navel.
Toodaloo Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 There really is no point in carrying on. Just tell her its over and find someone who isn't going to go behind your back like this...
CalvinM Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 Print it out and tape it to the fridge. Then tell her you ****ed her sister.
d0nnivain Posted December 23, 2015 Posted December 23, 2015 Your plan to print out the conversation & confront her with it, will bring things to a conclusion but not the way you want. Your relationship will end in a big dramatic ball of fire & she will spend the rest of her life thinking that you are a jerk. Your relationship is going to end anyway because her behavior is unacceptable to you & it should end for that reason but extracting a pound of flesh by being mean to her is not the best resolution. You can share with her that you know she lied to you about stopping & you probably should tell her that the behavior compounded by the lies is what is making you break up with her but there is really no need to be hateful about the whole thing. She is who she is & you can't change her.
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