i.am.donna.kay Posted June 1, 2005 Posted June 1, 2005 This guy contacted me through a personals service. We were both really busy at the time so it took about a month for us to meet etc. We did and it was like fireworks....he's calling me two and three times a day...coming to see me every day....(we live close by) he says he wants a relationship. This went on for a month. We are both in very similiar circumstances in previous marriages except I had been through a little more of the game playing and rejection crap. We dont have our divorces yet and he says he was deeply in love with her, she left, wiped him out, no explanation except bull. Anyway, so we are really into each other....then he works a saturday....doesnt tell me that he is working all night....and that I wont hear from him. So I am waiting all night to hear from him. I freak at some point and tell him to forget it, voice mail...all I could think about was how my ex had done me...messing around (leaving me on a string so he could do what he wanted with his ex) and it felt so familiar, it felt like the same treatment. No call, no notion of what is going on....I had no idea he was working until 2 am. He claims he told me he was working late (late, yeah, like 7 or 8 is working late, not all night without a call or a clue). Anyway, so now we are totally not speaking. I got really tired of hearing about what I had done (several im's back and forth), and nothing about what I had felt so I finally told him that we should quit sniping at each other and leave each other alone. I was out of town for 6 days with nothing from him and just wondering if I should Im or email him to see if he wants to talk. Any advice?
seagirl Posted June 1, 2005 Posted June 1, 2005 How about not punishing him for the mistakes of others?
Author i.am.donna.kay Posted June 1, 2005 Author Posted June 1, 2005 yeah, but I kinda think that was a mutual thing .....I can accept I did take it out on him .....but I think he did too.....so do I ask him if he wants to talk?.....or do I just let it go? That is my question...I think we are in a very similiar situation here...I understand how he feels....not so sure he does....or that he wants to talk or should I just guard my own feelings and let him go....He is the one that wasnt upfront about his schedule and I think he should have been. Or am I mistaken that I should have been told? Thats kinda of crazy....he was pretty jerky about that.
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