Mikau Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 Seeing as I've had a date off of Tinder coming up tomorrow made me think (and this should apply to my forays into OLD in general I think). The pictures I have up (both on Tinder and my OkC profile) are between 6 and 15 months old. By and large I still look the same, but in the last few weeks I've been growing a little beard/goatee action. I know how much everybody dislikes it when people misrepresent themselves in their pictures, how would people feel about this? In general terms, what would constitute acceptable 'misrepresentation'? Facial hair, different hair do, piercings/tattoos? Note that I'm not intentionally misrepresenting myself, I just haven't had a chance to take new pictures, because the pictures I like of myself are few and far between I really need to take time out of my day to get those pictures sorted.
basil67 Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 A small amount of facial hair wouldn't shock me. But if you turn up with a full hipster beard when I was expecting clean shaven, it may be a shock. That being said, I don't judge by appearance.
Erik30 Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 You could add in your bio that you're currently growing a beard if you want to be clear, but I don't think it's a big deal. Unacceptable to me, would be things like putting up really old pictures, obvious weight gain/loss, if she has a buzzcut but uses photos of her with long hair, etc.
MoreAmore Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 A small amount of facial hair wouldn't shock me. But if you turn up with a full hipster beard when I was expecting clean shaven, it may be a shock. That being said, I don't judge by appearance. I normally don't judge by appearances but I'd be annoyed by a clean shaven guy showing up with a full hipster beard because that is one thing I absolutely despise and won't date a guy who has that. (I know it's not my right to tell him how to keep his face, so I'd know I could never ask him to shave it, so I'd want to just not waste our time going out to begin with if that's the fashion he is feeling. If a guy showed up with a well trimmed, well maintained short beard or goatee, I'd be surprised but it wouldn't be a big deal. It's easy enough to get a friend to take one photo and throw it in your profile to cover your bases, though. If you need that many to get one okay for your profile, I'd be concerned about misrepresentation anyhow!
AspenBaldwin Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 A little beard is ok: it tickles. But too much of it could mean one is dating Santa.
Redfisher Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 A little beard is ok: it tickles. But too much of it could mean one is dating Santa. Ho Ho ho...Merry Christmas.... 1
hippychick3 Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 That happens frequently, and never bothered me when I was online dating. I think my bf's picture was clean-shaven and when we met, he had what you described going on. It didn't affect my attraction and I didn't care that he looked different. It's the guys who post pics from high school/20 pounds and 20 years ago that are misrepresenting themselves.
Standard-Fare Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 Take a quick selfie with the facial hair and label it with a date. Simple as that. I think it's a good idea to label ALL pics with a date, like "Winter 2015" or whatever. If a photo's months/years old it's best to be upfront about that. I can't believe how many guys will post college pics of themselves when they're pushing 30. 1
PegNosePete Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 Just take a pic with the fluff (not in the bathroom mirror), and label it to make it apparent that that's your current appearance. Problem solved.
Gaeta Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 Take a selfie and post it. With everything at our disposal to make quick pictures you have no excuse for having 18 months old pictures on line. Each time I create an online profile I take new pictures.
Author Mikau Posted December 18, 2015 Author Posted December 18, 2015 I get told all the time my photos don't do me justice, and that I look much better in person. Personally I hate getting my pictures taken and I look absolutely cringeworthy in a lot of them (think Chandler when he and Monica get their pictures taken). So I agree with the sentiment (no excuse for pictures that old), I know that if I don't want to put potential dates off more than I potentially already am, I really need to take some time to get new pictures.
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