Metty Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 It is devastating to see someone you love love someone else. I am trying to cope with this pain right now. Me and this guy dated for a half year, he is a former player and had just left another girl for me when we met. During the time we dated it was great but he was talking to other girls and I figured it's okay because he's not my boyfriend and I was keeping my options open too. We continue dating as usual and then drifted away when it came to that point about commitment. I drifted away from him and we didn't communicate. Any guy would've left but he would still check up on me and ask me how come I'm not contacting him that much anymore. I felt like I was dating two guys one that was so sweet and loyal and another one that was a player. What we had turned into something sexual and little did I know back then was that he began to look for another girl and quickly found one. He continued texting me anyway until I tell him that we can't continue sleeping with each other the way we did. When I told him that I like him it was too late because he was already seeing her. He didn't think I liked him because I drifted away, HE could've told me? I didn't want to leave but in my opinion he blew it especially because he was flirting with an ex meanwhile we were seeing each other. So he tried getting back at me and would check up on me anyways and one day he just stops. Suddenly he has a girlfriend and it's the girl he had been seeing while we were heading towards the end. He has a girlfriend. Just like that. Yes I left him but I feel so hurt and angry. I spent months dating a guy and it was not worth it in the end and then everything feels like my fault because according to him I didn't seem interested.. So he just assumed and finds another girl instead? I never would've drifted away from him if he hadn't been such a player in the beginning, I would've given him all of me. Despite all this I really really liked him but now I feel so heartbroken mostly because I thought there was a chance. What the hell actually happened?
d0nnivain Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 You said it yourself, he is (was?) a player. This leopard wasn't ready to change his spots. Think of it as fun while it lasted but nothing more. 1
Polar965 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 I get it. I broke up with a guy I liked a lot but there were multiple layers of issues. He started dating someone right away. Even though I knew it was done it made me jealous, sad. Not making sense. I'm dating someone now but there are still feelings for him. It will fade with time I know. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 There's nothing former about this player. Someday you will be glad he's not your problem anymore.
KatZee Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 How do you come to the conclusion that he is a former player? He was with someone, and dumped them for you. He dumped you, for someone else. Nothing former about this. I'm not quite sure why you're shocked that he replaced you so quickly. He did the same to another girl. Words of wisdom: If it happens WITH you, it's going to happen TO you. Lesson learned. 3
Author Metty Posted December 19, 2015 Author Posted December 19, 2015 I get it. I broke up with a guy I liked a lot but there were multiple layers of issues. He started dating someone right away. Even though I knew it was done it made me jealous, sad. Not making sense. I'm dating someone now but there are still feelings for him. It will fade with time I know. I feel exactly the same way.
Author Metty Posted December 19, 2015 Author Posted December 19, 2015 How do you come to the conclusion that he is a former player? He was with someone, and dumped them for you. He dumped you, for someone else. Nothing former about this. I'm not quite sure why you're shocked that he replaced you so quickly. He did the same to another girl. Words of wisdom: If it happens WITH you, it's going to happen TO you. Lesson learned. No I dumped him. I knew because I've seen before I knew him. I've heard it long time ago but I was thinking he has grown up. He probably had a back up girl by the time I pulled away, that's my guess. Agreed that lesson is learn, I'm trying to deal with the anger and jealousy.. Also feeling hurt.
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