MoreAmore Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 If mental illness manifests well into a relationship, at what point do you leave and what point do you stay either to support the person or because the person says they want to stay if you have the mental illness?
carhill Posted December 18, 2015 Posted December 18, 2015 IMO, too many variables to apply any general conclusions. However, I do have some tangential experience as a caregiver, not of a spouse but rather a parent and, boy, it was tough eight years. During the process I do recall telling my now exW to watch carefully because that was how I'd take care of her if such misfortune would befall her. I saw many examples of such behaviors from spouses I ran into at the locked facility my mom went to when I could no longer care for her in the last couple years. Would I do it again, for a spouse? I think a lot would turn on whether or not I ever want to have a spouse again. Right now, that's a no. Too much time dwelling on care for other people. Now, before the grim reaper comes, is my time.
Els Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 I'd stay if they were actively seeking treatment and doing their best to manage it. Would not stay otherwise. Depends on how severe the illness is, of course. If it came to the point where he was being violent and my safety was in danger, I wouldn't stay no matter what.
casey.lives Posted December 20, 2015 Posted December 20, 2015 It comes down to childrearing and childbearing to me. If in anyway shape or form, your mental issues hamper or could hamper my kids.. im in serious revision. Marriage is the only thing i honor.. not a "relationship". If we crossed that line, then im in for life.
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