Amelie1980 Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 Someone who has a better understanding of Facebook algorithms, explain this to me. Ex who caused a lot of pain in 2013, we were never friends on Facebook. He used to show up on my people you may know list as I had his number and email in my phone. After break up he was blocked every where. I deleted his email address, his number as well as blocking. His dad has just showed up on people you may know. Wtf?! I didn't even know his dad well I never had his dad's number or email. I was never friends with his son on Facebook. How the F does facebook do this? It doesn't show you people who have looked at you does it?
Samhain Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 I'm not 100% but I think it goes by mutual friends. Even distant ones like if his dad is on the list of someone who is a mutual friend of a friend on your list.
Author Amelie1980 Posted December 18, 2015 Author Posted December 18, 2015 I'm not 100% but I think it goes by mutual friends. Even distant ones like if his dad is on the list of someone who is a mutual friend of a friend on your list. No mutual friends either......ive been thru it.
ExpatInItaly Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 It doesn't indicate people who've viewed your profile. I think it's more likely that Facebook saved some old data (ie from when he your ex used to show up on it)
Wewon Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 I've wondered about this myself, I have seen people who I have never met, know or otherwise had any interaction with show up under the "People you may know" thingy. My best guess is that there must be a series of commonalities that can trigger it: Mutual friendsSame groupsSame hometownSame collegeInterest in similar pages etc. Everyone that shows up seems to fit into the list some way shape or form.
Samhain Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 No mutual friends either......ive been thru it. I mean you may have a mutual friend with somebody who is not on your list, who has his dad on their list, so it's very distant, but Facebook is run on data, a machine, which constantly throws up suggestions no matter how distant. Also as someone said above, same town or city or something.
Author Amelie1980 Posted December 18, 2015 Author Posted December 18, 2015 (edited) I've wondered about this myself, I have seen people who I have never met, know or otherwise had any interaction with show up under the "People you may know" thingy. My best guess is that there must be a series of commonalities that can trigger it: Mutual friendsSame groupsSame hometownSame collegeInterest in similar pages etc. Everyone that shows up seems to fit into the list some way shape or form. The only commonality is same hometown. But same hometown is a major capital city with millions of people living in it. That is one hell of a coincidence. I keep my Facebook profile simple. I dont list my colleges, etc. There's nothing to link me up to. Edited December 18, 2015 by Amelie1980
Samhain Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 The only commonality is same hometown. But same hometown is a major capital city with millions of people living in it. That is one hell of a coincidence. Ok this is all I can find about it.. Facebook does not randomly suggest friends. It has a very clever algorithm that does the job. Facebook is a savvy data miner. High school connections are a favorite tool among its young demographic, which is why high school friends often pop up. You can guard your privacy and not list any high school information on the site but if your sister has listed her high school stats, Facebook’s scrupulous data crawler will make the connection. As many of us have discovered, it is hard to hide from Facebook. The most obvious source of friend connections is your current friends. Facebook will narrow in on the friends with whom you have the most friends in common. It is more likely that you will have even more common chums between you, and once nudged, you will want to befriend them too. Facebook may connect you to other users through online activities including tagged photos, wall posts, likes, comments and chats. The friend suggestions can be far flung. If someone in your hiking club sends a tagged photo of a group hike to his friends, Sven from the Swiss Mountaineers club may pop up. Advertisers love these connections among people with shared interests and ‘likes.’ Facebook has to use public information. That is why you will see friend suggestions pop up related to school, work, groups and associations. Online, it tracks your location, interests and likes. People you search for- this history can be deleted, it is part of your activity log People who search for you Being tagged in a friend's photo or album with other people in it Large number of mutual friends Network affiliation (school, work, city) Group affiliation Attending the same event Friends of connected social media accounts Associated email addresses and phone numbers from your mobile (only if you use the Facebook mobile app and allow access to your contacts) Your email addresses or phone numbers are saved in someone else's mobile AND you associated your phone number and email addresses with your profile Friends of people you have blocked Opting to upload your email contacts by temporarily providing FaceBook your login and password to an email account.
Author Amelie1980 Posted December 18, 2015 Author Posted December 18, 2015 That's ridiculous. It must be friends of people I have blocked. Why would friends of people I dont want to be in touch with? Well Im not unblocking my ex! But if i block his dad it may throw up loads more people connected to both of them.
Wewon Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 The only commonality is same hometown. But same hometown is a major capital city with millions of people living in it. That is one hell of a coincidence. I keep my Facebook profile simple. I dont list my colleges, etc. There's nothing to link me up to. I've seen the same thing. I've had some shirtless dude with gold chains and stacks of cash in each hand as a profile picture looked to be in his early-mid 20s, nothing in common. Turns out, we lived in the same city at one point. I think that they just throw a lot stuff out there and hope that something sticks. 1
Samhain Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 They are only suggestions.. Nobody can reach out of their profile picture and stab you or anything. And as long as they aren't added to your list then it's all good. I get that it's unnerving, especially when it's the people you want to see least, but that's what goes with social media. With the way Facebook and other social media sites are fine tuning their search criteria, things like this are going to happen more and more often.
Author Amelie1980 Posted December 18, 2015 Author Posted December 18, 2015 I know, no harm done. But just when you think you've seen the last of an ex. Suddenly it's all there again...the reminder.
Meli22 Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 My ex is constantly on my people you may know page. I'm guessing it's because we were both linked on there, had a lot of pictures together etc. I don't know. I just scroll past it, no harm done.
Chronotrgr Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 Whenever a government wants you to think and act in a certain way, they list your ex boyfriend's father as someone you may know on Facebook, they know all this ****, they want you to fry your brain and take it to the next shrink you can find, they want that money, its what it's all about!. Or maybe it's just a Facebook thing that your over thinking?, either way, don't think about it, doesn't even matter.
Blanco Posted December 19, 2015 Posted December 19, 2015 I know it's tough, but for your sake, you really need to stop looking for ways to still be connected to this guy. Whether or not he may have looked at your profile is irrelevant. You've said yourself he's a cheater, so stop looking for ways to still have some sort of tie to him.
Author Amelie1980 Posted December 19, 2015 Author Posted December 19, 2015 (edited) I know it's tough, but for your sake, you really need to stop looking for ways to still be connected to this guy. Whether or not he may have looked at your profile is irrelevant. You've said yourself he's a cheater, so stop looking for ways to still have some sort of tie to him. Au-contraire. I don't want any ties to him. That is why he is blocked everywhere. He caused me alot of pain and it was the most painful break up i have ever had. I never want to see or speak or have any contact with him ever again. I have even thrown away the gifts he gave me as I dont want any reminders. I have put him out of my life. Last week he showed up as an new instagram contact and this week his dad shows up as a potential contact on facebook. I hate seeing anything to do with him as it brings it all back when I have done my best to erase him. I dont want any random reminders of him. That's why i am annoyed. I'm not enjoying this or wanting any connection. I literally dont want to see anything. You might be confusing exes. I speak of two on here. This ex I really want nothing to do with as he hurt me so badly. I have another one where he was an azzhole but not like this one. Edited December 20, 2015 by Amelie1980
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