smackie9 Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 Quick confidence trick: before asking a girl out, privately in front of a mirror, do a victory pose, raise those arms up like you won a race. It should psychologically give you a confidence boost. They say doing this before you ask for a promotion, but I'm sure you can apply this for most anything you are about to do.
Author Vilgefoz Posted December 20, 2015 Author Posted December 20, 2015 Quick confidence trick: before asking a girl out, privately in front of a mirror, do a victory pose, raise those arms up like you won a race. It should psychologically give you a confidence boost. They say doing this before you ask for a promotion, but I'm sure you can apply this for most anything you are about to do. Yes. A good tip for guys lacking balls I usually take a deep breath and simply, let all thoughts off my head. Works 100% time. The same before fight.
Author Vilgefoz Posted December 20, 2015 Author Posted December 20, 2015 By being myself. I would be devastated (just a joke ) 1
DoesntGetIt Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 Just a quick question for ideas: How do you gather confidence when around girls? That is, what makes you feel strong and confident? Like you are good enough for her and valuable asset in her life? Tips, opinions please? Remember that it doesn't matter. If you strike out there will be plenty of others. So just go for it, be yourself, and see what happens.
Space Ritual Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 I would be devastated (just a joke ) LOL I know what you mean... 20 years ago I would have actually thought if I was myself there was no hope at all. But I just try to be happy with myself and not try to worry about what others' perception is of me, unless they are giving me a paycheck. then its different, otherwise, **** em:)
RBLL Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 Just a quick question for ideas: How do you gather confidence when around girls? That is, what makes you feel strong and confident? Like you are good enough for her and valuable asset in her life? Tips, opinions please? I can relate. Seeing how it's a multi-million dollar industry (tons of books, websites and DVD courses), don't feel like you're alone. I've tried a lot of them. It's not like you can just ask a guy who's successful at dating to teach you how. I was married almost all my life, but now I need to learn how to do the singles thing. I've been preparing for 2 years, and I even bought a Harley. So now I'm "Grandpa the biker" I was lucky enough to find a lady friend who understands and has been teaching me how it works, how to flirt and approach girls and what to expect. 2016 will be my year to "get out there". My advice would be to find a girl to mentor you and boost you up. Most of the books say "fake it till you make it". Sounds impossible, but it is what it is. Good luck! 1
carhill Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 Men: how do you gather confidence? Overcoming fears.
crederer Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 Just a quick question for ideas: How do you gather confidence when around girls? That is, what makes you feel strong and confident? Like you are good enough for her and valuable asset in her life? Tips, opinions please? By not caring what they think (about you/me)
alphamale Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 yes, together with gym there is something about it. I presume you are woman? no, Art_Critic is a boy 1
fitnessfan365 Posted December 22, 2015 Posted December 22, 2015 (edited) Self confidence in general goes a long way. But being selective and ignoring looks is the best way IMO. I mean of course you're going to notice every time you're around a hot girl. But would you actually want to spend time with her? Many women you'll come into contact with, won't make you want to get to know them on a deeper level. Once you can start focusing on women whose company you actually enjoy in that moment and have the confidence to act w/them, you'll be a lot happier. I'll give you an example. My GF is a hair stylist and we went to her work X-Mas party recently. Pretty much all of her co-workers are insanely hot. But when you listen to their conversations with each other, and talk with them, it's like watching paint dry. If I was single, I wouldn't have wanted to go on a date w/a single one of them regardless of how physically attractive they were. Yet some guys will suffer through it, just to hit and quit w/a hot girl. So before you stress over every hot girl in your proximity, just start out trying to have conversations w/people. Then if you meet one you actually enjoy talking to, that's when you have confidence that she enjoyed talking w/you as well and don't beat around the bush. Edited December 22, 2015 by fitnessfan365 1
Author Vilgefoz Posted December 22, 2015 Author Posted December 22, 2015 no, Art_Critic is a boy I truly appreciate you give yourself the effort and introduce me background of some members. I like you
Author Vilgefoz Posted December 22, 2015 Author Posted December 22, 2015 (edited) Self confidence in general goes a long way. But being selective and ignoring looks is the best way IMO. I mean of course you're going to notice every time you're around a hot girl. But would you actually want to spend time with her? Many women you'll come into contact with, won't make you want to get to know them on a deeper level. Once you can start focusing on women whose company you actually enjoy in that moment and have the confidence to act w/them, you'll be a lot happier. I'll give you an example. My GF is a hair stylist and we went to her work X-Mas party recently. Pretty much all of her co-workers are insanely hot. But when you listen to their conversations with each other, and talk with them, it's like watching paint dry. If I was single, I wouldn't have wanted to go on a date w/a single one of them regardless of how physically attractive they were. Yet some guys will suffer through it, just to hit and quit w/a hot girl. So before you stress over every hot girl in your proximity, just start out trying to have conversations w/people. Then if you meet one you actually enjoy talking to, that's when you have confidence that she enjoyed talking w/you as well and don't beat around the bush. Yes, completely agree. Once the mask of "maiden I crave for" is out and underneath there is a human being, it's much much easier to be yourself (not always though... sometimes you encounter person who's personality makes you even more anxious ) The case you described is far from the worst . I heard conversation of some fairy pretty women and it was all rubbish talk and gossip about people and things around them. I could not even smell that people any more... Some are just... horrible. Hateful, resentful, envious,... The problem is that for example just a few days ago I wrote message to one woman I knew from before... We were on a date, there was no chemistry but I really really like her personality. I sent her a message how is she doing, but... she gave me brief hallo and that's it. Damnit, I can't even make friends. And it makes me uneasy too. She is like " I don't want you around me" and I am like "Why? What did I do? I am not asking for anything. Just like your persona." Silly.... :/ Edited December 22, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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